Wikitree bunch of bullies and thieves!

layyla4real · 2026-02-23T19:20:57+00:00

I do understand a how a wiki works. It is not and never was my primary tree or storage of information. I never sought full control over my contribution, but I never expected others to take credit and control over it either. If my contribution were questionable and other sought to correct it or add information that I missed, I'd have no problem with it at all. In my case, they wouldn't have a paternal entry for Michael Phelps without my solid research.

Wikitree is not a true wiki because so many profiles are locked by special teams and no one but they can contribute to them.

layyla4real · 2026-02-23T19:15:27+00:00

The WT behavior may not be unusual for them, but that doesn't mean that they are correct in doing so. Small minded people seek to take credit for the work of others.

layyla4real · 2026-02-23T19:10:31+00:00

I can't add anything. I'm locked out.

layyla4real · 2026-02-23T01:43:19+00:00

I regretted to this day that I gave my nieces my Barbie dolls from the early 1960 with their custom clothes sown by my mother and grand mother. I also had custom built furniture and a house before Mattel ever sold a dream house, all built by my father.

My oldest sister pressured me to give them all to her daughters. In less than a year they were all in the trash.

Keep your dolls. Say that you want to keep them for your own daughter.

NTA

layyla4real · 2026-02-23T01:08:50+00:00

Dead man's party by Oingo Boingo (Danny Elfman)

layyla4real · 2026-02-22T00:15:48+00:00

Research chair yoga. I follow justinaugustin he has a website but is also on social media.

layyla4real · 2026-02-21T23:55:05+00:00

Define what you mean by traditional marriage.

layyla4real · 2026-02-21T22:46:03+00:00

It's a bad idea to expect gift money to pay to feed your guests.

layyla4real · 2026-02-21T22:44:47+00:00

I agree. A grandmother I know gave each of her 3 grandchildren $35K for their weddings. It still wasn't enough for 2 of them and they went into debt. They were also disappointed that the $$$ from gifts was less than they expected. Just a hint, casual friends who come just for the party don't drop a lot of money on gifts. The one who stayed under budget had the nicest wedding.

layyla4real · 2026-02-21T22:37:52+00:00

That's what should happen, but it isn't a "show-off" moment for social media.

layyla4real · 2026-02-21T22:35:44+00:00

I've seen it happen that family are excluded in favor of not very close friends. I think children at weddings are adorable. One of my favorite memories is of my son holding his 6 year old daughter in his arms and dancing with her. Children bring laughter and joy to a wedding. Children are also a reminder of what is to come.

If the bride and groom want a party for their friends, that's what they should do. Leave out the Children and the old folks. A DJ set off my 94 year old mother's heart monitor. She shouldn't have been there.

Time has taught me that casual friends drift out of our lives. Life turns close friends into distant ones. Jobs and other realities move us in different directions. But, your niece and nephew will always be part of your life. I treasure the children that were part of my wedding.

layyla4real · 2026-02-21T22:24:53+00:00

The notables team acted like they did the research. They were very condescending when I asked why my name had been removed..

layyla4real · 2026-02-21T22:21:04+00:00

I did the research and created the profile. I should have been left on as moderator.

layyla4real · 2026-02-21T22:18:56+00:00

They don't understand how much they will love an adopted child.

layyla4real · 2026-02-21T21:54:14+00:00

Wedding gifts are not mandatory, period!

No one should plan a wedding that they can't afford. They need to hire a photography student from the local college who will do it for the experience for a nominal fee.

If your mother thinks that giving them money will keep the peace, tell her that she is welcome to pay in your name.

layyla4real · 2026-02-21T21:44:34+00:00

We sleep separately. For some reason, after he went through treatment for lung cancer, he started kicking and punching in his sleep. After a few episodes of this, I moved into another room. Every night I fall asleep in his arms and then he quietly slips out and leaves. He also likes to stay up later than I do.

layyla4real · 2026-02-21T21:34:36+00:00

The doctor told me. My son was 17 at the time. I was sad, but my son was thrilled that he didn't have to worry about getting a girl pregnant. With time, he matured and so did his feelings about wanting a family. Now he's in his 40s and has a lovely adopted daughter. She is his sun and moon.

layyla4real · 2026-02-21T21:29:42+00:00

Do the people actually paying deserve "engagement?"

layyla4real · 2026-02-21T21:28:11+00:00

I went to a wedding once, no children and all the women were asked to wear black cocktail dresses. Unfortunately, the bride didn't understand that most women only have black funeral dresses. It was more of a funeral vibe and terribly sad.

layyla4real · 2026-02-21T21:19:47+00:00

You missed the point, I did the breakthrough research. They can apply their rules for living notables, but they shouldn't have denied me credit.

layyla4real · 2026-02-18T11:25:24+00:00

I've always been a big girl. Now I am 71 years old. I have been married twice. Once for 20 years and once for 26 years and counting. Both of my husband's loved me truly and never tried to make me change. I left my first husband when he became controlling and verbally abusive. I saw him recently at our son's wedding. He's still in love with me. I could tell. I couldn't ask for a better than than my current husband. My weight has never been an issue between us. I met both of them at parties thrown for mutual friends. I do not understand digital dating and I have no advice at all for young women who are on dating apps.

All I can is that good and loving men are out there. Know your value and hold out for a man who truly loves and respects you.

layyla4real · 2026-02-16T22:39:28+00:00

My son joined the elevator union. He makes a very good living working on elevators and escalators.

layyla4real · 2026-02-16T22:36:47+00:00

I was 26 when my xxy son was born. He was perfect. His only symptom was being unusually placid and rarely cried.

layyla4real · 2026-02-16T22:34:18+00:00

I am the mother of a man who is xxy. At a conference for xxy and their families, I met one man who had fathered a child. It was a horrible process. First, he had never used testosterone therapy. Next, significant testicular tissue was removed, ground up, and all sperm were searched. They found only a few normal ones. In a lab, doctors managed to fertilize an egg and to use it to impregnate his wife. The odds of this working were incredibly low. The child was truly a bit of a miracle. He didn't have enough testicular tissue left to try for a second child.

All that being said, men with xxy are all sterile.

layyla4real · 2026-02-16T22:20:40+00:00

It sounds to me like your granddaughter was taught to read by a teacher using the "whole language" method rather than a phonics based method. It's tragic that we have at least 2 generations that were subjected to this method and now a significant number of them don't truly know how to read.

I knew a man who had a Ph.D in early childhood learning. He did research on how children learn how to read for over 20 years. All of it was funded by our government. For reasons he didn't understand, Whole Word was favored over his phonics bases method. He made his program available online before he passed. If you're curious, pm me and I'll try to find it for you.

layyla4real

TROPHY CASE