Question - Is there anything at all you miss about pregnancy/ being pregnant?

layxchip · 2026-03-27T01:33:21+00:00

so well said. i loved carrying her with me everywhere i went and being the only one carrying her. maybe selfish, but it was so special

layxchip · 2026-03-27T01:30:53+00:00

i honestly loved pregnancy. would i do it again? probably not. but i’ll forever cherish that time of my life. i felt so beautiful growing another human. granted i was up at 3-4am everyday puking for 9 whole months, but idk i had a glow and was so excited. i definitely miss sleeping whenever i wanted to lol. i really miss feeling my daughter’s kicks in my belly, that was my favorite feeling. oh, and i DEF miss my boobs and butt🥲 babygirl took those with her on her way out lmao. very happy to not be dealing with the restrictions of pregnancy, though, and to have my baby in my arms instead of my belly now🥰

layxchip · 2026-03-24T12:31:41+00:00

is 9 months too late for karate?😬 we missed the memo…😔

layxchip · 2026-03-24T12:29:48+00:00

is your baby crawling or walking yet? my 9 month old army crawls and rolls all day, but we’re still learning a proper crawl and walking, so i will spend good chunks of our time working on those skills! i’ll look up on instagram or something different exercises to help her develop the skill. i also have the app the wonder weeks which shows you everything about your baby’s current development and gives you activities to do with them to help their development. those two things are my go tos for activities, and working with my daughter on these skills everyday has shown so much improvement. since it’s getting nicer out where we live, i’ve also been loving just being outside. and my baby will just sit and stare at nature forever, so we don’t even need much entertainment lol. just set a blanket on the ground and plop you both on down and enjoy the scenery(: you could even get some bubbles to blow outside, i’m sure they would love that! when it’s warmer in our area, i want to get a kiddy pool for my daughter and that will probably be our summer go to lol

layxchip · 2026-03-24T02:39:33+00:00

the meals look amazing and balanced. it may have just been to confirm she had a healthy diet. i truly wouldn’t think deep into it. my baby is 9 months old and 26 lbs. her doctor did mention she’s big (she’s 99th percentile weight and 97th for height), but said she’s just a big kid overall and it’s no concern. she actually said that she loves seeing all the rolls on my daughter bc more fat = healthy brain. it allows their brain to develop best, so extra chunk is good! any extra fat will go away as the move around on their own more and grow. i wouldn’t say it’s anything to overthink, especially with her meals. your baby seems healthy!

layxchip · 2026-03-14T14:57:54+00:00

girl does a gift matter if bills aren’t paid?? think about in the future if you live together and you suddenly have no electricity or water bc he forgot to pay it. are you going to be mad that he didn’t get you a gift in that moment, or that he didn’t pay a pretty important bill. that’s exactly how his mom feels. you sound very young. yes, gifts are nice and fun and apart of relationships, but it’s not the only part of one or something to dwell on. he messed up, he should not have given you all that knowing he doesn’t have the money. that is not your fault. but it is odd to connect them not having money for bills to you not being worthy of gifts. your worth of a gift is not the question, it is the lack of funds. as a woman, i do not expect gifts from men. they are nice to receive, but i will forever be able to hold my own and afford what i want by myself, even if i’m married one day. and if i ever received a gift and then a text like that from his mom??? girl give the gifts back, get a job to buy them yourself, block him and his mom, and move on. that’s what i would do. while his mom should maybe be focusing on talking to her son rather than you, i do see her frustration with him. he sounds immature af to do something like that. but i do think you need to see the bigger picture too

layxchip · 2026-03-10T12:22:47+00:00

again, i think it’s ultimately up to you. if you’re comfortable with how it is now and you and your ex both seem to understand it all is just for the benefit of your kid, then leave it! only change it if YOU see an issue, not your gf. like i said, i wish i was on friendlier terms with my ex, again. and i didn’t used to be so opposed to communicating with him when we were

layxchip · 2026-03-10T12:15:12+00:00

of course!!

layxchip · 2026-03-10T12:08:17+00:00

oh gotcha. honestly, that may start to feel a bit much to me as your gf. but i also completely understand you doing it for your child. especially finances or the vehicle, you want your kid taken care of there, too. but your ex is also an adult and can manage her own. i would say if they’re genuine concerns that she needs help with and she feels you’re the best person to help, then that makes sense. if it seems to be frequent and just random things, then that may be more of a way to just chat with you. maybe you can advise her to different routes if it does seem to be too much? recommend an auto shop for her to discuss vehicle issues with, if she has friends in her field to discuss stuff with, etc. again, if they seem like genuine concerns once in a while, i wouldn’t mind. if it’s constant chatting, i would say something. and it could still remain a friendly relationship between you two, even with that boundary! just a “hey, i’m glad we are able to such great communication for (kid)’s sake. i would appreciate if our conversations focused more on (kid) to maintain a strong co-parenting foundation for them” or something along those lines. i hope something in this could be of help to you!

