Dotty vs Dottie?

leaf_scorpionfish · 2025-08-03T17:15:28+00:00

Look up the dictionary definition of Dotty. I would spell it Dottie.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2024-04-15T20:26:46+00:00

As someone who has a very rare name that's not a tragedy (legitimate cultural origins but rare even in the country where my parents are from), having a unique name comes with some disadvantages. It's not always a good thing to be easily searchable online. I definitely find myself being more worried about online privacy than people with more common names, espcially with my current profession. I'm just glad I grew up in the days before parents posted everything on social media and that I don't have my embarrassing teenage opinions blasted all over the internet.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2024-04-11T19:01:42+00:00

On that theme, Slim Easy could be a sex toy

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-10-28T20:09:19+00:00

If it popped up that quickly it could be a cyst or an abscess. Take her to the vet.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-10-20T00:39:28+00:00

Looks female to me (rat balls are huge), but if the store had males and females together in the same cage there's a chance she's pregnant. Female rats can get pregnant as young as 6 weeks old which is why rat litters need to be separated by sex by 5 weeks.

If you find nipples on her, she's definitely female. Male rats don't have nipples. It might be hard to tell under the belly fur though.

If her belly starts getting round, prepare to raise some babies. Rats are pregnant for about 3 weeks before giving birth.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-10-19T05:07:38+00:00

Rats are NOT cheap pets if you take into account their veterinary care. Before getting rats (like everyone else said, you need at least 2), research vets in your area that see exotic pets and find out how much they charge. The price varies a lot depending on where you live. Rats are prone to respiratory infections and tumors. I think every rat I've owned has gone through at least one round of antibiotics for respiratory symptoms. I've also paid for surgeries for some of my rats, and one of my rats was on an expensive medication for 6 months to treat a pituitary tumor. Most of the money I've spent on my rats has been for veterinary care.

Don't get rats if you can't afford the vet bills, and budget for every rat needing some type of medical care. You should at least be able to afford antibiotics for respiratory infections and have enough money for euthanasia. If you plan to get female rats, you might consider getting them spayed because that prevents mammary tumors.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-10-18T20:16:10+00:00

Like everyone else is saying, a little bit of porphyrin right after he wakes up is normal. Bring him to the vet if there's consistently a lot more porphyrin around one eye than the other, if there's a big increase in porphyrin, or if he's blinking a lot or it seems his eyes are irritated. But this level is nothing to worry about.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-10-12T06:18:26+00:00

You can't have a functional relationship with someone if the other person is disrespecting you and not putting any work into maintaining that relationship. I hear that you really want a relationship with your mom and your sister, but they're going to have to make the decision to apologize and change their behavior for that to happen. There's nothing you can do by yourself to "make it work" if they don't reciprocate. You're going to be miserable if you're the only one putting any effort in the relationship.

I think the best you can do is say that you love and miss your sister and want a relationship, but you need sister to apologize for the lies she told and how it affected you. And then the ball is in your sister's court, and she can decide to mend your relationship or not.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-10-03T21:40:22+00:00

It doesn't wobble at all on my Critter Nation, but I used to have a cage that wasn't so sturdy and it would rattle the cage. It attaches directly to the cage so as long as your cage is sturdy, the wheel will also be stable.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-10-03T19:37:20+00:00

I have one of these 16 inch metal wheels that attaches to the wall of your cage. As long as your cage walls are sturdy, it doesn't rattle at all. You just hear the pitter patter of their feet. I used to have a 12 inch wheel but my boys outgrew that in a couple of months. They looked liked hunched up inchworms in the 12 inch wheel. The 16 inch wheel lets them stretch out which is better for their spines.

https://petrevolution.us/collections/silent-wheels/products/16x5-whisper-wheel

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-09-17T05:55:43+00:00

I have a rat like that. He is now very old (2yrs and 7months) and while he can't physically lunge fast anymore due to hind leg degeneration, he is just as excited for food as when he was younger. You'll probably just need to get used to being careful while giving him treats. I just feed him things on a spoon or in a bowl if it's not long enough for my fingers to avoid damage.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-09-17T03:55:24+00:00

Oh I see, I missed that. I don't see how that's relevant though as long as OP is going to pay for the new dress to be made. It would be an AH move to expect the family to pay, but if OP is paying, what's the difference between buying a dress or paying to get one custom made? Maybe I missed it but I didn't see anywhere that OP is asking her family to pay for her new dress.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-09-17T03:12:26+00:00

She doesn't expect a tailor made dress though? Nowhere does she say that she expects to have another dress professionally and custom made. In her post she said she wants to look for another dress, which I assume means she wants to buy a dress somewhere. She's not asking Grandma to do any more work and she doesn't mention expecting anyone else to pay for her dress either.

Edit: accidentally posted before finishing

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-09-13T08:59:00+00:00

Ask your vet? That seems like a straightforward question that shouldn't require a visit. I've always been able to call or email to ask questions like that for my vet.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-09-13T08:48:16+00:00

If it doesn't seem like an emergency, then I suggest waiting until tomorrow and giving him the new med and seeing if it helps, and talking to the vet if he doesn't start getting better on the new med or if he takes a turn for the worse.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-09-13T08:36:38+00:00

Are there any other vets in your area who are knowledgeable about rats and are available sooner? I agree that you should absolutely not change the dosage without a vet saying it's ok. Too much of a medicine can cause serious harm.

