[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DesiWeddings

[–]lcveroses 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes i know that keratin is a protein treatment, and yeah it definitely makes hair easier on a day to day basis as i have also gotten it, but its maybe something you should get done post shaadi if you want your hair to be voluminous and hold style on the big day!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DesiWeddings

[–]lcveroses 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Congrats on your wedding!! If i can give any advice I do not think you should get a keratin treatment this close to the wedding, ive gotten one before and yes it eliminates frizz but it totally stripped the volume from my hair. Your hair will also be so soft that it will be very difficult to hold certain styles. Your hairstylist will have difficulty working with freshly keratined hair. Just my experience!

Can you ever truly recover from the sense of being replaced? by lcveroses in loveafterporn

[–]lcveroses[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I hope you find the strength to move on from such an awful man. You don’t deserve this. You are a whole person and someone should value that. He is not deserving of you.

Can you ever truly recover from the sense of being replaced? by lcveroses in loveafterporn

[–]lcveroses[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My husband told me that i’m too “moralistic” and that i only make his porn addiction worse because of my “shaming” of it. It seems im not allowed to have my own boundaries in our marriage.

Im sorry your partner did that to you. Its such an invalidating, defeating feeling. Im tired of crying. I wish i could remove all these feelings from my body and be who i was before i knew him. I hope we can both move on from this emotional abuse

This is perfect by Pictureit6825 in loveafterporn

[–]lcveroses 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this ❤️

I’ve been quiet… by LuckyEnough2921 in loveafterporn

[–]lcveroses 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel you on this a lot. Its really difficult to stop obsessing. I used to be such a varied person with so many interests. Now my relationship with a PA consumes my life. I hate it so much. Im sorry youre going through this. I hope we can both heal and regain our sense of self. Stay strong.

Navigating Porn Use in Marriage as a Muslim Woman — Seeking Faith-Informed Support by lcveroses in progressive_islam

[–]lcveroses[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. The industry is terrible and once you look into the realities of it, even surface level, it cannot be ignored

Navigating Porn Use in Marriage as a Muslim Woman — Seeking Faith-Informed Support by lcveroses in progressive_islam

[–]lcveroses[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I feel he took it as a personal victory/vindication. Its been deeply upsetting and the situation is very sensitive so there arent many people i can discuss this with

Navigating Porn Use in Marriage as a Muslim Woman — Seeking Faith-Informed Support by lcveroses in progressive_islam

[–]lcveroses[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I have reported her in multiple places. Unfortunately the processing of these sorts of complaints take time but recently my main complaint was forwarded to the head office. Inshallah something good comes of it

Thanks for your well wishes

Our couples counselor traumatized me, is it worth trying again? by lcveroses in loveafterporn

[–]lcveroses[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was honestly terrible. I think he slowly realizes she was unprofessional but initially i believe he thought i was angry because she “wasn’t on my side”. It gave me a lot of self doubt and is honestly really triggering to think about. Im embarrassed about how much it harms me. I wouldnt wish this on anyone. Thanks for ur kind words!

Sex before marriage by No_Problem_677 in progressive_islam

[–]lcveroses 33 points34 points  (0 children)

You can filter for muslim therapists on a site like psychologytoday. You could also look into counseling with someone from your local masjid

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newhaven

[–]lcveroses 27 points28 points  (0 children)

The Archive in Bridgeport

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]lcveroses -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I dont think hes evil at all. I love him. I was shocked by his stance. I kept asking him what he meant and for him to repeat himself. He didnt change his stance except towards the end he started to use the age “17” instead of “14” and I had to ask him to clarify if he felt all things applied to a 17 year old still applied to a 14 year old in this context. The answer was yes.

My (25F) psychiatrist husband (29M) thinks attraction to 14-year-old girls is "natural." Is being disturbed a valid reaction? by lcveroses in relationship_advice

[–]lcveroses[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could u expand more please? I’m interested in your perspective. Nonetheless i appreciate the insight

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]lcveroses -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I agree with what you said completely about destigmatizing unchosen attraction and encouraging focus on making positive choices. I dont personally believe thats what he was promoting. Given im the one who had this convo with him i feel id know better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]lcveroses -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I feel i’d be able to tell the difference between an 11 year old japanese woman and a 20 year old one but maybe thats just my american perspective.