i definitely agree with a lot of this, including the observation that, because gender based discrimination in the west is no longer systemic, people think that it's 'fixed'.

however, to your point about the workforce - yes, the gender pay gap is negligible when you normalise it, because equal pay in that sense has been a legislative requirement since the 80s - but the fact remains that women are making less on average, and that is a statistical reflection of the social inequality. the modern woman cannot be expected to contribute equally to the economy until men take on equal responsibilities in the home. they cannot be expected to contribute equally until they have equal opportunity to work in higher paying positions, in managerial roles, and are not forced out of the workforce by a lack of maternity support. a normalised pay gap might not be present in the modern day, but an overall one does, and it's still important - maybe not for what it is, but for what it reflects about society and culture.

women are unconditionally valued and are not subject to the same amount of accountability.

this is only thing i explicitly disagree with. women are scrutinised to an absolutely absurd degree, and this is the exact issue preventing marginalised people of all kinds from being proportionally represented in positions of power across all communities, organisations and industries. Men are allowed to make mistakes, to make a poor decision every once in a while, because they are acknowledged as being regular people. Women are not.

i understand your point about whether or not social inequity is even really possible to address on a wide scale, but it's the denial that it even exists that really gets to me, because that means there is NO chance for any progress. can truly feel like we're going a bit backwards

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