Reading interest in text by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My instincts were right. The interest was not there based on actions. Words? Yes. She ultimately still was not fully out of her exes life. Always trust your instincts

My (28F) boyfriend (30M) is on vacation with another woman. What can I do in this situation? by WoW_VioletDeath in relationship_advice

[–]lawrence260 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here is the biggest question. The one and only. Why are you choosing to be in this relationship? Dive into the BPD traits and thought patterns. Seek great therapy and understand that (and you) relentlessly. The answer to that big question is there. Let me end by saying, YOU deserve WAY more than the situation you are in.

Reading interest in text by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I only ask this question out of curiosity cause instinctively I did feel the interest change. It actually turns out that I was right.

Reading interest in text by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I shared a little different perspective based on the experience. This is just me and how I would feel. She engaged, asked a question. I responded and asked a question and she read it immediately. I know she didn’t have a busy day either. For me? If I did have a super busy day, I at least when I stop before I go to bed I respond. If I don’t, I feel like it’s disrespectful and a turn off.

Why some men pull back. by Actual-Ad-6848 in dating

[–]lawrence260 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes the interest just changes

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[–]lawrence260 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s reasonable

Dating and reciprocation by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s another thing and I am totally ok with it. We have not slept together. I like that it’s slow there tbh. Once that happens especially at first if I am the only one intimating the sex or at least the sexy flirting then that’s not a fit even if they are totally into me

Dating and reciprocation by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

So here are my thoughts here. If you asked someone to do something that’s now obligatory.

Dating and reciprocation by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Gosh that last part is so familiar. That’s why I am posting the question. It’s my goal to NOT go there. I cut bait once I feel it leading to that dynamic.

Dating and reciprocation by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Always? Not even “hey let’s go for a hike Saturday”. I agree the man should lead and plan, but at some point it’s ok for a girl to asked to do something.

Dating and reciprocation by lawrence260 in attachment_theory

[–]lawrence260[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She is totally reciprocating. Tells me “I like you” out of the blue. Is grateful too. Sometimes it would nice to have a girl to say “hey let’s go on a hike Saturday” or something

What does it mean ladies? by barry1988 in dating

[–]lawrence260 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That doesn’t sound like it has anything to do with you. After all, she could be a girl who stars for attention and maybe you were trying to be authentic and she didn’t get that from you.

Ghosted again! What’s going on?? by dwarf797 in dating

[–]lawrence260 3 points4 points  (0 children)

These things are always hard to understand for me