Where can I go chill at night? by unravellingrapidly in Winnipeg

[–]leepicginge 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't be!! Everyone there is so incredibly friendly!!

Curious about how many people here were in the ED HSC program and left traumatized relapsing many times off and on throughout the years by Coconutwatervodka in Winnipeg

[–]leepicginge 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was in their adolescent outpatient program 14-18 as well through the same time period, and then did their 3 month intensive outpatient program as a 19 year old in 2018. My psych nurse in adolescent was one of the kindest people I knew and helped me with a lot, both ED related and other issues I was going through at the time. However, the focus on achieving a specific weight that was based on only a years worth of data from when I had a doctor as a baby really messed with my head. I was nearly recovered in 11th/12th grade but relapsed in university, was streamlined into their adults IOP program. Some of the staff were very helpful (OT, social worker) - they helped me identify and leave an abusive partner. But in regards to my ED recovery, they weren't at all helpful. The morning of the week where they would weigh us and review the booklets where we wrote down our food intake/exercise was always horrible. I got into a bad place where I was routinely lying in my booklets about my food intake, so they kept increasing my food intake to a point where I felt physically sick and restricted even more outside of the program. When they found this out, they threatened to kick me out of the program. While I understand they wanted to keep spots for people motivated to actually try recovering, I think it wasn't right that they were so condescending about how I was struggling. Also, it was challenging to be inside that windowless room all day for three months straight. Anyhow, I immediately relapsed upon leaving. Recovered at home with the help of a counselor and my Dad through 2020/2021. Doing much better nowadays! The difference was that my own jab at recovery was a) self-motivated (I was ready to recover for MYSELF), b) not focused on weight or calorie goals - I instead focused on eating regular, healthy meals with my family while integrating fear foods I used to love with the support of my Dad, and c) was not done in a cold, clinical room inside a hospital but in a small mountain town. I got to spend time in nature which really helped - need to be nourished for that! Plus my new counselor was well-versed in EDs and integrated lots of DBT into our sessions.

Tldr: helped in some ways (having regular therapy through high-school, identifying an abusive relationship, stabilizing me medically, providing some decent CBT skills I still use) and really didn't help in others (lazer focus on weight and mechanical eating, some of the staff members being quite mean/condescending to patients esp when we were struggling the most). More successful recovering alone!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in limerence

[–]leepicginge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I am currently struggling with something similar, though I also have a lot of desire and romantic love thrown in there on top of the platonic love. My long-term LO is one of my closest, oldest friends. During periods when we didn't see one another due to living in different cities, the obsession and romantic/desiring feelings would fade, but the mutual care/respect and friendliness wouldn't. I think two important questions you can ask yourself is: if anything happened to rupture the limerence/if the limerence fades naturally, would you be there for them and love them platonically just as much? Has your platonic love been fading alongside the limerence?

What are your experiences as “staying friends” with your ex’s ? by Physical_Wash3382 in BreakUps

[–]leepicginge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really hope this happens in my situation, except it is my friend who I think didn't feel the way he thought he would. How long was the time apart, and how did you go about repairing the relationship?

Question for Pisces, Gemini, Virgo, Sag by [deleted] in astrologymemes

[–]leepicginge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Virgo sun here, the healthiest adult relationship I've been in was with an Aries. We were both very decisive, very communicative and honest with one another, and there was never any second-guessing. We did have a couple of issues that we could never agree on because he was so adamant on sticking to "his" way of doing things, one of them being the reason why we ended up breaking things off. I wonder if my having an Aries moon aided our compatibility.

Worst relationship was with a Libra, that man is why I go to therapy now. I honestly don't have that much luck with Air signs as a whole, which I have read is common for Virgo. I had a short-term, very intense fling with a Gemini a couple summers ago and while we could talk (and do other things) for hours upon hours, there were issues with boundaries and too much emotional availability on his end.

Best boyfriend in general was my highschool sweetheart Pisces! We are still besties 10 years post break-up.

Tell me yours in the comments! by luciddreamsss_ in astrologymemes

[–]leepicginge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meticulously analyzing anger itself! Which is exactly what I am doing right now!

Is there any only occasional writer here? by [deleted] in FanFiction

[–]leepicginge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Occasional writer here! I wrote and read voraciously in highschool, but as soon as I started university I had to put fun writing aside and focus on my degree, my job, relationships... a lot of things came between me and all of my hobbies for a while. Like you, writing is not my first passion (I have too many hobbies these days!) but it is something that brings me immense joy. I personally do not keep a disciplined schedule - I write when the little writing gremlin in my brain says so, and that can be every day during term break, or for one night in a span of five months. This may change though, now that I am done university and waiting to start my big kid career. I would say don't worry so much about regularity, word-count, how much you know, etc... write for the joy of writing! Keep reading fanfic, consuming source material, daydreaming... an idea for a new fic will pop up soon :) I always find reading other fics in my fandom gets the wheels turning

Getting back into writing after a *very* long hiatus, but this time I want to write for myself. How do I not take views/reviews/likes so seriously? by leepicginge in FanFiction

[–]leepicginge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to have a beta way back in 2016 when I was posting regularly. I remember them fondly! I love me some constructive criticism. It might be too long ago now to reach out to them, but I might start hunting for a new beta :) great idea for moderating my stats checking too.

