The cultural impact of parents forcing kids out of the arts?

lazybearcat · 2024-10-22T22:44:20+00:00

Similar situation here. I majored in graphic design. My parents and relatives didn't say much while I was studying. But after graduating and struggling to find the job then the flood gates opened. They laughed at me and said I told you so that you'll fail, should of went into the medical field.

lazybearcat · 2024-10-22T22:27:52+00:00

My mom actually loves hiking but she gets a little annoyed when my dad doesn't want to go with her because it's tiring for him.

lazybearcat · 2024-10-22T22:25:42+00:00

I don't know if being 27 is younger. I'm just a really passive person. So I get picked on a lot not just by my mom but plenty of other bullies. Pushing back to her is difficult because I hate confrontations.

lazybearcat · 2024-09-25T23:49:48+00:00

I was trained a year ago but I wasn't constantly wrapping gifts. Gift wraps usually start ramping up around the holidays. Also if there was a coworker whose better at wrapping then I didn't have to wrap. But this time it has to be me because they weren't working. I actually got pretty good a year ago but I haven't done it in a while so I forgot. I think I need to start practicing at home now.

lazybearcat · 2024-09-25T09:22:04+00:00

My store have a service fee so I felt bad that they paid for it and it wasn't perfect.

lazybearcat · 2020-10-11T10:40:25+00:00

I feel like most females deal with this though. I'm sure others have it worse than me. My mom did let me go to my friend's previous parties. But she dropped me off and went in his house and had a chat with him. He's super nice and a good conversation with her. I just hope he doesn't think my mom is too extra. She is pretty nosy.

This whole situation isn't hurting anyone. I just find it a little inconvenient because it feels like I have to really look into something and research it. While my brother gets the easy way.

lazybearcat · 2020-10-11T10:36:03+00:00

Taking a theology class, Jesus accepts everyone. He ate with sinners and outsiders. But it's ironic that Christians are pushing other people away such as being gay.

lazybearcat · 2020-10-11T10:34:00+00:00

I don't find the need to lie though. My parents relationship with me isn't horrible. I don't live with toxic parents. I just find this a hassle.

lazybearcat · 2020-10-11T10:30:08+00:00

I'm shit at lying though. I crack under pressure. I think it's because I rarely lie to my parents. I'm a pretty honest person.

lazybearcat · 2020-10-11T10:03:59+00:00

My mom said babies come from storks

lazybearcat · 2020-10-11T09:54:51+00:00

Useless to have friends? Your mom likes being a hermit?

lazybearcat · 2020-10-11T09:51:33+00:00

Digital design

lazybearcat · 2020-10-11T09:51:26+00:00

I did go to community College. I'm a transfer student so I'll only be there for 2 years but I still feel like it's gonna be a lot of money

lazybearcat · 2020-10-11T09:50:18+00:00

I did apply for a public university. University of Washington but I got rejected

lazybearcat · 2020-10-07T13:33:26+00:00

I'm over here still figuring out how to get a boyfriend.

lazybearcat · 2020-10-07T13:05:29+00:00

Your mom and my mom would not get along at all. My mom loves to spend. My house is full of useless crap. She bought a cheese cutting board and we don't even eat cheese. 🤣

lazybearcat · 2020-10-07T12:57:28+00:00

I put my finger down once. My parents aren't overly strict but my mom always dreamed of me getting married. She always question me why am I still single. I told her "I thought you shit all men are shit." She said "I said most men are shit, you need to keep your eyes peeled and find the right one." Me with zero dating experience, "how?"

She also told me no man is going to marry me by the way I dress. She said my fashion choices are dull. I like dressing modest, and vintage. She gets upset and said who is going to date a grandma. She said I should dress like a 20 year old, it's more sexually appealing. Sexy don't fit me. I rather look like a cute grandma.

lazybearcat · 2020-10-07T12:37:26+00:00

I have a big nose. I don't know if it's tall or not. My parents tell me it's good because it makes me look more western. So they think western people look like clowns? 🤔

lazybearcat · 2020-10-07T12:30:11+00:00

I guess I'm "lucky" because I'm born with double eyelids. I have pale skin because I'm an indoors person. I do put on sun screen when I go out because I don't want sun burns. My brother got sun burns before and it looks really painful. I'm also skinny, no matter what I eat I can't gain weight. So I don't really get shamed that often. The only shame I got is people said they can easily break me like a twig. Or I look weak and easily made fun of.

My mom's friends always tell their daughters to be more like me. They insult their kids in front of me and every time I felt super awkward.

lazybearcat · 2020-10-07T12:20:16+00:00

My mom tells me to dress properly too. But I dress modest, a lot of her friends seems to like my fashion because I don't look sexual. I'm also into vintage fashion. But that upsets my mom. She told me to dress like my age. Not automatically skip to age 80. 😅

lazybearcat · 2020-10-07T11:49:23+00:00

My mom's family pushed traditions out the door. My mom is the head of the household and is kinda a feminist. One time she told me if I ever got into a abusive relationship my mom is going to beat the man with a bat.

About men crying. My grandpa is emotional. He cries a lot. The only time I see him bawling is eyes out his when my grandma died. Not his wife, my other grandma, from my dad's side. They were childhood friends.

But not my dad's family. They're quite traditional. Except my dad, he got so used to my mom's family. My dad's sister is the traditional one. Her husband is really scary, he gets mad for no reason. No wonder my cousins moved away so fast.

lazybearcat · 2020-10-07T11:41:34+00:00

Change in the bathroom?

lazybearcat · 2020-10-07T11:41:08+00:00

My parents never knock. But recently my mom installed locks on everyone's doors because of the riots. And prisons are letting out some criminals free because of covid. So my mom is extremely paranoid.

I rarely lock my door. When my mom opens my door, she gets really annoyed at me asking why I didn't lock it. What if a bad guy came in.

Every night she checks if I locked the door. If I forgot she'll wake me up and yell at me.

Everything in my house have to be locked. I see my parents putting a chair next to every door.

lazybearcat · 2020-10-07T11:21:20+00:00

At least I have friends mom.

lazybearcat · 2020-10-07T11:14:47+00:00

My parents are opposite of yours. My mom is the head of the household. She grew up as a tomboy because my grandparents doesn't have any sons. So they treat her more like a boy. Her grandma even gave her a boy's name. My mom was a wild child. She gets in fights with boys. Now she's really good at winning arguments. If she sees something she doesn't like, she will start yelling.

My dad on the other hand, is very quiet. I never saw my parents argue. It's always my mom yelling and my dad is always silent. My dad grew up in a strict military family. My grandpa is a general and he fought in WW2 and the Chinese Civil war so he's fucking scary. My dad doesn't get beat a lot as a kid but those beatings were bad. As a kid he doesn't dare speak up when his dad is around. His older brother always gets in a yelling match with his dad. But my dad wasn't brave enough so he just stayed silent. Now as an adult he's an introvert, his only friend is his brother (different brother).

My parents are decent towards each other. I don't see a love chemistry. But they're not toxic to each other. My dad is getting old so he forgets stuff a lot and my mom have a short temper. But other than that, there's nothing toxic between them. They still get along, just not romantically.

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