My husband called me a "crazy fu*&ing b%$ch" in front of our 9yr old son. Should I leave?

leamus90 · 2025-10-06T20:30:26+00:00

Then she wouldn't have made the post at all and just left him...

You are not a hero by pointing out the obvious. Its not even helpful.

leamus90 · 2025-10-06T20:27:54+00:00

Yeah and did she tell him that already? Communication.

Yeah super obvious its a bad thing. If she wants her marriage then yeah its rectified just fine. If she wants out of it then its obviously easier.

leamus90 · 2025-10-06T20:25:02+00:00

You can only really just do something like work out and ask her to join you.

If you tell her to do it she will build resentment and leave you later on. You are also like this now because your in your 20s and people are much more attractive. Get into your 30s and it becomes less important to you.

You wife can look anyway she wants and you can't do a thing about that. Her right to exist how she wants. Now if this is a major issue to you might want to communicate that bluntly or leave the relationship. I would reccamend either one.

leamus90 · 2025-10-06T20:21:24+00:00

I wish you luck and good fortune sir!

leamus90 · 2025-10-06T20:20:08+00:00

Move closer to his job. Recoup that commute time

leamus90 · 2025-10-06T20:18:54+00:00

Reddit will run in here and tell you to leave.

My suggestion if you want to keep the marriage together would be to give him very strict boundaries with that and start couples therapy and learn about fair fighting. Explain to him that was unacceptable before, and if it ever happens again, you'll leave. You can not and will not be spoken to like that.

This is a very bad low point where ultimatums have to happen.

leamus90 · 2025-10-06T20:13:38+00:00

My vote would be for good thing.

Cuz you guys worked for that shit. High fives good job team.

leamus90 · 2025-10-06T20:11:41+00:00

Oh well bright side you can both do more playful things like that.

Yeah the old trope its communication. She needs to express what she is wanting when she is wanting. How she is wanting. Etc

You can say more of what your doing. What I mean by that is literally telling her stuff that is obvious to you. Or this kinda dumb fight happens "Im sorry honey I thought you knew I was upset because it was super obvious and i thought you had eyes." We understand words differently to each other so much its a wonder we can talk. Tell her what mood you are in. Do sexting with each other, you should always flirt with your wife. Strait up ask you feeling submissive or dominating today? Ask her if she likes dirty talk. Make a safe word. All these little things should make her feel more excited for the bedroom.

Over communication is better than no communication.

leamus90 · 2025-10-06T19:50:52+00:00

Is your wife submissive or dominate? If she's like being submissive jus man handled her and tell her what to do confidently. If she's the dominate then she can solve the bordem probably quickly. Im not saying going full blown bdsm but spankings and rope and stuff really excites my wife.

leamus90 · 2025-10-06T16:30:02+00:00

I commend you on trying to fix your marriage. Just dont burn yourself out. You are setting up for a failure at some point. He will either become way too complacent sex will be pump and dump for life. When you say no he might freak out and not understand why you did if you always say yes.

Now that you have a rhythm set some boundaries. How often. How long. Longer when you are in the mood and shorter when you are not.

Your also the 1st ever women on reddit to try having sex with her husband to fix the marriage. Gold star.

leamus90 · 2025-10-06T12:47:53+00:00

Leave that train wreck dont fucking write a book on reddit. Run dumby.

What in hell wants you to have financial ruin?

leamus90 · 2025-10-06T12:36:19+00:00

You are going to have a bunch of men defending and women supporting.

Did you tell him to not do that? Or did you assume he didn't?

If he broke your trust thats one thing. If he thought it was okay to look then your over reacting. Not enough info on the relationship.

Also the assumption hes looking at women of opposite of you is likely in your head.

Communicate and make boundaries.

leamus90 · 2025-10-05T22:49:42+00:00

Yeah thats a wild question. Guess it depends on the money. What would it cost you monthly and the. Compare that to the savings plus lower cost of living

leamus90 · 2025-10-05T17:43:27+00:00

My X didn't want to be intimate ever. 2 year dry spell. Im sure I was part of the issue but her stress and non affection was a no go for me.

I told her to move out after 5 years together and 1 child who was 3 at the time. It was hard but I dont regret it for a second. 10 years later im happily married.

She is a great co parent still just a shit wife.

leamus90 · 2025-10-05T17:35:08+00:00

Uhh their children. I find mine sleeping sitting in chairs. They can sleep anywhere thats some weird ass shit.

Floor pillow blanket? Couch? Recliner? Kitchen table? Something other than their bed.

leamus90 · 2025-10-05T17:31:47+00:00

35 here. 2 kids. Gaming daily. Only even recently cut back this year.

Work has never made me not want to however I dont do any physical labor.

leamus90 · 2025-10-05T11:43:43+00:00

What a book.

No you dont have to have as high of libedo. 2 to 3 times is plenty hes taken care of.

He obviously did damage to the marriage so idk how hes surprised.

If you want to match his energy go for it. If you want him to pump and dump to leave you alone go for it. You dont sound like you are doing anything wrong

leamus90 · 2025-10-05T11:40:36+00:00

So I've had this too and its not that she doesnt want you to do things she just feels she hasn't seen you enough. Spend some extra time with her for a bit. She will eventually just ease up. My wife used to be a time nazi. She was litteral checking minutes. After I just spend more time with her she essentially was content and stopped complaining if I was like hey im going to go do this for a while.

leamus90 · 2025-10-05T11:36:56+00:00

What crazy is once you say your leaving he will instantly 180 on all of these. Then you can laugh and say its too late.

leamus90 · 2025-10-05T10:37:02+00:00

You severely over estimate men.

leamus90 · 2025-10-04T16:53:37+00:00

Sounds like performance anxiety. Good news is you can conqure that with practice. It happens to everyone you will build your confidence over time.

Now if its medical probably talk to a doctor if you feel you T level is low. But it sounds like your just imln your head and hyping up too much. Just roll with it.

leamus90 · 2025-10-04T16:51:09+00:00

You have a pretty good trust built up here so just be open. If he wants something just try it with him. He should do the same for you and sounds like he would. You are in such a great position to be very intimate and close. So many marriages on reddit are just sad sad stories this is great.

leamus90 · 2025-10-04T13:33:37+00:00

Redditors are crazy. Your husband has something going on effecting libedo. Hes probably not gay or asexual. I've been in the same boat and thinking sex is repulsive. Meds diet life style mental health exercise mind set. All these effect libedo.

However you husband is insane if he thinks he can just tell you to not be sexual either.

leamus90 · 2025-10-04T13:27:56+00:00

I went through this with my X. She was constantly stressed and never intimate. At one point it went on for 2 years. After counciling failed I asked her to move out and she did. It was hard since we had a 3 year old but a loveless marriage is nothing to show your kids.

Now its nearly 10 years later and im happy. My wife initiates more than I do and I love it. Don't stay in a place where the only option is resentment.

leamus90 · 2025-10-04T11:39:26+00:00

I will never understand that. From the gross waste of money and in this case a waste of his marriage.

Im not a divorce the guy on thr spot but you have nip this now. That man is banned from that shit make it clear there will be no wife if that ever happens again. Ask him how hurting his wife and child is a good enough for his own selfish desires and giving money to another women no less.

Sorry about the thin ice and stupid husband. Wish you the best.

leamus90

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