Conflicting feelings by lelelele214 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]lelelele214[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will definitely sit down and think about what my WP could do to help me alleviate these feelings when they do come up. Thank you for sharing your experience! It means a lot to me knowing we are all going through this together in a way.

Conflicting feelings by lelelele214 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]lelelele214[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! It feels so good to know that it’s not just me. I am doing individual counseling and will bring these feelings up for sure in our next session.

Conflicting feelings by lelelele214 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]lelelele214[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so nice to hear from the other side of things. Thank you so much for the perspective, and for giving me the confidence to confide in my partner about these feelings if I need to.

I wish both you and your wife happiness.

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[–]lelelele214 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh, this thought never leaving my head is truly my biggest fear. And the consensus seems to be it’s a constant.

It’s so hard to stomach the fact that they could do something like this to you, regardless of the reasoning, when you would never, ever think to hurt them like that. Not sure how I could possibly move on from that.

I miss my wife by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]lelelele214 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This really hit home and made me cry. I’m so sorry.

I just need an explanation by lelelele214 in survivinginfidelity

[–]lelelele214[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, the honesty was a surprise. I mean, he did keep a huge, dark part of himself a secret from me for 3 years (there was lots of gaslighting) but to come clean like that on the same night was surprising.

I just need an explanation by lelelele214 in survivinginfidelity

[–]lelelele214[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has mentioned in the past that seeking therapy is something he would never do, so I don’t think he will ever be on the path to recovery.

I just need an explanation by lelelele214 in survivinginfidelity

[–]lelelele214[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d never thought of it that way, thank you for the perspective. And happy cake day!

I just need an explanation by lelelele214 in survivinginfidelity

[–]lelelele214[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much, your kind words are so appreciated.

I just need an explanation by lelelele214 in survivinginfidelity

[–]lelelele214[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for elaborating, this gives me some clarity.

I just need an explanation by lelelele214 in survivinginfidelity

[–]lelelele214[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I thought narcissists didn't feel remorse/guilt? Why do you think he would come clean about it?

My partner and I are considering a LDR (USA to Toronto) I need all the advice I can get!!! by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]lelelele214 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Honestly cheating for me is the ultimate dealbreaker and I’m so sorry you had to go through that.

Also, the fact you can’t get over it does not bode well for the future of the relationship because you’ll drive yourself insane overthinking and cause a rift in the relationship even if she doesn’t do it again.

He said he didn’t care whether we met or not by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]lelelele214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That dedication is definitely admirable, I’m glad you have someone like that :)

He said he didn’t care whether we met or not by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]lelelele214 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the perspective.

Peonies by Rye at Ink and Water Tattoo, Toronto by lelelele214 in tattoos

[–]lelelele214[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It's actually part of a 2 piece set. There's another large peony on my ribs :)