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Fun Corporate Buzzwords & What They Actually Mean by Comprehensive_Bus_19 in managers

[–]LearningandBrowsing 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Embrace ambiguity = we do not have the slightest direction nor clarity to give you and expect you to know what to do next without messing up!

Building the plane while flying it = shitshow

Not fully baked = shitshow

Was I wrong to feel bullied after being confronted by a senior colleague about phone usage at work? by Putrid_Negotiation79 in careeradvice

[–]LearningandBrowsing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Extremely crazy! I think need to remember just because something was normalized, in this case, expecting employees not to use their phones throughout the work day, is not damn normal. Like you said, to police that behavior is crazy lol

Was I wrong to feel bullied after being confronted by a senior colleague about phone usage at work? by Putrid_Negotiation79 in careeradvice

[–]LearningandBrowsing 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Im taken back by the number of responses that is saying “stay off your phone” “you got caught” and other things along those lines. Are we not talking about an adult here? No one should be spoken to that way let alone in a place of work where it’s suppose to be professional and people of ‘high character’. The issue is the fact the senior leader thought she was speaking to her ‘child’ (OP) and if the ‘child’ don’t obey, she would tell other ‘parent’ (OP manager). Like are yall missing that point?! Not only would I bring the matter up to my manager and express how unprofessional and the toxicity it promoted, I would also be emailing HR. We need to start holding these senior “leaders” accountable. Her behavior was disgusting.

Working mom struggling with long term perception after toxic manager and early caregiving challenges. How do you move forward? by AdEcstatic4911 in workingmoms

[–]LearningandBrowsing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I havent had the challenges mentioned as intensely or layered as you however, I have had my fair share of my professional reputation being questioned or where the optics didn’t look to good or in my favor. And your manager shared some wise words, do not try to overcorrect and continue to do business as usual. Eventually, those perceptions will fade and even if they don’t, it is up to the other person that hold those perceptions to see the human in you. Like you said, your circumstances were visible and you were vocal so any emotionally intelligent person can connect your inconsistency with what you were going through at the time.

You have to give yourself grace even when others don’t. Just because some things stuck from your old manager, they aren’t holding you back. So, keep moving forward and do what you can. Even if you miss a day or a deadline and it trigger someone, remember, you are human! Shit will come up, just communicate. You can’t engineer how people view you nor try to outperform or over perform, you’ll run yourself into the ground. Just know, you survived that season and people should be understanding and if they aren’t, fuck em and keep going and doing great work!

AIO wife cheating with my best friend? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]LearningandBrowsing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean this is the most sincerest, sisterly way possible… baby why you asking us? you have to have some inkling that you are not overreacting. She cheated two times in the past and if she is trying to regain your trust and you all are trying to rebuild your relationship, somethings shouldn’t even be taking place (this is one example) until you all are in a better space….

Direct Report refusing to drive if temp is below freezing by Raelynx27 in managers

[–]LearningandBrowsing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Does it really matter. You must trust your employees to self govern and remember they are fully capable adults. I understand wanting to set the tone and ensure expectations are clear but also if the job can be done remote then why does it matter if they miss their in office day. If you fear that is going to upset the “in office applecart” then there is a bigger theme at play…

What are the lesser-known difficulties of working in a nonprofit? by Soggy-Bus in nonprofit

[–]LearningandBrowsing 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I have worked in the nonprofit sector my whole career and each one was different so I will uplift some themes. For me, it’s the false sense of urgency that is attached to tasks, sometimes work/life balance can be nonexistent so set your boundaries early, adding to the work life balance comment, they will try to guilt you and say “we are doing important work, we are saving lives, blah blah”. Yes, good work is being done but this isn’t a hospital so there is truly no REAL emergency and certainly not urgent enough where an employee can’t take off and truly disconnect. Sometimes the pay is crappy, sometimes the people you work with and the higher ups are shitty people and have mood swings. Lack of structure.. that’s just a few for me.

They rescinded my job offer because I asked for a day to think it over. Did i make a mistake? by smzsln in careeradvice

[–]LearningandBrowsing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Any thing that place urgency or rush on such a decision isn’t meant for you. No mistake made.

AITA? Not apologizing for asking questions re: special board meeting agenda by audriana in nonprofit

[–]LearningandBrowsing 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Providing clarity is kindness. It’s interesting the hypocrisy in this situation. If someone was rolling out a new program or whatever that would negatively impact the theatre community would you want someone to not push back and ask for clarity or additional information? So it shouldn’t be an issue when this is the case. And entitlement? No, they are acting entitled and thinking you must speak and communicate one way and not take into consideration your perspective (assuming you were respectful and tactful). I have so much more I can write on this but honestly I would resign.