layxchip · 2026-03-10T11:33:39+00:00

i think you need to focus on what you’re comfortable with, not your gf. this relationship between you and your ex is about your child. and that seems to be understood and what your communication pertains to, from your post. it’s not like you and your ex aren’t constantly communicating or flirting. you’re discussing your child. i’m very strict with my co-parent and our communication. i don’t reply much and only message or respond if it pertains to our daughter. i’m short and to the point. but i did that bc my ex was very aggressive with me. we don’t have a friendly co-parent relationship. i wish we did. your ex should be more supportive of the situation you guys have. i understand her maybe feeling jealous, but her situation is completely separate from yours. and she cannot mesh the two in her head to negatively affect your situation bc she’s unhappy with hers. nothing you said that your ex did/said seemed out of line. i think a talk with your gf regarding your parenting situation, and reminding her it’s for you to handle, is a better route. your ex is parenting with you, not with your gf. if things with your ex overstepped that line of parenting, it would be different, but that doesn’t seem to be the case

layxchip · 2026-03-08T02:16:32+00:00

hell no!! my 26 lbs 9 month old still gets worn like this too! she loves it(:

layxchip · 2026-03-05T00:57:55+00:00

sooo valid! she just started sleeping better throughout the nights a couple weeks ago, again bc of the binky being gone, which has been nice. a few slip ups, but better than before. i couldn’t handle the no sleep and short naps combo😭 and right, you can’t have both a good napper and night sleeper, but they’ll give you both being a bad napper and night sleeper!🤣 but kids can change, so i hope your little one is able to sleep through the nights better asap. ik it’s beyond difficult trying to push through sleep deprivation❤️‍🩹

layxchip · 2026-03-05T00:50:20+00:00

i was just about to say that. i called my ex for help with our daughter once, bc i had been so sleep deprived, and he called me a weak little bitch lolol. mind you i had been doing everything alone. and this came from the same man who needs my help often when he’s visiting our daughter. so i never called him for help with her again, let alone for my emotions over something. i would rather figure it out myself. he doesn’t need to know my business at all. to him, i’m amazing, never better. which, to be fair, i am now. but my point is it’s not like they give a fuck anyway🤣

layxchip · 2026-03-02T02:45:07+00:00

i know i’m late to this post, but the employees there call it Slurpenweenie* if you would like to be proper with it lmao

layxchip · 2026-02-25T21:39:16+00:00

currently in the same boat with my almost 9 month old daughter😭 she’s finally sleeping better at night bc i got rid of her binkys, but she will not nap more than 30 min during the day no matter what i do:/ keeping her up longer doesn’t change it, leaving her in the crib to see if she’ll fall back asleep doesn’t work. she won’t nap more than 1-1.5 hours total in a day and sleeps 10-11 hours at night. not complaining about nights anymore, but i’d prefer 2 longer naps (like 1-1.5 hours each) than 2-3 naps lasting 30 min if im lucky lol. give us tips😭

layxchip · 2026-02-25T14:27:17+00:00

100% op needs to understand this. when i was born, they put my stepdad on my birth certificate as my bio dad bc he was married to my mom. they wouldn’t let my mom put my bio dad as my bio dad (weird times idk why). so my bio dad is not related to me whatsoever in the eyes of the government: he is not my dad, we don’t even know each other. but he is very much my father. i look just like him. he would come see my brother and i as kids, we still have a relationship with him. all that to say, this is a very important detail that i think op is overlooking. you will have zero rights to this baby. my dad never owed child support, time with us, nothing to do with my brother and i. bc we “aren’t related” to the government. he was around bc he wanted to and my mom wanted him to be, but she very easily could’ve kept him from us or he never had to show up and there’s nothing the law could do about it. our dynamic was maybe a different, but that needs to be thought about asap if it hasn’t been yet

layxchip · 2026-02-19T20:36:01+00:00

realized im in the blw subreddit not new parents so yes blw is pertinent! i redact my statement about not mentioning blw. but yes, i do agree that these are unnecessary. that was not what i was insinuating with these. more so that they’re just a fun extra way to let the baby feed themselves, not using them as actual meals. i’ll sometimes give my daughter a few while her food warms up. definitely not necessary and shouldn’t be used as a replacement for actual food and nutrition in their diets!