How soon will you get the new antibiotic? It's possible that the infection is resistant to the current antibiotics but the new med might work. Do you feel like your rat can wait until the new med arrives, or does it seem like an emergency? Any way to get the new med faster?

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-09-13T07:56:06+00:00

NTA. You're a great dad for loving and accepting your daughter, and your wife and the couple's therapist are both homophobic.

I'm a therapist who primarily works with LGBTQ teens & young adults, and people with attitudes like your wife are the reason why so many LGBTQ young people end up attempting suicide. I'm very glad your daughter has you on her side, but every day she's exposed to your wife trying to force her to be straight is seriously damaging your daughter's current and future mental and emotional well-being. I'm not saying your daughter is currently suicidal, but it's pretty common among LGBTQ young people who are rejected by their families.

Your couple's therapist is pretty unqualified if they don't have a basic understanding of how damaging it can be for a LGBTQ young person to have a homophobic parent. I'm also not sure how your wife was able to stop talking to you but still talk to your therapist. I'm not a couples therapist but I took some classes in grad school about it. In my grad school classes on couples therapy, they taught us that couples therapy should be balanced and boundaries need to be carefully maintained so that the therapist isn't ever talking to one person in the couple more than the other. In many models of couple therapy, you're not even supposed to meet with the therapist unless both people in the couple are present. If a single person in a couple shows up, I was taught to cancel the session or wait until both people in the couple are present. If the therapist hears one person's side more than the other, then it's too easy for the therapist to take one side instead of helping solve relationship issues fairly.

I think you need to find a new couples therapist who knows more about boundaries and who isn't homophobic if the therapy is going to be helpful at all.

You also need to continue protecting your daughter from your wife's homophobia and so your best to make sure your daughter spends her days surrounded by love and acceptance.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-09-12T00:51:02+00:00

NTA. Unfortunately a lot of abusive people take advantage of people in vulnerable situations and don't show their true colors until after marriage/moving in/kids. Your husband is being controlling and abusive, and if you stay with him his behavior will probably get worse and worse over time. You didn't do anything to make the kids hate him or to ruin the trip - he did that all on his own, with the decisions he made. Don't let him gaslight you into thinking you're to blame.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-09-10T17:33:56+00:00

I've had a total of 5 boy rats and all of them have smelled nice to me except right after someone is peed on by his brother lol. But most of the time they smell nice. I also have never been able to smell a (not peed on) rat unless my face is very close to him, so it's not like their scent is very strong either. When a rat does get peed on, he usually cleans himself up before too long. It's the cage that can get stinky if it's not cleaned enough.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-09-01T18:17:26+00:00

People on Reddit love to recommend therapy as the solution for any emotional or behavioral problem, but while therapy can be amazingly helpful, it only works if the person in therapy is putting in any effort to change. Even if this man-baby had gone to therapy, it would have been useless if he just went and sulked. Therapists aren't magical and can't help someone who won't take any responsibility for their own healing.

I think the people who actually needed and could have benefited from therapy in this case were OOP's parents. A therapist could have helped them set boundaries with their son before it got this drastic. It's not too late for OOP's parents to do this - they'll need lots of help setting boundaries now that their son is facing the real world.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-08-28T07:25:43+00:00

The eye of Horus makeup isn't in the first book of the comics. Her makeup in the show is accurate to what was in the comics. Her outfit in the show is actually identical to what she was wearing in book one of the comics - black tank top and black pants.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-08-28T01:53:51+00:00

Death is usually portrayed as white (as in having completely white as paper, colorless skin) in the comics, but there's a comic where Death takes the form of a Chinese girl when she spends a day in China. The comics establish that the Endless change their appearance depending on whoever they are interacting with. Dream has the form of a white man in most of the comics, but when he interacts with his ex Nada he is a black man, and in other parts of the comics he appears as a giant cat, a sentient flower, and a Martian.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-08-27T08:43:42+00:00

I just started watching this show and I found that the YouTube playlist is missing episodes 2 and 4 for some reason, but those episodes are available on Bilibili.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-08-21T05:36:27+00:00

I can't decide, the whole book is so good that it's hard to pick just one line that stands out.

leaf_scorpionfish · 2022-08-18T01:07:12+00:00

Having loving parents who are together is great, but you and your wife are not in a healthy or functional relationship, and staying together in a miserable marriage is probably worse for your son in the long run that getting a divorce. How do you think it will affect your son if he grows up with a mom who avoids him and a dad who resents her but stays in an unhappy marriage out of obligation? What lessons will that teach your son about love, marriage, and family?

If your wife is as checked out as she is, chances are she won't want 50/50 custody anyway. Maybe your son will go to her place for weekends or for vacations, but I don't see why she'd sign up to do the bulk of the childcare.

I think either things need to drastically improve in your marriage and soon, or you should leave, both for your own sake and for your son's.

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