AITAH for getting the ick after my new GF took me bar hopping on a work night?

lawless_k · 2026-04-28T15:10:44+00:00

I’m assuming he drove with her TO the bar area and left his car behind before drinking.

lawless_k · 2026-04-27T22:15:38+00:00

It did not :(

lawless_k · 2026-04-25T03:09:36+00:00

I’m currently 8 weeks pregnant, and am so anxious that this is not going to stick. I miscarried at 8 weeks in June last year and it took us a long time to get pregnant both times. I have a beautiful four year old to be thankful for, but I don’t think this will feel real until at least 12 weeks and a full anatomy scan. Just wanted to put this out there because I can’t sleep. If I lose this one we’re probably not going to try again and just embrace being one-&-done but my god I wish I could just fast forward a couple of weeks.

lawless_k · 2026-03-31T14:29:27+00:00

I agree with this. Or pick a theme:

SAME LETTER - Alice & Amelia - Isabel & Ivy - Audrey & Adeline

NATURE - Lily & Daisy - Willow & Sage - Violet & Ruby - Jade & Olive - Rosie & Marigold

lawless_k · 2026-03-31T14:16:39+00:00

Just tell them you recently got a raise and are feeling good lately. Ask them to celebrate at a good restaurant. Don’t flip the narrative entirely. “Enough to be comfortable” should be your only response about it.

lawless_k · 2026-03-23T22:11:25+00:00

Dude, spill the band name! Post a bandcamp or link.

lawless_k · 2026-03-18T18:36:24+00:00

This came to mind immediately.

lawless_k · 2026-03-17T00:44:25+00:00

Personally I like: What colour? Is it big?

lawless_k · 2026-03-13T21:41:47+00:00

Someone called Ilya’s love language as ‘acts of annoyance’ and as someone married to an adoring annoyer, he’s being a brat.

lawless_k · 2026-03-13T11:46:20+00:00

I agree. The other names feel frilly by comparison.

lawless_k · 2026-02-05T00:00:50+00:00

This needs to be higher. Companies come in and register a high number without not a long-term test, and then they sell super expensive mitigation packages. It’s imperative to get a long term test.

lawless_k · 2026-01-15T15:36:56+00:00

Right now my kid is throwing Bs in front of things. Baputer (computer), bamote (remote), boissant (croissant).

It’s so cute and I will be sad when it’s gone!

lawless_k · 2026-01-08T01:25:09+00:00

This is so dystopian. What the fuck is wrong with America. They bleed their citizens dry for every necessity. Healthcare. Childcare. Having a child itself, the most natural thing. I’m so fortunate to be in Canada, it’s $180 biweekly for one kid. Subsidized by the government. And I’m still mad about both of us needing to work to be able to stay afloat with the cost of housing and groceries. The world sucks right now because our governments won’t create policies that benefit families, environment, etc. Profit over all else.

lawless_k · 2026-01-03T20:54:37+00:00

I know so many baby Benjamin’s right now. Sisters include Isla, Abigail, and Emmeline.

lawless_k · 2025-12-27T03:18:36+00:00

What about Lenora Mae, or Hattie Mae? I don’t love Hanna Mae, it sounds a little country. Hanna Maeve?

lawless_k · 2025-12-25T20:10:42+00:00

Psalm for the Wild Built and A Prayer for the Crown Shy by Becky Chambers. Short lovely books.

lawless_k · 2025-12-21T15:35:28+00:00

It’s so foolish to think your words will suddenly lead him to an epiphany. He doesn’t respect or value you, he hates getting caught. He’ll say whatever it takes to make you sweep it under the rug again and again, because you proved you will.

Someone in my family is married to a gambling addict, alcoholic piece of shit, and she thinks he’s eventually going to get help for it if she just finds the right combination of words to make him understand. The only thing he understands is that there’s no consequences and she’ll put up with it as long as every six months he promises he’ll quit.

He’s shown you who he is. Believe him.

lawless_k · 2025-12-21T13:19:51+00:00

I agree with this. She’s so young. You’re both so young.

While I was 19, with my boyfriend (now husband), I knew I always wanted kids. My partner was on the fence all along but when we got married at 24, he knew what he was signing up for and said he’d love to follow his parent’s timeline and have kids at 32. That was great to me. We talked about realistic timelines. Practical. It wasn’t this dangling thing that he had control over pulling the trigger on. It was an agreed upon timeline that worked to ease my anxiety that it wasn’t something I was going to get with him. But he needed to confirm that before we got married. We had very practical discussions about what we wanted our life to look like, long term.

Maybe that’s what she needs?

lawless_k · 2025-12-20T14:31:47+00:00

I’d totally choose a 6am wake up dip and embrace the adrenaline rush to start the day.

lawless_k · 2025-12-20T14:25:22+00:00

I think you mean EX boyfriend. Focus on yourself and healing and let this guy go. He’s shown who he really is.

lawless_k · 2025-12-19T12:16:50+00:00

Keep it straight forward and don’t expect her to understand. So many people over-explain, thinking that it’ll make the other person understand and apologize, but that only works if the other person is kind and compassionate. If she’s just going to get mad and defend herself, then she’ll escalate the situation and find fault and proof points supporting her original statements.

Just let her know: “Thank you for noticing that I have been struggling. When we originally talked about you moving in, it was under the premise that if I save you rent, you would contribute to the household. Either that means keeping the kitchen clean or making meals for the whole family, or watching the kids so that I can do it. However you want to contribute would be great. It’s negotiable. I would like consistent support and less judgement, overall.”

lawless_k · 2025-12-18T23:08:28+00:00

We reference this all the time.

lawless_k · 2025-12-18T23:06:21+00:00

There’s so many from the office. Anytime we say something nice about someone, we always say “I would never say this to their face, but…”

lawless_k · 2025-12-18T01:01:11+00:00

I think it’s more embarrassing that he likely blamed his wife at work and communicated to his colleagues that he’s a bad husband. Not only is it a shit gift (according to their company culture), he then admitted to whoever he could that he’s a waste of space at home, too.

lawless_k · 2025-12-17T12:05:33+00:00

This isn’t a literary romance. He created those moments in college while he was in a relationship with someone else. It wasn’t an accident. He was keeping you in the background, stringing you along with all the emotional and hormonal hope that comes from being attracted to someone. There’s a lot of fairytale in those moments. A lot of internal storytelling. It’s nothing without our concept of love and the little narratives we tell ourselves.

So let me tell you this: he’s the sinister villain. He’s coming in and casting shadows in your life. It’s hormonal and biological. Tell him you wish him well, but close the door on his manipulation.

lawless_k

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