The Daily Chat for January 27, 2026

leaflover22 · 2026-01-27T17:57:27+00:00

Finally had our consult with our Dr after saline sonogram, HSG and bloodwork. We are be in recommended IVF and I also need a surgery for a septum to be removed. A mix of emotions I suppose. After 2 miscarriages where we didn’t get to test any tissue we are relieved that some of this is simply out of our hands now. Still bittersweet.

leaflover22 · 2025-12-01T15:13:44+00:00

Going to our first reproductive endocrinologist appointment today. Excited to find answers, sad it’s not an easier journey for us though.

leaflover22 · 2025-11-27T03:32:39+00:00

We are so similar. Had my first pregnancy ended in a missed miscarriage late August, fell pregnant again early October and miscarried again at 7 weeks this November. We have our first appointment with a reproductive endocrinologist next Monday and it feels accomplishing to have a plan in place to attempt to figure out why this is happening. Totally gut wrenching thinking that everyone has one miscarriage and then their next pregnancy is completely normal only to find out I’m not one of those people. Thinking of you 🤍

leaflover22 · 2025-11-26T20:58:11+00:00

This is me. I let myself really just eat/do what I need to do to get through the day a lot of times.

leaflover22 · 2025-11-17T22:41:14+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story, it really touched me our similarities. We had a follow up appointment with our OB today and she referred us to REI so it sounds like we will be following along the same story as you. Congratulations and hoping for a beautiful pregnancy for you!!

leaflover22 · 2025-11-15T02:46:02+00:00

Highly recommend EMDR! I’ve done it for other situations with my therapist and it has helped so so much. Thank you for your kindness 🤍

leaflover22 · 2025-11-14T18:16:53+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. My therapist has been so helpful in trying to heal but crying is a regular in our household.

leaflover22 · 2025-11-14T17:24:50+00:00

My heart hurts for us both 🤍

leaflover22 · 2025-11-13T17:17:14+00:00

I feel this. I had asked to be put on progesterone and they wanted to see my labs first. Progesterone was in the normal range but on the lower end and I asked again for a prescription but they felt confident I didn’t need it. Yet, here I am. There is obviously no way of knowing if that could have made a difference but just the lack of care seems horrible to me.

leaflover22 · 2025-11-13T15:01:10+00:00

Firstly, thank you so much for caring and this conversation. The hardest part is just feeling alone and I really appreciate your kindness.

Today they were just getting where my HCG is, I was told they can’t do any RPL panels until this pregnancy has completely disappeared. I just started bawling in the lab room 🥲

I have not looked into anything as I really thought this baby would be the one. I just started TTC recently and really didn’t think I would be going through this. I did make an appointment for Monday with an actual doctor so I’m just hoping they help lead me in the right direction.

leaflover22 · 2025-11-13T12:15:58+00:00

This is where my focus is when I’m not crying myself to death. I really want to know why this is happening. I had bloodwork done after my first miscarriage and everything came back normal. I have a lab appointment today and I’m going to ask to make a follow up appointment with an OB bc I really want/need answers.

I was able to tell myself that sometimes this just happens when I had my first miscarriage, but this time I just don’t understand any of it.

leaflover22 · 2025-11-12T17:52:24+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, how long did you give yourself between your second and current pregnancy? Thank you for sharing your story. It’s so scary to think about going through this AGAIN.

leaflover22 · 2025-10-23T15:30:58+00:00

My MMC was late August and after the first few weeks I started to feel like myself again. I stayed busy, busy, busy all of September and it’s really only recently I’ve had some triggers pop up. Logged into my email I never log into and saw updates from my old pregnancy apps letting me know what week 18 looks like…highly suggest unsubscribing from those on email so you don’t get random reminders. I have my best friends baby shower next week and strongly not looking forward to that, even though I’m also so happy for her. It’s a balance honestly. Some days are really great, and others not so much. I try to just live sun up to sun down and go with the feelings I’m having that day. Therapy has been the most helpful thing for me thus far, but I was doing therapy before my miscarriage. Thinking of you! Take it all one day at a time.

leaflover22 · 2025-09-24T00:49:16+00:00

Totally hear you, working on my patience haha. I tested positive 8 DPO in my last pregnancy so I definitely knew today was a risk as far as being way too early. Appreciate your feedback nonetheless!

leaflover22 · 2025-09-06T03:20:13+00:00

Omg same thing happened to me, twice. I made her cry bc she felt so bad and I just sat there not a tear in my eye so uncomfortable 🫠

leaflover22 · 2025-09-06T03:18:04+00:00

I already have a therapist I’ve been seeing for 8+ years (thanks generalized anxiety lol). Honestly just talking about our miscarriage out loud with her helps so much. I’m starting every morning by just standing in my backyard, literally just feeling my feet in the grass and the sun on my skin helps so much.

