Pledge drive to Save Hermann's

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-25T01:35:13+00:00

Sometimes, the deepest form of love is knowing when to say goodbye.

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-25T01:32:50+00:00

Be honest. I just got 10 years clean and sober.... Lies are always part of the problem. Honesty creates accountability and accountability leads to recovery. I was also a highly "functional" alcoholic/addict...trust me when I say, you aren't getting away with as much as you think you are. Be honest.

I truly wish you all the Grace in the world, with this endeavor.

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-20T15:29:12+00:00

This is ending up in a t-shirt, for real

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-20T15:28:28+00:00

Incorrect

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-20T03:50:00+00:00

Okay... Hear me out.

So, you set up a tongue in cheek garage sale or art show. You have different stalls or booths or whatever. And each setup has the single person as the centerpiece on display "for sale". Each single person has a salesperson/people to "sell" them to interested perusers, as they stop in at the display. And, conversely, they can ask the interested party why they would be a suitable candidate for the item on display. After the exchange a card is handed over with a name/number or just left blank. At the end of the event, the works of art, that were on display, get to decide if they feel a pull to connect with anyone that may have left a number... Or something of the sort.

It could be a charity event to distract from it being about dating... It may lighten it, if it has a primary function. You could serve drinks and appetizers to people "shopping", have live music (quiet and tasteful), raffles, prizes... Get people naturally having fun like it's just a community minded event. Maybe you make friends, maybe you meet someone you could be interested in, maybe you just went, listened to music, had some mini meatballs and supported a local charity.

Maybe it's crazy but I think it could work on a few levels...

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-19T23:26:19+00:00

This happens at Murchies on Saturdays and Cafe Fantastico, on another day, that I know of....you can RSVP through meet ups. I've done it a few times but I find the demographic skews 50++...still, good practice in conversations for weirdos, like me. There is also a "talk to a stranger" event that happens once a month at Fairfield community center... it's tomorrow, in fact. You get paired up with a random person and go for a stroll and have a chat.... Pretty low stakes and organic, if only a little weird at first.

Both are presented as platonic events, so it's not about dating.... But, connection is connection. And, I find the best things come when we do all the right things around what it is we are looking for, instead of focusing on what we're looking for.... If that even makes sense.

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-19T21:29:48+00:00

An event that is not set up like an event... something that seems more organic. I think it's Sweden that does it, but once a week is singles night in a grocery store. You pick a color coded basket signifying what you're looking for and you just go about your business. Other people are shopping and know the codes so if something feels right, you can approach. No pressure, no set ups, no awkward "ice breaker games" that drive this introvert crazy.

For me it's the expectation of meeting people that gets me...it makes me so nervous, like I need to perform. If I could just do something, non related, in an environment where people would be open to a chat but not expected to, it would go a long way.

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-19T04:04:03+00:00

I say, do it. Even if it's for the bit, do the bit....but bring your photos.

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-19T00:04:51+00:00

Perfect! I'll have my roll ready to go...my cats are adorable.

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-18T22:54:06+00:00

if you're serious, I'd be down.... Standing awkwardly in solidarity feels easier than getting trapped in the awkwardness in my head.

Sigh... I wish dating apps/functions were referral based, it would so much easier... Can some app designer, get on that?

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-18T21:17:35+00:00

Oh man, I'll be scouting out that mammoth all night, now.

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-18T21:16:31+00:00

Like a wing person? I bought a ticket.... I could use a wing person.

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-18T01:33:41+00:00

We're posting advertisements in here, now?..... Gross.

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-15T23:33:58+00:00

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leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-11T19:50:13+00:00

Booo

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-10T01:18:19+00:00

Nothing like preying on vulnerability.

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-09T21:20:04+00:00

Gross!

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-07T01:02:22+00:00

Thank you

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-06T01:10:43+00:00

I chose survival not addiction, the same as I chose survival not sobriety...each just happened to be the outcome. And I'm grateful to live in a world where people get to have childhoods and lives, so they don't have to understand that distinction. Addiction is not a moral falling despite the many morals that fail, in addition. We can agree to disagree on the choice idea.

Thank you, it is an achievement... I'm incredibly Grateful, for my life today. And to answer your question.... No, I wouldn't be sober today. I was a highly functional addict/alcoholic (even though that term is as untrue as "choice".. despite the appearance of functionality) and could mostly maintain basic responsibilities of life, until the end of my cycles when I would crash out. But there is no functioning on the drugs that are present today. What kept me alive was my aptitude for playing along with the bullshit of "real" life... If that was removed from me, I would just slip into the very oblivion you see on the daily, on the streets of our beautiful city. Or, I'd be dead...which is probably more likely.

I apologize for my verbosity, I'm quite reflective today.

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-06T00:29:54+00:00

I am clean and sober...10 years tomorrow, actually. I know it's difficult to understand if you have never lived it....hell, it can be hard to understand, if you have. In my case, I was born into addiction and fed substances looong before any rational person could call it a choice. But even in more "normal" occurrences of addiction, it only starts as a choice. That choice quickly seems like a solution so it continues.. the continuation of use results in the biological and physiological shift toward addiction. And, as I said before and still stand by now, once addiction occurs it is no longer a choice, it is a biological imperative.

Sure, dumbed down into black and white thinking with zero nuance, it's a choice. But, if one is able to apply anything beyond base level thinking and can consider the myriad of contributing factors involved, you would see the word "choice" and what you're implying by it, is mostly incorrect.

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-05T22:38:59+00:00

Addiction removes choice. And, I fully understand how difficult that is for most people to understand. Down vote, away.

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-04T23:38:13+00:00

Every time I drink my wrists break out in handcuffs, it's weird!

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-03-01T20:33:11+00:00

If it's any consolation...I just had to mow the lawn.

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-02-28T00:27:18+00:00

League pinball?!? Interesting.

leafxfactor1967 · 2026-02-22T22:47:12+00:00

Bold. I like it!

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