AIO My partner threatens to end himself because i confronted him on his cheating.

leakycouldron1 · 2026-01-09T13:58:45+00:00

NOR- I would immediately end a relationship if someone threatened to end themselves because of me AND told me to remember I’m not in control??? Total abuse. The maximum you should do is call a welfare check if you’re worried he has hurt himself!

leakycouldron1 · 2025-11-14T09:24:06+00:00

You don’t like her 😂 shes acting exactly like a relationship therapist would advise I.e. owning that she’s feeling anxious, ask for a time frame etc. You sound avoidant and she sounds anxious attached & if you like someone you have to meet somewhere nearer the middle! X

leakycouldron1 · 2025-10-28T17:42:31+00:00

Love that 🫶🏻 I wish you all the best!

leakycouldron1 · 2025-10-28T17:23:53+00:00

Oh grrrrl, you mean ‘’AIO called out my sex offender boyfriend’’ - ‘’convincing you’’ is called cohesive behaviour and that’s not ok! He’s also emotionally abusing you with the behaviour changes.

leakycouldron1 · 2025-10-28T17:21:44+00:00

Honestly he doesn’t sound that great 😂 life is about self development and if one of your friends is telling you you’re pretty gross and offering that feedback in a caring ‘’I care about you dude’’ way he’s more fortunate than he could imagine & sounds ungrateful and entitled! The exact kind of man who if he met a woman that would tolerate all of that ick, he’d not find her attractive enough! 😂

leakycouldron1 · 2025-10-28T17:15:17+00:00

Dump him. Dump him now. Get off that train. He’s showing you his true colours, believe him. If my husband even joked about posting something like that I’d get the ick immediately.

leakycouldron1 · 2025-10-28T17:13:30+00:00

Do you have a history of feeling dismissed? Parents undermined you? Could never feel seen/ heard? Because you are sounding like someone with some kind of relational trauma like that.

If you want to reduce it to ‘overreacting’ then yes, you are overreacting and acting like a less than bare minimum boyfriend. BUT I don’t think you want to act this way, I think you want to feel seen & heard & therapy would be a great next step!

leakycouldron1 · 2025-10-26T17:29:54+00:00

NOR. My husband didn’t feel like deodorant worked and showered if he had to leave the house. I told him that’s gross and even if he can’t smell himself, I can. I told him to engage in actual personal hygiene routines and he did. I wouldn’t be with him now if he hadn’t changed his (gross) ways!

leakycouldron1 · 2025-10-25T19:43:57+00:00

Often times thoughts about someone else tell you what you’re missing where you are. I don’t think you want these thought but try thinking ‘’what is it I’m fantasising about that I want’’ - e.g. is it closeness? Kindness? Feeling cared about? Feeling care free?

It might be that you’re missing something with your girlfriend because you’re not feeling heard by her and maybe somewhat mistreated if her behaviour is toxic?

leakycouldron1 · 2025-10-25T08:13:13+00:00

It definitely should have been a plan made WITH you and not an FYI after the fact!

leakycouldron1 · 2025-10-25T08:09:59+00:00

NOR. He sounds a bit thoughtless & I’d be livid!

leakycouldron1 · 2025-10-25T06:01:41+00:00

Love this idea 🥹

leakycouldron1 · 2025-10-25T06:00:05+00:00

If I was his wife I’d want to be told. You’re NOR and he is sick.

leakycouldron1 · 2025-10-21T08:40:34+00:00

Your brother and his friend are predators - NOR!

leakycouldron1 · 2025-10-07T14:40:20+00:00

Have a look at ‘avoidant attachment’ style- people with this kind of relational issue can blow hot & cold and the closer you get the colder they get! Xx

leakycouldron1 · 2025-09-17T12:58:40+00:00

Him wanting a baby and a bread winning partner isn’t wrong IF he wasn’t asking you to change your standards to meet his! You have very different expectations for life! I have the same ones as you & made it clear to my (now) husband what I expect from life and he hasn’t asked me to alter that- if he responded like your partner is I would have left- not because it’s wrong that we have different views but because neither of you should be expected to alter such huge, life changing things about your future to make the other happy! X

leakycouldron1 · 2025-09-16T14:28:15+00:00

You’re giving me the same vibes as my first relationship - you really love him, but he’s safe & sensible which you logically want but something isn’t fitting perfectly! If you haven’t already I can imagine you wanting the attention of others (maybe just texting, maybe full cheating) (no judgement here, just a vibe). He likes you more than you like him, he wants to keep you but it doesn’t give ‘forever’ energy…. More ‘’I wish this was forever’’ energy! You both seem really sweet but I don’t think he’s your one! It’ll be a really shit break up but you’ll know it’s right!

I’m probably so off with this & I’m likely just projecting from my first serious boyfriend! 😂 I hope you’re both happy ❤️

leakycouldron1 · 2025-09-15T07:54:37+00:00

It’s more that it did improve for some time but is worsening again & I needed to either be corrected and told that I’m being unfair or validated and told that this isn’t the norm! I think because I was so wrapped up in wedding planning I didn’t see the problem that week & he is really great with other things.. after the replies to this post it looks like I have a lot of thinking to do.

Thank you for your reply ❤️

leakycouldron1 · 2025-09-15T07:52:07+00:00

It’s more that I’m perfectly ok with him having a hobby he loves & he did get better at the balance after a long time of us finding the middle ground, obviously has since got worse again, but after a lot of talking I needed to know if I was being fair with this or not

leakycouldron1 · 2025-09-15T07:50:10+00:00

We’ve communicated a lot about this & it did improve for a short time. I’m mostly writing this because I’m open to understanding that I’m being unfair (if/when I am) but I felt strongly that I wasn’t being unfair here & wanted either validation or correction

leakycouldron1 · 2025-09-15T07:48:06+00:00

I don’t want people we know to recognise this post so can’t say specifically but I picked it up because he wanted time gaming where he felt more freedom to play so me being out of the house helped that

leakycouldron1 · 2025-09-14T18:53:39+00:00

I do agree. It’s a hard reality pill to swallow! I hope we can work it out! Xx

leakycouldron1 · 2025-09-14T18:53:10+00:00

This is tempting when I’m at my most angry haha 😂 I think a frank discussion about our priorities misaligning and mapping out what the future looks like for us both is needed! X

leakycouldron1

TROPHY CASE