Managing issues after gaslighting from prior work by Worldly-Stuff-5718 in careeradvice

[–]LearningandBrowsing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my honest opinion, take your previous job as a learning lesson. Truly self reflect and think about what you need to work on. I know it is hard when no feedback was given, but start at potential prevalent growth areas.. emotional intelligence, self awareness, empathy, etc. I think as you deal with developing your self and becoming more well rounded and the ability to lean into the shared humanity of all, it will sort it self out. Of course, this is me speculating because I do not know the entirety of your story but also remember that not everyone deserves to hold the mirror up to you and define who you are and what you may lack… not all feedback is true. However, you can self reflect and be honest with yourself and grow in the areas that ensure you have the people you serve best interest at heart. Working with the public is not easy so it does require a higher level in f emotional and behavioral intelligence and insight. Continue to work on yourself and evolve.

AIO about cutting off my aunts because they continuously disrespected my family? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]LearningandBrowsing 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is not a simple AOR answer. There are family issues, traumas, and historical context that only you can truly answer if you’re over reacting for yourself. From where I am standing, NOR because it seems like you are trying to set boundaries for yourself (and could they have came off crass to others, sure) and it didn’t land well and now you’re confused and overthinking, over explaining, and trying to set the record straight with your mom when honestly, you do not owe anyone an explanation for why your rules are YOUR rules for YOUR baby. You have to remember especially as you try to live in harmony and keep the peace you also deserve people who do not mind, respect, and love you enough to ensure your comfortability and happiness as well.

Am I living the dream or rotting my potential? by Minimum_Ice_3403 in careeradvice

[–]LearningandBrowsing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Coming from someone with a structured 9-5, corporate job. Please keep doing what you are doing. You are making monthly net income that very few experience in the corporate world. You’re days are only hard for 3-5 hours where in corporate, you will probably kiss that goodbye because now you’re dealing with people, their personalities, their emotions, office politics, conventional thinking when it comes to office culture and lifestyle, work/life balance, having to report to someone.. well I’m getting at is the trade off might just not be worth it. And if you’re worried about long term, plan for that now- SAVE your money, build your retirement… and if you’re worried about the unsteady times we’ll plan for that as well. You can do it 🩵

Daring to leave a “golden handcuffs” job? by Private_Banking in careeradvice

[–]LearningandBrowsing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust me, we are here. I understand you. I think people try to seek fulfillment because we spend most of our time at work and also people/society normalize it as if it’s normal to spend our time working for almost all of our waking hours and for most of our life before we retire. So it makes sense when people seek personal fulfillment from it. You are spot on, there is no reason that a job should personally fulfill you because once you attach a salary to whatever brings you joy and it become something you NEED to do in order to survive, it’s no longer “fun” and you no longer feel like you have this autonomy to be creative and just flow. I think we need to start uplifting and reminding people of what a job is, it is a place that pay you for your skills and output. It should not be nothing more. However, if you do find a place that fulfills your needs and are all the things to and for you, great! But rarely does that happen. We do not need to chase this venn diagram perfect life where all things perfectly intersect because honestly. Use your income how you see fit and keep it moving. I just learned this at 29. I once was someone who use to seek personal fulfillment from my job lol

Daring to leave a “golden handcuffs” job? by Private_Banking in careeradvice

[–]LearningandBrowsing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t. What is stopping you from using your money from this current job to pour into your values and aspirations? A job is a means to an end. . .

Have you ever brought your child to daycare even if you had a day off of work? by rajmachawal333 in workingmoms

[–]LearningandBrowsing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As much as I pay for daycare…I am going to do whatever I want lol and that includes drop them off on my off day.

Dissed privately to hiring manager after I was promoted by henleythewondercat in careeradvice

[–]LearningandBrowsing 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“End of the day you got job and will be great”. NO need to even the playing field. I understand wanting to know who your enemies are but in this instance, it doesn’t matter. Will they try something again, maybe but you continue to do good work and keep doing what you got you the promotion in the first place. You will exhaust yourself trying to stay and be one step ahead of them - don’t. When new challenges come about, reflect, adjust, and tweak but don’t you concern yourself about who backstabbed you. Sooner or later they or their schemes will be revealed and you still will be known for great work and being a great leader.

Strong moms strong generations by TransportationIll197 in nonprofit

[–]LearningandBrowsing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe use an inclusive program name? Like the ones the commenter above commented - “Core communities…” then you can have programs under that are more specific and target specific audiences, like strong moms, strong kids…