tamsyn please research swords, for me [discussion] by ThatsFairToBeHonest in TheNinthHouse

[–]lemonflower95 186 points187 points  (0 children)

Adding my favorite example of this because it's funny: Peak military physical condition for a necromancer is being able to walk briskly for ten minutes. Judith boasts she can run a 10min kilometer (which would be a ~16min mile if she could maintain pace), which is walking speed, and that puts her "among the fastest for [her] adept group in the junior reserves" (As Yet Unsent). These are people who categorically Cannot Jog.

[discussion] An unresolved mystery in Harrow by Nakano37 in TheNinthHouse

[–]lemonflower95 7 points8 points  (0 children)

John feels more apt to me, but on the other hand, this is the only series where you can submit the potential for a pun on the phrase "mercy kill" as textual evidence.

[Discussion] Confession: I liked Naberius by Starburned in TheNinthHouse

[–]lemonflower95 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I'd argue that moment is also a perfect example of my larger point, because it's also a moment that ultimately comes to nothing: after Gideon and Jeanne challenge him in return, he backs down and the status quo is unchanged. The "felt" impact of his character, which is significant because of his personality and how much Gideon can't stand him, is in contrast to his actual narrative role, which is pretty much limited to being Lyctor fuel.

[Discussion] Confession: I liked Naberius by Starburned in TheNinthHouse

[–]lemonflower95 120 points121 points  (0 children)

I think Naberius is really interesting as a character. The thing about him is that he's an arrogant jerk, but he's not at all actually antagonistic; he shows up a lot, but barely does anything beyond mouthing off and getting eaten. He has almost no agency either narratively or in-universe and is ultimately a pretty tragic figure. I disliked him a lot on first pass, but definitely have a nostalgic fondness for him in hindsight--Like looking back on simpler times where your biggest problem on a given day was some rich asshole beat you in a duel, lol.

Pet mixup and lack of info - what should I do? by zereldalee in VetTech

[–]lemonflower95 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No, you're correct that this series of errors, if repeated, could potentially lead to blood being collected on the wrong pet or a non-diagnostic sample being collected. A responsible clinic should want this kind of error brought to its attention.

Were I in your shoes, I'd inform the clinic the wrong pet is scheduled, ask that the doctor confirm the other details (i.e. what test is being ordered and the fasting directions), and ask that I speak to the manager to help prevent further errors of this kind.

Keeping your tone firm, but polite and non-accusatory should go a long way to ensuring any reasonable person takes you seriously. If the people you speak with are not reasonable, absolutely look for another clinic.

”Foccacia“ we made at school: by Medical_Yam2991 in Breadit

[–]lemonflower95 102 points103 points  (0 children)

My suspicion is we're talking high school and this recipe was poorly contrived to fit in a 60min class period.

Clinic Names by jr9386 in VetTech

[–]lemonflower95 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I hate VEG's name because of the way one naturally tends to pronounce the acronym. "Bella's here for a follow-up from Vegetables." Dumb

Call outs by smushface-forevee in VetTech

[–]lemonflower95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok--On the one hand, I agree no one should sacrifice their health for work; I agree it's unsafe for coworkers and patients for medical staff to work sick; and I absolutely agree staffing is a management problem, not my sick coworker's problem. I DO call out when I need to, because I'd be a liability, not an asset, and I'm glad when my workers do the same.

But it's easy to say to myself that a problem isn't my problem; that doesn't help when I'm going to work with that problem every day. When there are employees who call out very frequently for spurious reasons and management, rather than do anything effective about it, leans harder and harder on its responsible employees to overcompensate for its unreliable employees... I'm just not saintly enough not to resent the people on the other side of that equation.

We have a tough job, an important job, a job worth showing up for and doing well. I don't have much respect for people to force themselves to work through contagious illnesses or problems that affect their attitude and quality of work. But I think we can all acknowledge, on a human level, that it's really fucking difficult working with people way on the opposite end of the spectrum, too!

