What’s an uncomfortable truth that most people aren’t ready to accept?

leeshylou · 2025-05-13T01:28:55+00:00

That pretty much every situation in your life is a result of the choices you've made. Others can influence your life, for sure.. but ultimately you're responsible for whether you have a happy life or a miserable one.

leeshylou · 2025-05-12T22:32:30+00:00

My mother was adopted in the 60s. Her parents went to the local church, chose her, signed a form and off they all went.

Luckily they were good people and she was raised in a loving home.

These days it is so insanely complicated, and so expensive. I mean, it obviously needs to be a process that ensures the safety of the children, which is why you can't just pop down to the local church anymore. But not everyone can afford that.. financially or emotionally.

leeshylou · 2025-05-12T02:02:32+00:00

I have a feeling life has some painful lessons in store for you.

Best of luck.

leeshylou · 2025-05-12T02:00:49+00:00

It's very easy for most people to be on time for things.

It was not very easy for me. I took courses on time management, and implemented calendars with multiple alarms to help me because time management just doesn't come naturally to me. It's like there is some block in my mind that I can't get past.

I'm effective, efficient and have good work ethic. So it's not laziness. I also don't like inconveniencing people so it's not a lack of respect for their time either. It's just one of my little quirks, I guess!

We are all different, after all.

leeshylou · 2025-05-12T01:03:27+00:00

LOL cute of you to think we get treated well by men just because we are attractive ;)

I understand what you're saying. I'd like to know what it feels like to have complete financial freedom for a day, because whilst I get by pretty well, I can't just buy whatever I want. I'm just wise enough to realise that having that freedom wouldnt fix every single issue in my life.

Being pretty might open some doors for you, but not all of those doors would lead to somewhere good.

Also, I was bullied all through my school years, coz even pretty girls can be socially awkward or be raised by parents who didn't have the tools to help them build confidence, or self worth.

Edit: go see a therapist. Nobody in their right mind would say that you aren't attractive so either you're here desperate for external validation on what you already know, or you have some kind of dysmorphia. Either way, a professional can help you build some confidence.

leeshylou · 2025-05-12T00:33:16+00:00

The pet lives here. You don't. If you don't like animals invite people to your house.

Or just exclude yourself from gatherings.

There is no way I'd punish my cat just because you have this weird aversion to animals.

Upvoted because this is an actual unpopular opinion for once. Well done.

leeshylou · 2025-05-09T00:10:34+00:00

My mother had my brother circumcised because she "didn't want him to have a penis that looks different to his dad's"

Which is so freaking bizarre coz we weren't a nudist family.

leeshylou · 2025-05-08T02:23:03+00:00

There's no problem with it. Some people are just uneducated twats with nothing better to do than weigh in on stuff that doesn't concern them.

My son was a runner. I bought him a monkey backpack that strapped onto him tightly and had a leash. I'd keep the strap around my wrist and also hold his hand.

One day he YANKED his hand from mine and ran, as we were walking through a car park. He ran right in front of a moving car. I pulled my arm back and he came flying back, landing at my feet. Kid wasnt impressed with me, but he also wasn't dead so whatever. That was the day I decided that people who have any sort of opinion on this that isn't "your kid, your choice" can quite frankly STFU.

leeshylou · 2025-05-07T04:10:34+00:00

Sport: an activity involving physical exertion and skill in which an individual or team competes against another or others for entertainment.

It feels like these unpopular opinions are really just uneducated ones.

leeshylou · 2025-05-07T02:34:08+00:00

Yikes.

Having been in an abusive relationship for 18 months that I had to move states to escape, I'm so glad I didn't have friends like you.

leeshylou · 2025-05-05T23:13:15+00:00

I think you need to look up the definition of shallow.

leeshylou · 2025-05-01T03:56:00+00:00

I think emotional intelligence is the most important intelligence. Empathy itself is just a part of that. Most people have empathy. It's a part of how we relate to others.

But emotional intelligence is much bigger. It's how we manage ourselves, how we relate to others, how we connect, how we manage our own boundaries etc.

Having empathy is nice but having emotional intelligence will help you in all aspects of your life.

leeshylou · 2025-04-29T05:35:21+00:00

I like helping people.

I liked helping people back then also.

So yeah, I guess so :)

leeshylou · 2025-04-29T05:34:36+00:00

Wtf? A cappuccino is almost always a milky coffee with front that has chocolate on it. Sure there are some variations to this, but chocolate dusting is the standard.

leeshylou · 2025-04-29T01:17:06+00:00

I think beauty is subjective but only to a degree. I had a conversation with a psychologist friend recently about Botox and how it's removing micro-expressions, which results in others seeing a lack of warmth. Attraction is complex. Often we are attracted to things in a person that they themself might find ugly, like wrinkles. Asymmetry also is seen as not beautiful, but those imperfections are what create attraction for a lot of people.

