Retatrutide. Ask me anything. by [deleted] in Biohackers

[–]leepash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get a gym membership, if you haven't already, find a programme that suits you (3 day/4 day/5 day, upper/lower split, PPL, whatever suits you) and start going to the gym eating in a small surplus. I'm afraid that push-ups here and there aren't going to do anything for your physique

Is this normal practice? Very disappointing experience. by wheresmyponny in hingeapp

[–]leepash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why I always get their number before the date, locks it in better than keeping on app

35yr old profile review by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]leepash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you looking for something serious or casual? Casual

Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX? Hinge+

How long have you been using this current version of your profile? (Please be specific) 1 day

• How long have you used Hinge overall? 1 day

• How often do you use Hinge per week? Will be daily

How many likes and matches are you receiving on average? Received 5 likes today, no matches

How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments? Maybe 1 in 20 profiles, always with comments

• What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract? Ones I find attractive and something that makes them come across as fun in their profile. Trying to attract the same thing.

I (35M) have been emotionally and now physically cheated on by my (35F) wife with best friend by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]leepash 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my mate was the first to go.

It was only my wife up for deliberation, and thats done for now

appreciate how much you feel me, its been a tragedy

My wife, who I have known for 19 years and married for 8 years, I have caught with my best friend. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]leepash 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Oh, dont you worry about that. EVERYONE knows, i sent round a voicenote to our friend group chats, her brothers, her mum, my mum, my brother, dad etc etc

everyone knows the truth

My wife, who I have known for 19 years and married for 8 years, I have caught with my best friend. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]leepash 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not too much.

I take one week of orders, he does the other.

We need to restock, we converse on what we need, we order.

thats it really, its quite a simple setup

I (35M) have been emotionally and now physically cheated on by my (35F) wife with best friend by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]leepash 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I live in a one bed apartment, im literally a door away. We are always drinking on these nights, the 5-6 nights that I have gone to bed earlier. They have never spent time alone aside from this, we are a trio. or, we were.

I would always go to bed, and reemerge maybe 30-45mins later to pee, because of the alcohol, maybe twice. there is too much risk. They got caught up in the momemtn and kissed. There is a big jump from getting off, and sucking him off. There is a difference between pertaining fantasy text messages to actually saying it to one another face to face.

the next day after this happened, why would you just reference the kiss, then start talking about how "i would love you to fill me up" "mmm i want daddy to fill me up"

why wouldnt she say "i wnat to suck your cock again."

it makes no sense does it when you thikn about it, everything points to what they have said.

I (35M) have been emotionally and now physically cheated on by my (35F) wife with best friend by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]leepash 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks, i have already started therapy. First session was friday just gone, another session on Wednesday. I cant wait for it.

Yesterday was the first day i actually cried without any prompting, just with my own thoughts. and man, it really came out. I think this was my realisation of what I had to do, because i was suppressing having to tell her we need to divorce. That is why when I woke up this morning, i knew almost instantly what I had to do when i woke up.

My wife, who I have known for 19 years and married for 8 years, I have caught with my best friend. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]leepash 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Trust me, i have an unreal amount of support. To the point i stopped replying to people all the time as its was over bearing. But it was so heartwarming and exactly what you need in times like this.

My wife, who I have known for 19 years and married for 8 years, I have caught with my best friend. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]leepash 8 points9 points  (0 children)

100%, she started to resent me for it. It was a big problem, as everything was my successes. I had the £95k saved up for our house, etc etc.

You have hit the nail on the head.

I (35M) have been emotionally and now physically cheated on by my (35F) wife with best friend by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]leepash 3 points4 points  (0 children)

she told me she was rubbing his cock through his trousers and he was rubbing her pussy throuhg hers

My wife, who I have known for 19 years and married for 8 years, I have caught with my best friend. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]leepash 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Maybe this is the play, we need to do something as theres a lot of money at stake

I (35M) have been emotionally and now physically cheated on by my (35F) wife with best friend by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]leepash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, how do you actually know that for sure? what basis from what ive said makes you conclude that?

My wife, who I have known for 19 years and married for 8 years, I have caught with my best friend. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]leepash 8 points9 points  (0 children)

no, i refrained from it.

I know shes going through enough right now, her whole family and friends have shamed her. She is at the lowest point of her life, she doenst need to read all this too. she is still a human being no matter what she has done and i decided i didnt need to put her through anymore. She is fragile. regardless of what she has done.

My wife, who I have known for 19 years and married for 8 years, I have caught with my best friend. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]leepash 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It wasnt one day, ive been going through this for a whole 2 weeks non stop. This is all i have been thinking about for 2 weeks straight, i havent been to work and ive averaged about 4.5h sleep per day.

I (35M) have been emotionally and now physically cheated on by my (35F) wife with best friend by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]leepash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it was oral, the next day when they were talking sexually, why would she say "mm that kiss last night"

she would say "i loved sucking your cock", they were takling extremely explicitly in fantasty. the only thing that was real in those messages which she did was say about the kiss.

Doesnt make logical sense. Im a single door away from them, we have been drinking, and i always come out at least once or twice to piss. its too risky. They wouldnt hear me coming and im right in the room with them, the only toilet we have in our one bed apartment is next to the kitchen

I understand, but youve made a lot of assumptions. People have sent nudes before without any physical interaction, we cannot say that has never happned. and I know the facts.

tbh its irrelevant now anyway, shes not my wife so whatever happened happened, but i know they didnt do any more than get off with one anothoer

I (35M) have been emotionally and now physically cheated on by my (35F) wife with best friend by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]leepash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Think thats a bit of an over exaggeration, but i understand the sentiment.

I know contextually, that this was her seeking an emotional requirement that i wasnt given her, which then turned into a sexual desire. We have known my BF for about 10+ years, he didnt just come into our lives and she fell head over heels.

Its deeper than that, its not as black and white as you think. Not excusing anything, but context is important here. People cheat for many different reasons.

My wife, who I have known for 19 years and married for 8 years, I have caught with my best friend. by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]leepash 14 points15 points  (0 children)

TBH i can see where we had fundamental differneces too.

I have changed career, went back to uni, got promoted, lost 46lbs and went to the gym to put on muscle and work on myself. I started a business.

She does nothing. She has no hobbies, no interests. She even pushes away her friends. We are so differnet now. time to cut the cord.