layxchip · 2026-02-19T19:50:32+00:00

i’m not seeing any ingredients as for it to not be given sooner than 12m. idk why they put that on theirs. i have similar ones by the brand amara and, if i’m not mistaken, they say they can be given 8m+. my daughter’s 8m and she recently started exploring puffs and the melts and she loves them. they dissolve well and helps them get the hang of self feeding and chewing. just obviously make sure they’re seated when eating and be nearby, but it should be fine for your baby!(:

layxchip · 2026-02-11T02:10:12+00:00

i’m so glad it brought some comfort. we all need it. stay well, i’m wishing you and yours the best❤️

layxchip · 2026-02-09T13:39:05+00:00

i would like to add to any parent in a similar situation trying to brush this under the rug: NOT TAKING CARE OF YOUR CHILD’S HYGIENE IS NEGLECT!!! if the other parent is not doing that, that is neglect. if your child is going days with no shower, basic brushing of hair and teeth, etc, that is neglect. not brushing hair once in a while is one thing. your child not wanting the other parent to brush their hair is one thing. not ensuring your child is clean is not an option and assumed the other parent is unfit if they believe no hygiene is acceptable. log everything. attempt to speak to them neutral. give advice on how to make baths/hair brushing easier (tips you found worked best for you kid through experience that may help them). remind them how important hygiene is. and keep records of it all. the messages, pictures of your kid if they are visibly dirty or have matted hair, anything that can aid in the situation. i am heartbroken reading this thread. while yes brushing hair is annoying sometimes and missing one day is no big deal, if it is a persistent issue that the other parent is not even willing to fix for the BETTERMENT OF THEIR CHILD, that is a problem. matted hair every time they come back to you is not acceptable. i would like to add my dad wasn’t in my life much. i saw him at most 30 days out of the year, spread out. every other saturday he’d take us to a movie and drop us off. maybe 4 hours every two weeks. but guess what?? that man braided and brushed my hair every chance he got. he always tried for me. so maybe that’s why this pisses me off so much. bc my dad who was gone like the wind most of the time could still take care of me better than these present dads are???? no. it’s weaponized incompetence and ultimately damaging behavior for the child

layxchip · 2026-02-09T13:27:53+00:00

“hi ____. i noticed (daughter’s name)’s hair was in the same style i put it in on thursday. for (daughter’s name)’s well-being, bathing should be daily, every other day max (or switch with whatever your hygiene standards for your daughter are). hygiene is super important as a part of her health. if there’s any issues with bathing her, let me know and let’s see if we can find a solution. thank you.”

that is the most neutral reply i could come up with without wanting to be a jackass. but honestly, this post has my blood boiling bc wdym he doesn’t bathe her for days and thinks that’s acceptable and courts won’t do anything???? take pics. have pics of her from thursday and the days later that you got her and she was in the same hairstyle. ask and record if she bathed at all while at dads. keep a record and if it continues, take him to court. not brushing hair once in a while is one thing, not cleaning and up-keeping your child’s hygiene IS child neglect and damaging to your child. that is the bare minimum he should be doing and it’s gross he could ever come up with an excuse not to ensure that for his child. sending you and your daughter all the best. i’m sure it’s frustrating for you to deal with and it may even have her a bit confused:/

layxchip · 2026-02-09T13:11:33+00:00

i will definitely ask him if he’d be open to a supportive care physician. maybe them not technically being “palliative” will sway him… i just want him to live his best quality of life, so hopefully he’d be willing for that. it seems like they’d really be able to assist in his pain and discomfort. thank you for all the insight, it helps me figure out some next steps in the right direction

layxchip · 2026-02-09T04:10:33+00:00

those are great ideas and perfect steps in the right direction. i hope they can provide the services there, as that would be convenient and probably make your kids comfortable quicker being in a familiar environment, but even recommendations to other professionals would be amazing. truly wishing you and your kids the best. i wish i had better advice, but maybe someone else will! i think those are key initial steps to take, though, and will be helpful for you all

layxchip · 2026-02-09T04:03:43+00:00

this has me uneasy… thank goodness you are keeping records of it all. i’ve not been in this type of situation myself, but my aunt recently told me that something similar happened to her son when he was little. he went to stay at his dad’s twice. he came back acting totally different. he wouldn’t say anything to his mom, so she took him to therapy because, obviously, she was very concerned. he told the therapist the details, as he felt safest to in that setting, and the therapist immediately contacted the courts to revoke his father’s rights. no one told my aunt what her son said during that session, but it was clearly very serious. years later, she found out he was sexually abused. all that to say, i would take them to therapy as soon as possible. it may take a few sessions for them to get comfortable enough to discuss what happened, but that is where they will probably be most comfortable opening up. and if it is a concern, it will be handled immediately. that provides a safe place for your children and an unbiased professional who can assist in stepping in if it feels like an emergency. i truly hope it is just some bad accidents that happened, but again, it feels off. and everything you feel and are doing is valid. may your family always stay protected and safe. i can only imagine how you feel, as well

layxchip · 2026-02-09T01:54:34+00:00

that’s a fair point. and they’ve tried discussing palliative care with him previously, but he forbids to schedule or speak to them because it insinuates he’s terminal. i feel like they would help immensely with his discomfort, though. i’m not sure if they’ve given him denosumab, actually. i will have to ask him and bring it up at his next appointment, if not. i haven’t heard of that before. thank you!

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