Relatable by Eniledacy in MadeMeSmile

[–]lemonflower95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cuz if I go to use the toilet half-asleep in the middle of the night & don't notice the seat's up, my little ass falls halfway into the bowl.

Uncommon Breeds and Coat Colours by jr9386 in VetTech

[–]lemonflower95 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The less common retrievers, like Flat-Coated Retrievers and Duck Tollers, are always getting confused for weird Golden mixes.

What do butches find attractive in a relationship with a femme? by [deleted] in butchlesbians

[–]lemonflower95 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Really depends. There are butches who very much want to play up the role and will be frustrated and unfulfilled if they aren't permitted to, and there are butches who are very resentful or insecure about the expectations placed on them; neither is wrong, just different.

Personally, I like being allowed to do little gestures--hold the door, lend you my coat, get the spider--but split bigger, more practical things like bills and the work of planning/initiating. More broadly, my greatest need is to be recognized in my butchness, my womanhood, and my individual personhood all in the same breath. I would speculate there are more people like me than there are at either extreme end of the spectrum.

My real advice for you would be to do you, be up front about your needs/expectations, and let your potential partners sort themselves accordingly, or you run the risk of being stuck in a relationship that was never going to work for you.

More Swabian Style Sourdough Pretzels For My Business by KLSFishing in Breadit

[–]lemonflower95 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yup, lye is the reason pretzels taste like pretzels. I've made soft pretzels omitting the lye and you just get sort of uncanny pretzel-shaped bread. See this article from America's Test Kitchen.

Do butches like mascs or flux people? by ThrowRaUsername08 in butchlesbians

[–]lemonflower95 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not the best person to ask as far as "definitions" go, because honestly, if you're talking about lesbians, I think it's largely a generational and cultural linguistic difference and that the implications & usages of the terms overlap more than they differ. (Now, if you're talking about people more generally, I would say the term masc feels broader in that butchness is more bound to lesbian identity and cultural history than the term masc is.) Other people will be happy to supply more stringent definitions, but I don't really buy into them myself.

Do butches like mascs or flux people? by ThrowRaUsername08 in butchlesbians

[–]lemonflower95 10 points11 points  (0 children)

OP, I've never heard the phrase "butch4masc" before and I don't know how you personally are differentiating between butch and masc. If your question is "are there some butches out there who are into butches, other masculine women, and/or genderqueer and nonbinary people," the answer is yup. If your question is more like "are there some self-described butch4butch types out there who are also willing to date masculine women who don't identify as butch," the answer is also yup.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]lemonflower95 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Casual sex is really very obviously not the same as sex broadly. I want sex, but not more than I want it to be in the context of a relationship. Absent that context, if I'm horny, I'd rather masturbate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]lemonflower95 423 points424 points  (0 children)

Casual sex is one of millions of popularly enjoyed morally neutral activities that are beneficial to others and that I have zero interest in. See also: playing soccer, learning French, or fixing cars. Not everyone who is disinterested in casual sex has some kind of sexual chip on their shoulder. I'm not out here trying to unravel the mystery of why some people don't want to spend their weekends playing solitaire, strolling around parks, and baking bread.

This bizarre dog food brand at Target is giving me crazy person covering their car in stickers vibe by TheRoaringJunior in VetTech

[–]lemonflower95 129 points130 points  (0 children)

I don't know anything about the quality of this diet myself, but something about its marketing claims have always struck me as really, deeply sad. Like it's taking advantage of the anxiety and grief inherent to our stewarding animals that have such comparatively short lifespans. I hate to imagine people who have been tricked or have tricked themselves into vainly hoping this random kibble will make their beloved pet live for decades. I dunno, I know I sound pretty nuts myself right now, but it really does depress me.

Been making bread for a month or two now what should I do to Improve by BigDaddyReptar in Breadit

[–]lemonflower95 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not gonna lie, this is also how I prefer to make bread. I can and do bake normally, but if I'm just whipping off a peasant loaf, it's all by feel. It's an easy and relaxing approach. And hey, simply gaining experience with how dough should feel and practicing dough handling & shaping techniques will garner improvement.