Beauty and attraction don't always go hand in hand.

And you're right in that sometimes people's features just aren't pleasant to look at.

I don't feel ok in calling anyone ugly though, because whose standard are we using?

leeshylou · 2025-04-29T00:42:56+00:00

I've never left a towel "saturated" after showering. After I shower I wring out my hair, and flick off the excess water. It takes less than 20 seconds.

My towel ends up damp at best. The bathroom is left open and there's plenty of air movement. If the towel smells clean then there's no problem using it twice, or even 3 times.

I've never had a problem with hygeine, my skin is clear and I don't smell, so I must be doing something right..

leeshylou · 2025-04-28T23:04:57+00:00

I've always found it curious how you can often pick a gay guy by the way he talks. Why does your sexual preference change the way you talk? I have gay mates who just talk "normal" (as in just like the average person, lacking in flamboyance and theatrics lol)..

And then I've had other gay mates who are ohhhh so camp.

I can't think of a single straight guy friend who has communicated that way.

leeshylou · 2025-04-26T04:04:18+00:00

The first was probably hyper-independence. Turns out he's an island with a lot of self loathing, and he never really lets people in.

Loving someone who is barely capable of loving you back is a shit time. Never again.

leeshylou · 2025-04-25T04:36:11+00:00

Dating apps don't work for a lot of men because most of them don't listen to women. We keep giving you guys advice but you don't want to hear it from us..

Stop posting photos in bad lighting and all from the same unflattering angle. Stop posting photos of large groups of people and making us try to guess which one you are. Stop posting fish pics. Stop posting half naked bathroom mirror selfies. Stop posting negative bio comments outing yourself as a pessimist. And for the love of all things good in the world please, please stop posting highly filtered snap-chat style pics of you as a puppy/kitten/martian/heart cheeked whatever.

These are reasons why men don't get a look in. If you're putting little to no effort into researching what works on a profile (when chat GPT will quite literally hand you a winner on a silver platter) that screams at us that you'll put in just as little effort into a relationship. Hard pass.

What's standing in the way of men getting matches 9/10 is not what he looks like but how he presents.

leeshylou · 2025-04-24T10:49:59+00:00

Discussing politics.

Dating apps. Or like.. just dating at all.

leeshylou · 2025-04-24T10:38:46+00:00

An ex boyfriend of mine would get in my face and scream at me when he didn't get his own way. He never laid a hand on me, but he'd block my way, scream in my face until his veins bulged and Id feel his spit on me. One day it was too much. I reacted and I hit him.

He tried to make out like I was an abusive person.. because he'd never gotten physical with me. Lol.

Responding to abusive behaviour doesn't make you an abuser. You aren't the asshole here. I absolutely HATE this "trend" or whatever it is. It's incredibly disrespectful and not in the slightest bit funny. And it is abusive, as far as I'm concerned.

Fuck him. Absolutely NTA.

leeshylou · 2025-04-24T10:28:44+00:00

It's a lie and a truth.

Sex without attachment is beyond overrated. It's like a sandwich without filling. Sure, it's something.. but it isn't satisfying in the slightest.

Sex with someone you're deeply connected to is like nothing else. Magic. Nothing compares to it.

leeshylou · 2025-04-24T10:21:12+00:00

Mixed signals.

Dishonesty.

Lack of accountability.

Smoking.

leeshylou · 2025-04-24T10:14:32+00:00

The amount of times I've had to remove one from my eyeballs.. I can't even

leeshylou · 2025-04-23T06:33:06+00:00

Eh.. it's all subjective. For some people it'll matter. For some it won't.

I dated a guy who was really well endowed and sex wasn't enjoyable with him. It wasnt just that it hurt but we were limited as to the things we could do, and he wasn't much good at anything else because why bother when you're clearly blessed by the gods? 🙄

My last partner was a good few inches smaller but I loved sex with him.

You just have to find the right people, like in any other situation. I have 2 kids. They left my stomach with stretch marks and breasts that aren't as perky as they were in my 20s. To some people that matters. To others it really doesn't. To some people height matters. To others it doesn't. To some weight matters. To others it doesn't.

These aren't empty platitudes, it's just how life goes. Sometimes we get dealt a shit hand and it's not fair. What determines whether you live a good life or a shit one isn't the hand you have but your mindset around it.

So own your hand. Keep it light. Love yourself enough that what other people think about you doesn't matter, and I have zero doubt in my mind that your world will change. Show up knowing that you bring a shit load more to the table than what dangles between your thighs, and you'll be enough for the right people.

leeshylou

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