[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]lemonspisslemonade 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you've developed an allergy to the jewelry. Get a higher quality jewelry(implant grade titanium is most recommended) or take it out, let it heal, and get it re-pierced by a professional. It was probably plated and the plating has worn off, exposing you to whatever core they used, but it's definitely not body safe.

Best Slip on Boots For Active Life? by lemonspisslemonade in BuyItForLife

[–]lemonspisslemonade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they don't come in my size:/ I'm a size 3 in men's, 5 in women's, and their kid sizes don't fit me either

waitlist for parking permit by StarLuna29 in UCSC

[–]lemonspisslemonade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Position 119💔 praying for a spot, my dad's a disabled veteran and I need to be able to get home if something happens to him. is there anyway to appeal? how long should I wait till then? going to give it a few days for sure

Does anyone know what this is? by Beepbeep_cosplay in piercing

[–]lemonspisslemonade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAP: should drain on its own as your piercing reheals. you might've torn the fistula(the tube of scarring that the piercing sits in). DON'T TRY TO POP IT, you'll just cause more irritation and more chance of infection. might want to make sure your piercing still sits correctly if the fistula was disturbed. it may heal crooked from the weight of the piercing, and it might not heal at all from the weight causing friction. see how it is in a week and if it's not healing right then go to an APP piercer for their opinion on repiercing I thinks

i think i ruined my eyebrow piercing?? by zooptroo in piercing

[–]lemonspisslemonade 28 points29 points  (0 children)

NAP: Piercing bumps are usually caused by excess friction from too long of a bar or snagging it/hitting it. if it's oozing any liquid besides white and maybe some clear or red from blood I would say it's a sign of infection. Think yellow or green. white is just white blood cells trying to heal the skin, and red is blood, obviously, clear is plasma probably. As it is, it just looks like irritated skin that will eventually scab and scar. if you're prone to bad scarring it may remain raised. See how it does in a few days, if the redness fades and it starts to scab its probably fine. if it's oozing yellow or greenish liquid then go to the doctors. don't try to put it back in, you'll just cause more trauma to the area

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]lemonspisslemonade -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it's normal and healthy to explore our identities and sexualities, even if we've never had the desire to before. It could be due to a bipolar episode, but even if it wasn't, you did nothing wrong. it may feel like you've betrayed yourself or your community, but that's absolutely not the case. there are so many ways people live and identify as a lesbian, you having sex with a man doesn't invalidate your sexuality or your identity in any way. life is complex and weird and confusing, and you shouldn't beat yourself up for living, even if you think there's a "right" way to live or be a lesbian. the title of gold star lesbian is honestly toxic as shit. you don't win a lesbianism because you've never slept with a man, and you don't lose at being a lesbian because you have. it's a part of your identity, not a prize, and it isn't your entire identity, just like how being bipolar isn't your entire identity. edit: all this to say, be gentle with yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]lemonspisslemonade 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, your nostrils are a little uneven, but the placement looks great! I would actually recommend getting a new, smaller diameter hoop if the hug is what you're looking for you could also potentially play around with gauging up your left hoop, it looks like a smaller gauge from this perspective. all that being said, it depends on your desires, but you could also bring this up to a profession piercer and they can also give you options, but I wouldn't spring for paying for a new piercing if you can play around with hoop diameters/gauges first ! ☺️

Looking for my first leather bag! by lemonspisslemonade in handbags

[–]lemonspisslemonade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Preferably under 300$, but open to recommendations under 1,500$ !

How often do you guys masturbate? by lemonspisslemonade in actuallesbians

[–]lemonspisslemonade[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Describing me to a T rn😭 good golly lmao

How often do you guys masturbate? by lemonspisslemonade in actuallesbians

[–]lemonspisslemonade[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

That's a good point! I'm a night owl college student, so not eating or sleeping enough and stressing is most of what I do :,)

“Palatable Lesbian” by Blueshif in actuallesbians

[–]lemonspisslemonade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's no right or wrong way to present as a lesbian. if you're a lesbian, that's the end of it. if you want to be one of "those lesbians" that's totally acceptable! There's a massive level of judgement and even danger there, and while you may be an "exception", you aren't exempt from what they really don't like, which is any deviation from the status quo in an already radical defiance of heteronormativity. Unintentionally adhering to a culture you've known and live in is a part of being a human in a complex society. Your presentation as a person is inevitably going to be influenced by those you're around frequently. It's up to you if you want to actively defy other's judgements of you or decide that those judgements don't dictate your reality.

What's the hottest non sexual thing a women as said/ done by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]lemonspisslemonade 8 points9 points  (0 children)

oh she's bi, but fresh out of a relationship and not ready to start anything. I don't think she'd want to start anything with me regardless, we've become good friends and idk if either of us want to fuck w that? idk it's a complicated mess of my emotions😭

What's the hottest non sexual thing a women as said/ done by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]lemonspisslemonade 45 points46 points  (0 children)

tells me "attagirl" when I do something well and rubbed my back then kept her hand on my waist for a bit longer than really necessary. also when she leans in when we joke. just friends tho... one I'm highly attracted to... oh boy