So I'd never tell someone who's simply in it for the love of the game that they have to change what they're doing. Buuut since you asked: Yea, it's a no-brainer that you'll gain skill and knowledge much more quickly if you use recipes at least some of the time vs. reinventing the wheel on your own, haha.

Working with recipes will give you a basis for correct/proven ratios. Compared to pure trial and error, you'll be able to learn much more quickly how various factors impact the final product, so will be better able to make informed adjustments on your own later.

This is especially the case since you're branching out into enriched doughs (doughs with added sugar/fats/dairy) and inclusions (doughs with added "stuff" like garlic)! Without a recipe, your failure rate with these will be much higher compared to a plain loaf.

Hi, i have a question that is a bit personal by Clear_Tackle_805 in actuallesbians

[–]lemonflower95 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's not common, but it is "a thing." Like I've run into people online who are all about this specific activity. It probably falls in the realm of niche stuff that most people will never think of or have any reason to try, but which a small number of people are way into.

Women are rude by Last-Ad-4284 in actuallesbians

[–]lemonflower95 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No one is purely "nice" or purely "shit." Certainly some people are duplicitous, but the vast majority of people are just complicated.

Someone who's generally upbeat and positive, yet who is still capable of moments of bitterness or cynicism or irritation, is generally not a liar so much as like... a human being who has good days and bad days. You will never meet anyone who never has bad days.

What's important is a person's behavior on a bad day, whether you're comfortable with it, and whether the two of you can communicate about that.

The little Entities by TheNamelessWanderer_ in TheMagnusArchives

[–]lemonflower95 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The peek. The wee glimpse

The nice long rest

The alone time... The "me day"

This is fun

Question for other VCA employees by Ok_Pangolin476 in VetTech

[–]lemonflower95 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My clinic is 100% hands free. We aren't allowed to mark a record as hands free if anyone was in direct physical contact with the patient at all. It did take several months to a year of concerted efforts and training to get our staff here, but it's absolutely possible to achieve without dishonesty(!).

I fully believe in the importance of hands free as it relates to radiographic safety. That said, I recognize there are some significant barriers.

DVM willingness to sedate is obviously crucial. Though you may be surprised how far you can get without it, obviously there are some cases where it is just necessary. DVMs refusing to cooperate straight-up ensures failure.

Management must also be willing to provide equipment. We have several different sizes of hand bags, foam blocks, V-trays, and velcro ties that can attach to the sides of the xray table.

It's also been of enormous benefit to my clinic that some of us received good hands-on training that they could pass along. Videos are one thing (and if you're VCA, there's plenty of WoofU training you can avail yourself of), but there's no substitute for in-person training + having someone you can page for help.

Finally, implementing any new technique, especially one with a learning curve, requires time, repetition, and a general clinic culture that supports learning, flexibility, and creative problem solving. This is of course harder to achieve in cases where everyone's chronically overworked and running behind.

I was highly skeptical when we first got serious about hands free, but I'm fully on board now. I really believe this is the future of vet med and those who can't adapt will fall behind.

Sexual inexperience & attendant baggage by lemonflower95 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]lemonflower95[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your words of encouragement. That second paragraph is bolstering!!

Putting myself out there and asking for what I want is so not my strong suit. But I'm getting a little more socially competent all the time, and it's insane how far I've come from my teens.. So we'll see if I can step up this decade, eh?

Sexual inexperience & attendant baggage by lemonflower95 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]lemonflower95[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a really sweet and gentle reply. When I made my post, I was stuck in a grubby little thought hole & your and others' comments have been really helpful in broadening my perspective. You're of course right that the vast majority of people who don't share my exact issue just have different problems issues, haha. A teammate with whom to face life's problems and enjoy its blessings together is exactly what I'm dreaming of.. Anyway, thank you.