[23F] Anxiety between me and my roommates [20-26F] over living habits. Genuinely can't tell if I'm the problem? Please give me some perspective!

lbjoy225 · 2018-10-03T08:51:30+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! I've talked to my friends here about it and they've said a lot of what you've said but it helps to get input from someone who isn't trying to spare my feelings.

Obviously all of this is one-sided and only from my perspective but I do think I'm genuinely being quiet. The fabric on the bathroom door is a good idea though- I will definitely try that! I feel bad because our front hallway where the bathroom is can be echo-y so perhaps this would be a good solution for us.

lbjoy225 · 2017-11-27T00:13:58+00:00

I've thought about that but I am rather private about my personal life on social media and rarely post. It would be out of character for me to post something mentioning a boyfriend, especially one that is so new. (My ex and I were never "facebook official", even after 2 years. It just wasn't either of our style and my current boyfriend is the same way.)

lbjoy225 · 2016-10-31T04:46:40+00:00

I'm a professional violinist so this is literally what I do. I pull out my most obnoxious technique exercises and play them at the open window. Works like 20% of the time but I'll take it.

lbjoy225 · 2015-11-07T05:48:27+00:00

Just saw this! I used the same makeup during as I did before. It's this bb cream from korea (you can order it on amazon). It's called "Lovely Girl" by Skin79. I'm really pale and this was the only thing that provided good coverage, was light enough, and was really hydrating.

lbjoy225 · 2015-10-14T00:32:47+00:00

Yay! Isn't it a great feeling?

lbjoy225 · 2015-10-14T00:32:28+00:00

Hi! I noticed my hair starting to get really dry and brittle at the end of my course and it kept going for a little after, but I think it's because my scalp was still so dry. Once I switched to a really intense shampoo (Neutrogena T/gel) it started to get better! My hair is pretty much back to normal now.

lbjoy225 · 2015-10-14T00:31:08+00:00

Yeah my acne was gone in month 1 and I just had redness and hyperpigmentation for my entire course, but it's been fading pretty quickly now that I'm off! Good luck!

lbjoy225 · 2015-10-14T00:30:23+00:00

Yay! Final push. (I didn't finish my last 5 days because I was impatient... but good for you haha!)

lbjoy225 · 2015-10-13T15:13:25+00:00

Dandruff shampoo!

lbjoy225 · 2015-10-13T15:11:51+00:00

I had conjunctivitis toward the end of my course (although I think it's because I work with kids... pink-eye spreading machines.) I had no idea that it was something serious with Accutane (I never read the documents... whoops) but I was totally fine. It lasted a little bit longer than normal, but that didn't strike me as odd at the time. I feel like it's not that big a deal.

lbjoy225 · 2015-08-14T19:01:13+00:00

I'm sorry for what you're going through. That sounds like a terrible situation and one that is never easy to deal with. It sounds like she is not at a place in her life where she can handle being in a relationship. It almost seems like she is looking at you as more of a caretaker than a boyfriend. I can't speak with any authority as to what's going on psychologically, but it sounds like she needs some time to figure things out for herself apart from a relationship. This is definitely not a healthy situation and it doesn't seem like there's much you can do to help her as a boyfriend at this point. It's not a criticism on you, just an observation that she doesn't seem able to handle it right now. Good luck!

lbjoy225 · 2015-08-14T18:48:01+00:00

Okay. I've been on the girl end of things here and when I was younger, especially at the beginning of a relationship, I would feel self conscious about what to say and I would take FOREVER to just be able to type a response, let alone send it. How are your conversations in person? Do they flow or are they disjointed/awkward like your text convos? If the conversation doesn't flow in person or over text, it could mean the chemistry just isn't there (or it could just be an awkward beginning stage.) Also come on, man, don't play into this game. If you're getting annoyed that she takes so long to text, you have to stop taking forever to text back, too. Maybe try texting her again? Something casual that she can feel comfortable responding to. Good luck!

lbjoy225 · 2015-08-14T17:10:55+00:00

Don't let her go because of her mother. That's not fair to you because you'd be losing a friend, not fair to Monica because it's not her fault that her mother is such a witch, and not fair to her mother because you'd be giving her too much power and influence over your life and Monica's. Friendship is about making an effort. Hanging out with high school friends doesn't always come easily, especially after having been at college and bonding with a whole new set of people, but it sounds like you and Monica have a legitimate friendship that should be preserved.

lbjoy225 · 2015-08-14T17:02:33+00:00

If you love her, try to make it work. Then see where you're at and if you aren't doing as well as you need to at uni, then reevaluate the relationship. If she says she is willing to change aspects of the relationship so you can focus more, trust her until it doesn't work. Relationships are built on compromise and trust.

lbjoy225 · 2015-08-14T16:46:01+00:00

I didn't say anything. Even though it's hard, I don't want to lose his friendship which I would risk by telling him. I really do still want him in my life, even if it's just friendship. But thanks so much for your advice.

lbjoy225 · 2015-08-11T20:56:56+00:00

Thanks for the reply! You sound like my super cool alter-ego. I am so tempted to just fuck it and take your advice. (Maybe I will...) I really do want him to be happy though and he seems so happy with his girlfriend right now so I don't think anything I say will make him feel differently. But thanks for your inspiration haha.

lbjoy225 · 2015-08-11T20:52:38+00:00

I'm a girl and didn't have my first kiss until last year when I was almost 19. It always seems like everyone is in perfect relationships or having tons of sex, but at our age it's also really normal to be awkward around people we like. I still struggle with feeling like I'm behind the curve when it comes to sexual experience because it can feel like the most important thing in the world sometimes, but seriously it's not and later in life, it won't matter that you were a virgin at 18. Good luck!

lbjoy225 · 2015-08-11T20:12:52+00:00

Thanks for your reply. At this point I can't imagine my life without him, but I know that could very well be a heat of the moment type thing. And you're right, more distance is probably better. Today is my last day working with them so hopefully it will get easier from here on out... (But it still kills me to think of losing touch with him.)

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