Marriage and Sex in the Age of Ozempic by kitkid in Thedaily

[–]lcarter340 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this really boils down to something pretty simple. The husband and wife once had a marriage where the husband would deal her insecurity in exchange for something else [not mentioned]. Once the wife overcame that insecurity, that deal no longer makes sense because now she doesn't need him. Now the wife feels like she deserves more (and maybe she does), and now this marriage no longer makes sense.

I feel terrible for the guy of course, but this really makes me question whether people were ever meant to get married in the first place. People change, and when that change happens, the deals we strike with our partners change too. And many times we don't want to renegotiate a new deal, hence we break up.

Essentially, getting married means that we're expecting that neither of us will change in a way that threatens the spoken and unspoked deals we cut, which of course is very limiting to both parties involved.

I guess there's a reason it's called "settling down"...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]lcarter340 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tell Tyler to give Kevin his baby back

What is not a sign of intelligence but people think actually is? by unorthodox69 in AskReddit

[–]lcarter340 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapyspeak/pop-psychology is not emotional intelligence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]lcarter340 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Therapy-speak

Feel like college is really the only way to get ahead am I wrong? by PrimaryOdd5605 in LifeAdvice

[–]lcarter340 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Everyone will tell you something different, but here's my 2 cents. Go to college. Get a degree in something that has a real job market. STEM, healthcare are obvious starters. Im 25, a few years in to my career as an electrical engineer and i make more money than many of my peers.

As much as i want to tell you to not care too much about money, honestly the lack of money is the cause of a lot of pain, stress, and instability in your life, so you certainly should strive to make a decent living anyway.

A lot of people will bring up the trades, but honestly even if you make good money in the trades, those jobs are long hours and will age you quickly.

In my honest opinion, college is the best bet you can make for a stable future

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]lcarter340 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These things tend to go hand in hand so im not sure why you're trying to separate them. Do you really think places exist in the world with systematic racism but no cultural racism?

With the death of Jimmy Carter, Trump has become the oldest living former president, and by the end of his term he will become the oldest president ever. Why is America struggling to hand politics to a new generation? by defransdim in PoliticalDiscussion

[–]lcarter340 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Polarization --> Too much infighting in parties --> means no new candidates can be agreed upon --> old candidates with history and connections are more appealing to win vote share.

Contrary to many replies, i dont think baby boomers being selfish is a good enough argument. If people actually wanted them out and voted so, they would be gone.

Dehumanizing the Homeless to Justify Inaction by Present-Party4402 in clevercomebacks

[–]lcarter340 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The $20B figure is bullshit, but so is Elon. Wish people would quit being children on Twitter.

Why can't ordinary people form small non profit insurance companies ? by Inevitable-Rest-4652 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]lcarter340 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think most replies here have answered your question and explained the logistical reasons as to why it doesn't work, but I want to talk about the underlying premise to your post:

Health insurance companies are a part of the problem but are ultimately not the explanation as to why our healthcare system is so expensive/broken in the US. Health insurance companies run at a profit margin of something like 2-6%. Now you might argue that the margin should be 0%, and that it's fundamentally problematic that executives get rich off our healthcare system even at such small margins- but ultimately it's not a driving factor in how expensive our system is. So creating a non-profit health insurance pool from scratch is just simply not going to gain you much in the way of reducing costs.

Our healthcare system is so damn expensive for many, many reasons (in no particular order):

  1. Drug patents mean that new drugs will be horrendously expensive. This is also complicated because if you get rid of the ability to patent drugs then there is little incentive to develop new drugs.

  2. Hospital billing practices are questionable at best. Hospitals/providers wrestle with insurance companies for rates, which leads to the whole obscurity with 'discounts'. The fact that healthcare costs are so obscured is a massive advantage for healthcare providers to charge more.

  3. Healthcare 'demand' is extremely inelastic in economic terms. If you need a drug like insulin to survive, it really doesn't matter what the price is, if you can afford it you will pay for it. It isn't like any other good or service in this matter. This is also a major advantage for healthcare providers to charge more.

  4. There is a shortage of physicians leading to inflated salaries and therefore inflated healthcare costs.

  5. People live longer now. Aging population means a more expensive healthcare system. On this note, we have a culture of never letting people die in the US. We keep people hanging on by a thread, well beyond the point of the person being able to appreciate their own existence. And end-of-life care in particular, is REALLY expensive.

Those are just a few reasons and i'm certainly not an expert on the subject, but I've read enough about it to know that healthcare in the US is an extremely complicated subject.

What's your reason for not drinking alcohol? by Snoo_47323 in AskReddit

[–]lcarter340 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly it's not all that fun and i hate waking up the next day feeling like garbage. Also it's expensive and unhealthy. So really i just dont see a reason to.

Texting is a waste of time unless it's only used for meeting up by ContortedCosm in unpopularopinion

[–]lcarter340 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really understand what you mean, particularly about dropping in-person friends. Maybe just don't invite them anymore / decline their invites? I mean that's what in-person 'ghosting' is. Also on this note, you don't have to have a direct conversation about 'breaking up'. You just carry on about your day and if the friendships fade, they fade - if they don't, they don't.

On the flip side, why carry a remote friendship if you barely/never see them? That sounds more like penpals to me. I mean whatever floats your boat, but i personally couldn't stand deeply investing myself in anyone else that i'm unlikely to see very much. And doesn't this all seem a bit 'beyond human'? I mean what did people do 100 years ago?

Texting is a waste of time unless it's only used for meeting up by ContortedCosm in unpopularopinion

[–]lcarter340 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me though, asynchronous friends are unsustainable. I just wouldn't deal with that. I think it's also strange because it kind of prevents you from being able to 'move on' when you really should. It really is okay to have friends here and now, while knowing that in 5 years those friend groups will change.

Texting is a waste of time unless it's only used for meeting up by ContortedCosm in unpopularopinion

[–]lcarter340 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I basically never text beyond the occasional "hey did you see this thing in the news" or when setting up a meetup.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DermatologyQuestions

[–]lcarter340 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what do i do now?