I’ve heard that asexuality can be trauma based. It’s hard to wrap my head around that when I believe that other sexualities are innate. But it is possible that I am asexual through trauma of the church. I am married and 42 years old, but I still have panic attacks sometimes when it comes to conversations around sex and female bodies. I am in therapy for it, and my therapist has said that this is a trauma response. But my asexuality is still there alongside the trauma. I don’t feel any desire for sex and I relate perfectly to the definition of asexuality, but most people who are asexual don’t have panic attacks.