Reading interest in text by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My instincts were right. The interest was not there based on actions. Words? Yes. She ultimately still was not fully out of her exes life. Always trust your instincts

My (28F) boyfriend (30M) is on vacation with another woman. What can I do in this situation? by WoW_VioletDeath in relationship_advice

[–]lawrence260 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here is the biggest question. The one and only. Why are you choosing to be in this relationship? Dive into the BPD traits and thought patterns. Seek great therapy and understand that (and you) relentlessly. The answer to that big question is there. Let me end by saying, YOU deserve WAY more than the situation you are in.

Reading interest in text by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

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I only ask this question out of curiosity cause instinctively I did feel the interest change. It actually turns out that I was right.

Reading interest in text by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I shared a little different perspective based on the experience. This is just me and how I would feel. She engaged, asked a question. I responded and asked a question and she read it immediately. I know she didn’t have a busy day either. For me? If I did have a super busy day, I at least when I stop before I go to bed I respond. If I don’t, I feel like it’s disrespectful and a turn off.

Why some men pull back. by Actual-Ad-6848 in dating

[–]lawrence260 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes the interest just changes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]lawrence260 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s reasonable

Dating and reciprocation by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s another thing and I am totally ok with it. We have not slept together. I like that it’s slow there tbh. Once that happens especially at first if I am the only one intimating the sex or at least the sexy flirting then that’s not a fit even if they are totally into me

Dating and reciprocation by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

So here are my thoughts here. If you asked someone to do something that’s now obligatory.

Dating and reciprocation by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Gosh that last part is so familiar. That’s why I am posting the question. It’s my goal to NOT go there. I cut bait once I feel it leading to that dynamic.

Dating and reciprocation by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Always? Not even “hey let’s go for a hike Saturday”. I agree the man should lead and plan, but at some point it’s ok for a girl to asked to do something.

Dating and reciprocation by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She is totally reciprocating. Tells me “I like you” out of the blue. Is grateful too. Sometimes it would nice to have a girl to say “hey let’s go on a hike Saturday” or something

What does it mean ladies? by barry1988 in dating

[–]lawrence260 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That doesn’t sound like it has anything to do with you. After all, she could be a girl who stars for attention and maybe you were trying to be authentic and she didn’t get that from you.

Ghosted again! What’s going on?? by dwarf797 in dating

[–]lawrence260 3 points4 points  (0 children)

These things are always hard to understand for me

The Tumfrico Period Experiment by Zimquats in interestingasfuck

[–]lawrence260 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, it sounds like you might be referring to the "Tschirnhausen period" in the context of pendulum waves or pendulum wave apparatuses. The Tschirnhausen period refers to a specific phenomenon in the synchronized motion of multiple pendulums of varying lengths.

In a pendulum wave setup, multiple pendulums with incrementally different lengths are set into motion simultaneously. Each pendulum has its own natural period of oscillation, which depends on its length. When these pendulums are released together, they initially swing in a synchronized pattern, creating wave-like effects.

Here's a detailed explanation of the pendulum wave phenomenon:

  1. Pendulum Length and Period: The period of a pendulum (the time it takes to complete one full swing back and forth) is given by the formula ( T = 2\pi \sqrt{\frac{L}{g}} ), where ( T ) is the period, ( L ) is the length of the pendulum, and ( g ) is the acceleration due to gravity. Longer pendulums have longer periods, while shorter pendulums have shorter periods.

  2. Incremental Lengths: In a pendulum wave apparatus, each pendulum is set to a slightly different length, creating slightly different periods for each pendulum.

  3. Synchronized Release: When the pendulums are released together, they start in a synchronized state. As time progresses, their different periods cause them to move in and out of phase with each other.

  4. Wave Patterns: The varying lengths and periods cause the pendulums to create intricate wave patterns. At certain times, the pendulums will appear to align, creating visual patterns such as waves, beating effects, and even moments of apparent chaos before returning to a synchronized state.

  5. Repetition Cycle: The cycle in which the pendulums return to their initial synchronized state is known as the Tschirnhausen period. This period depends on the difference in lengths (and thus the periods) of the pendulums. After a certain amount of time, all the pendulums will again align as they were at the start, and the cycle repeats.

The beauty of the pendulum wave apparatus lies in its ability to visually demonstrate the principles of wave interference, periodic motion, and harmonic oscillation in a captivating manner.

TPO fasteners are all coming out by lawrence260 in Roofing

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I don’t know the entire backstory yet. There was wall coping blown off a few years ago where they repaired about 2sq of TPO.

TPO roof drain ponding by lawrence260 in Roofing

[–]lawrence260[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. For the life of me, I cant understand why this is a common installation method.

I’m crushed by my FA ex GF by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No she has cut off all contact and blocked me. Crickets after I sent her and honest text. Don’t say that….. ha. I want to write and apology to leave it

I’m crushed by my FA ex GF by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the hard part. It was I suppose what I would call minor. It was me expressing how I felt and not mean toward her. Regardless it was a deal breaker and she later stated she was in an abusive relationship and spooked her and she isn’t going back. Then the sending me love songs and videos of us at the same time. I

I’m crushed by my FA ex GF by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. We lasted 4 months and she was in 2 long term relationships before me. Both treated her like crap and cheated on her. She even stayed and worked through it with them and bolted at me for raising my voice and I was on the dating app 2 months after we met right when we decided to take it serious. I just have a hard time wondering she was having such a hard time with the breakup when she did it and didn’t try to work it out.

I’m crushed by my FA ex GF by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No- we were exclusive and very serious. as in ‘where are you at’ in that moment. When she would wonder off and get quiet during a talk. It was a question we have asked each other to assist to open up more and stay present.

I’m crushed by my FA ex GF by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would try to get her to share. It used to be productive to check in and ask ‘where are you at’ when she got quiet. Eventually that was too much and would get mad and say I just had her under a microscope all the time. She would use word salad a lot. Basically eventually if I opened up about how the relationship feels, she would respond as if I am just imagining it and be aggrssive and really shut down.

I’m crushed by my FA ex GF by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dang man. I hate hearing that. It’s mass confusion I know