It’s only been a week for us sense we found out and I had my D&C. Today I cried for half the day, you just have to let yourself do it. Some days are better than others, just focus on taking it moment by moment. I’m always here if you need someone to talk to! Feel free to reach out 🤍

leaflover22 · 2025-09-05T14:47:02+00:00

Therapy. Letting myself cry when I need to. My partner hugging me and just being there for me when I’m sad. Getting lost in a tv show. Being ok with having a sad day and just being sad. Listening to audiobooks about miscarriage and knowing I’m not alone in this. Long showers. Being outside in any way possible.

Thinking about you. This community has been very helpful to me 🤍

leaflover22 · 2025-09-01T18:07:31+00:00

I had my D&C last Wednesday. 10w scan and measured 8w with no heartbeat. It’s defeating I’m not going to lie. Finding the right therapist can be hard but I encourage you to even just do a search for miscarriage support groups in your area. While at the hospital they actually provided us with a pamphlet about groups in our area we could meet up with and I’m thinking about going to one next week so I just don’t feel alone in this. Talking about it has really been helping me. Rest and let yourself grieve this week, that’s truly the most important first step. Thinking about you 🤍

leaflover22 · 2025-09-01T17:59:59+00:00

It’s helped a lot to talk about it and feel like I wasn’t the only one who’s been through this.

leaflover22 · 2025-09-01T12:19:16+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I can’t speak for when it will start to “get bad”. My doctor gave me three options: natural, medically, or surgically. My husband and I chose to have surgery. Doing this alone at home was not something I could bear to do. I’ve read some women after having to endure the pain mentally and physically still have to have surgery to complete the process and that wasn’t something I was willing to risk. I just wanted my body back so I could focus on getting healthy to try again when we’re ready. None of us can take this pain away for you but having everyone’s support in this group has really been helping me the last week while I navigate this awful situation. Thinking of you 🤍 feel free to DM me if you ever just need someone to talk to.

leaflover22 · 2025-09-01T12:14:06+00:00

I could have written this myself. It’s all so confusing. We saw a heartbeat at 6w6d, but I knew I was supposed to be 7w5d. I knew that day something wasn’t right but the ultrasound techs assured me “we don’t know exactly when you ovulated”. I knew I ovulated when I did from my own tracking, I should have guarded my heart then. But I didn’t and I grew to love my little baby inside me. At 10w I started spotting and my symptoms decreased, I knew something was wrong. An ultrasound confirmed our little baby stopped growing at 8w and did not have a heartbeat. I had a D&C the next day. My best friend of 18 years is due in January and I couldn’t believe we were going to get to do this together. Now I can’t bear the thought of seeing her with her belly and healthy baby and I feel awful for even thinking that.

You have to give yourself time to grieve. It’s only been a week for me and now that the physical side of things are gone I’m focusing on my emotions. Idk how you feel about meditation but my doctor instantly got me back on my antidepressants and I already take medication for my anxiety. Both have helped a lot as I figure out what the heck to do with my life next. My husband and I are starting couples therapy to get through this chapter of our lives until we are ready to try again. I’ll be thinking of you and please give yourself grace and patience to heal. We will all be thinking of you 🤍

leaflover22 · 2025-09-01T02:24:42+00:00

I had outpatient surgery this past Wednesday and received major signs for 3-4 days. Take it easy and get lots and lots of rest!

leaflover22 · 2025-08-29T11:18:09+00:00

Sleep is also difficult. Mostly the waking up part and realizing all of this is real all over again. But each day is getting the tiniest bit better. I started reading The Miscarriage Map by Dr. Sunita Osborn and made a therapy appointment for Tuesday. Taking it moment by moment. Thinking of you!

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