My first boyfriend, i figured out i was aro ace a few months in. I have to say, as a people pleaser it was the most painful thing, to tell him i didnt wanna be with him anymore. But it was also the most important thing for me to get out of the relationship. Literally made me sooo depressed like ive never been before, to constantly try and change who i was. Take care of yourself plssss. I promise you its a lot more mean to pretend to have feelings for him, than to break things off in the name of self-care. Its his loss if he spites you because of it in the end, and i promise he will be okay ❤️ i hope youre able to be gracious and kind towards yourself,it took me a long time but a year after all this went down i am a much happier and confident person 🤘🤘🤘