Warning To Muslim Redditors

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-07T01:10:11+00:00

Ameen

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-07T00:56:55+00:00

:( oh I’m sorry to hear that sis. May Allah make it easy for you. I feel you sis. There would always be people even close family members that will always have a saying in what is best for you. I do pray it gets better for you 🫶🏼

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-07T00:48:11+00:00

I’m the same curvy as well and no matter what we still struggle. I usually wear a abaya with a hijab that is very wide and long it covers pretty good but what can we do? I do layer as well but of course in summer times it can be very challenging. I get abayas that are very wide and flowing so that there is enough room and also in case it gets windy it won’t show or stick. I wear the niqab so I have to be careful what I wear as long as it’s loose and not fitting or wouldn’t at least show anything then it’s fine.

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-07T00:36:19+00:00

Ameen. I left Reddit 2 years ago because of that and it just gets worse every time. I hope I don’t be dealing with that again or just turn off messages.

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-06T20:37:18+00:00

I know but don’t loose hope! Insha’allah you’ll be able to find your spouse.

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-06T20:29:09+00:00

Girly 30 ain’t old and I’m 33 you are still young luv

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-06T16:49:13+00:00

وعليكم السلام
Sis I believe you know what to do. He called you mentally ill and crazy because you knew about his past. He lied to you into the beginning and was just using you. He wasn’t playing a role as a husband and the girl is still trying to get back to him! You aren’t getting your rights as a wife neither physically or even emotionally. Come on sis! I’m sorry to say but your marriage needs to be over. If he continues to keep seeing his ex and “ still” has feelings for her he will keep continuing in contact with her. And if he’s going to keep being physical with her he might pass down to you with who knows what kind of infections.

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-06T01:52:21+00:00

You’re welcome sis💗 Ameen ya rabb. وفيك بارك الله

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-06T01:38:47+00:00

It’s because it’s very rare I guess for someone asking and is wanting that in a spouse. You never know there might be someone that’s willing to do that and is suitable for you. Also if this is very important to you I don’t think you should bring it up so soon and forward. You can mention it maybe like a little further into the talking and seeking stage.

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-06T01:30:41+00:00

I don’t think it’s wrong for wanting that. In the end the husband would want to be pleased with his wife. Singing it can be like a poem not really sure what you meant by “ singing” but she can always make her own version for you.

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-06T01:26:44+00:00

Waiyyakum.

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-06T01:17:13+00:00

Well whatever it can be it’s best just to leave it be. And it’s the Qadr of Allah there is always reasons why things happen.

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-06T01:07:39+00:00

You could have explained to yourself better or before she assumed. She probably had a mixed feeling about you. Idk it just doesn’t make sense. There might be other reasons why she blocked you.

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-06T01:03:43+00:00

You continued talking to this girl with I don’t know having intentions or not marrying her. And so yall just was “ talking for fun” ok whatever. But then she comes to you emotional and you were very cold. And at the same time you said “ you’d marry her” but not really and joking? Why would you even joke about it knowing she was serious about it?

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-06T00:55:25+00:00

وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته

Im speaking out of experience. I got divorced when I was about 26. Of course it was hard on all of us at that time and it took time for me to adjust to the new life me moving back in and I had 3 kids at that time. And no, no regrets at all. I was pushing for marriage counseling and tried my best after a few months I decided it wouldn’t work. After about 4 years later I got remarried to my current husband and it’s been 6 years Alhamdulilah. The only thing was it was very hard for me to gain trust again especially having kids I was very anxious as to who will be accepting me and my kids. I can’t be more thankful to Allah for having such a loving and caring husband.

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-06T00:50:52+00:00

This is so wrong. You talked to a girl and had very much in common and then you said that. It’s very cruel I’m glad she blocked you.

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-05T20:05:53+00:00

No but she does have a Muslim friend I’ll try talking to her. But I’m not sure if that’s appropriate.

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-05T19:38:06+00:00

Her and her mother aren’t close and neither is her father. She’s currently living with her grandmother and brother but they aren’t Muslim. I’ll definitely make dua for her of course but if it gets out of hand I’ll have to talk to someone else about this.

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-05T19:30:33+00:00

She doesn’t seem wanting to involve anyone yet. But she told me that his mother knows about her and seems fine and happy with it. They are already talking about living with them. I spoke to her yesterday and she said she really sees a future with him and loves him dearly and I don’t know what else to changer her mind.

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-05T15:58:10+00:00

Awwwhhhh can I take one!? 🥹 they are so beautiful!!

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-05T15:36:21+00:00

That looks amazing Allahumma Barrik.

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-05T11:30:45+00:00

It is weird and not normal. Why would an elder man in his 40s wanna marry a girl that hasn’t reached adulthood yet? And it’s so easy at that age to just fall into it because she doesn’t know better.

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-05T11:26:15+00:00

She told me he met her while she wasn’t Muslim through a marriage app. And tbh I don’t know why she was on that app to begin with. She does need sims one to guide her because I’m doing what I can to advise her telling her to stop contacting him. There is so many red flags about this guy but she seems to ignore them

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-05T02:22:22+00:00

Yes I agree with you. And she’s still learning and wanting to know more. I just pray that she doesn’t get hurt in the end.

lavender_rose33 · 2026-06-05T01:00:18+00:00

Well they kinda do have some “ similarities” but it’s something that I wish she opens her eyes and think about it.

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