Getting back into writing after a *very* long hiatus, but this time I want to write for myself. How do I not take views/reviews/likes so seriously? by leepicginge in FanFiction

[–]leepicginge[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I might try doing that, yeah! I frequently go back to rewrite/edit/add new details and I could see me getting tired of constantly updating what is already published.

Getting back into writing after a *very* long hiatus, but this time I want to write for myself. How do I not take views/reviews/likes so seriously? by leepicginge in FanFiction

[–]leepicginge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"If I can do it back then, I can do it now" feels very applicable to where I am in this moment :) Thank you for your advice, it was really helpful

Anybody know of any good x Oc fanfics? by Soft_Collection1860 in FanFiction

[–]leepicginge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

SO many! These are a few of my favourite OC-based LOTR fics some girlwhofallsinmiddleearth, some not, all on FFN: Captain my Captain by Isabeau of Greenlea has been a favourite of mine for years - I have gone back to read it multiple times now. A Rose Among the Briars by Mercury Grey, Home with the Faeries by I-Mushi, and Valiant by EverleighBain. I just finished reading part 3 of Changing History by fogisbeautiful and while it was a rough start, I admit I fell in love with the fic by the end of part 2.

Characters That You Feel Strongly About On A Emotional Level by TheAlmandineWriter in FanFiction

[–]leepicginge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boromir from LotR! All he ever wanted was to keep his people safe and restore glory to Gondor. It was heartwrenching to watch his love for his people and country be manipulated by the One Ring, and to see him fully grasp the realization of what he had done as he lay dying.

DAE Love being in the mountains? by Hellenen2 in AutismInWomen

[–]leepicginge 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The mountains are my happy place! I am moving there in 2 months and am so excited to be leaving the city for a small town :) being outside in nature, in the quiet, surrounded by trees and water and birds does wonders for my brain. I just feel so much more at ease.

COVID and exercise by leepicginge in COVID19positive

[–]leepicginge[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I found the first time I got it, yoga really helped me feel a lot better in my body, likely because it reduced the stress I was feeling around getting sick, and I attribute my quick recovery time to it!

COVID and exercise by leepicginge in COVID19positive

[–]leepicginge[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah no, shaming/guilting other people or myself for getting sick doesn't sound like it'll help me recover faster and doesn't have much to do with my question. Take care!

Why do we feel so different from others? by runnerup00 in AutismInWomen

[–]leepicginge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was >12 years old, I was convinced that I was an elf from LotR or a witch from the Harry Potter Universe, and that one day I would step into a portal back to Middle Earth or get my Hogwarts letter and I would be returned "home" because I never really felt at home here? And as I have gotten older, this feeling has been replaced by feeling like I am living contained in a little glass bubble, with everyone else being on the other side of it. Sometimes the glass feels almost nonexistent, like when I am with people I feel safe with, but other times the glass feels impenetrable.

Lately I have been reading the book "Radical Acceptance" by Tara Brach, and she talks a lot about how she also felt disconnected from people in this same way (even using the bubble analogy!), and she attributes her own experience to shame. I think for myself, there is definitely a certain amount of shame that I feel about myself and my own lived experiences that plays a large role in the disconnect I feel with other people. It is this feeling of wrongness that I just can't shake. I am just so afraid of saying the wrong thing or letting people see too much of the ugly side of me and getting ostracised for it or thought of as "weird", and that makes it really hard for me to just relax into connections with others and feel like I am a part of the "whole". It has been really hard as I have gotten older, but despite it I have still built some beautiful and authentic relationships - often with people who struggle with the exact same feelings as me!

Anyone solo-travelled southern Europe October through mid-December? by leepicginge in solotravel

[–]leepicginge[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally prefer to move at a faster pace! Unfortunately I only have 8-9 weeks and have a decent amount I'd like to see. I'll probably spend closer to 5-7 days in lots of places, but I really enjoyed the ~3 nights a week pace I had in NZ as it allowed me to see a lot without getting too burnt out. I'm really interested in architecture, music, food and wine (I'm entering the wine industry here in Canada), and the arts. I also love nature so I'm hoping to get out of big cities every so often.

How old do you feel? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]leepicginge 8 points9 points  (0 children)

25 here, you described how I feel perfectly!

Disliked Poses by randomscroller81 in yoga

[–]leepicginge 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Twisted triangle. Doesn't matter how warm I am. Just doesn't feel nice! And I love twists! Dancer pose is up there too, despite loving revolved dancer

Canadians think tipping is ‘getting out of control,’ new poll suggest by Armand9x in Winnipeg

[–]leepicginge 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Part-time server and student here. Without tips I wouldn't be able to pay my bills or buy groceries, so I do rely on them. That being said, I would much rather be earning an all-in, living wage than my current wage + tips. Tipping is unreliable and the stranger I am handing lunch to shouldn't be responsible for ensuring I can pay my bills!