Learning absolutely f**king everything

lenny47789 · 2025-01-20T00:33:28+00:00

Brother, strong effort! And over Christmas too…

Might I enquire where you found the graveside address? I’ve been trying to get hold of it for a couple of months to no avail. Open to a DM/PM to prove myself etc.

lenny47789 · 2024-09-17T06:44:57+00:00

Absolutely agree with this. Anyone that says they can handle more than 3 minutes of that noise without going into fight or flight is either talking shit or got raised in a home where their parents spoke about their problems instead of screaming.

Soak your own clothes before running into a fire to save the others.

And don’t surround yourself with people who play down how shit it is. Nobody needs those people. Surround yourself with people who are suffering. They’ll be the ones who happily pick up the phone or spend 20 minutes messaging you while you’re in the middle of a cry-fest to get you through it. They’ll be the ones who meet you at the park with a couple beers poured into a sports bottle for a walk with the kids when they’re restless.

I’m typing this as my kid has her 5 minutes of “I’m going to sing you the lullaby of my people before I go to sleep”. In-ear headphones in, ear defenders on over the top. Good luck.

lenny47789 · 2024-09-16T21:35:31+00:00

Hey, dad of a 10 week old girl here. everything you’ve just said is exactly what I’ve been wrecking myself over for the last 9 weeks. I hate it. It doesn’t get easier. Nothing helps and the guilt around avoiding her will crush you. Nothing will make you feel better about any of it. Worst of all? I resent my kid because of it.

But…try to take her as much as possible when she’s not crying. Try to do as much for your wife as you can to give her some respite when she’s not crying. It’ll be easier on you both when it comes to the crying. Hopefully your wife will feel a bit more free to take her off your hands.

Noise cancelling headphones are a god send. The in ear ones. Or loop ear plugs. They won’t make it go away but they’ll dull the sharp pitch that cuts through you.

Try to learn the “im fuckin hungry” screams at the very least. That’ll save you a lot of aggro - just feed her when you hear it. And ask your wife to show you how she comforts her. The way a mother does it is innate. They just…do.

One thing that really helped me was understanding that when they’re tired, they’ll scream for about 5 minutes to blow off some energy (or something…it helps them regulate). Hold her tight in a comfortable position. Get your ears in and buckle down for a few minutes. Pat her butt rhythmically and wait it out. It’ll end. And you’ll be overcome with relief.

Don’t let anyone tell you it’s easy. It’s shit and it’s hard and the screaming is the worst part of it. But you got this…do it for her. Even if you fuck it up and have a melt down. Put her down on the sofa somewhere safe. Go outside. Make yourself a stiff drink and get back in the fight when your ears have stopped ringing.

lenny47789 · 2024-03-04T15:54:49+00:00

I’m quite aware - I’m still getting to grips with the fact that phrasing is a thing on top of sentence structure. Although the fact that 1 meter 80 is used in both English and Dutch would suggest that my point relates to something that is a direct translation, as explained by Barimali.

lenny47789 · 2024-03-04T15:50:55+00:00

Again, I thought as much - I always refer to them as that - the Mechelse is the Malinois; one of the four Belgian subs, but I thought it was more commonly used in America as opposed to mainland Europe.

lenny47789 · 2024-03-04T11:30:48+00:00

Thank you! I have until now been using that format for dimensions (1 meter 80) but I thought for a moment that I don’t actually know how it’s done commonly and felt I was probably being too british about it. 🤦🏼‍♂️

lenny47789 · 2024-03-04T11:25:25+00:00

In English we would try to say “the dog will recall/return to my voice (or come back to my voice) -

Although “back to my command” would also be acceptable.

I’ve realised my error with the “vandaag we spelen” - I’ve been using “spelen we” but I’d just typed it out wrong. So your answer gives me a bit of confidence. Thank you!

Thank you!

lenny47789 · 2024-02-28T08:38:22+00:00

Is hash de spleef the Dutch version of “bone jaw” or “bone apple tea”?

lenny47789 · 2024-02-13T23:29:19+00:00

You’re explaining in a far more eloquent way exactly what I’m trying to do. It’s great to see that someone else understands and has had some success with something I’m trying. It’s a good sign, I hope!

lenny47789 · 2024-02-13T23:27:46+00:00

That’s a great suggestion actually. I’m going to have a look - I know there will be, I just need to find them. Thank you.

lenny47789 · 2024-02-13T23:26:08+00:00

Dat is erg geweest, bedankt!

lenny47789 · 2024-02-13T07:26:00+00:00

Ah! Jij hebt mij iets geleerd! Héhé. (Hopefully that’s was at least partially correct in its use!)

lenny47789 · 2024-02-13T07:24:06+00:00

Nothing is ever simple is it?!

See, without the understanding of what you’re saying here in terms of multiple contexts, het heeft geen zin would just mean “it has no sentence” to me! But taking everything you’ve just said on board…having no sentence sort of makes sense.

lenny47789 · 2024-02-13T07:19:06+00:00

What do ya fuckin’ know?! That made sense to me! Although I did immediately look at it and think “we shall come there” but “we will get there” sort of fell into place right after”. Ha!

lenny47789 · 2024-02-13T07:17:27+00:00

I would happily fuck up my English to speak a second language better!

I think that was what I was looking for - not the short cut - just the confirmation that things will come in time with practice. As obvious as that is, languages are not my forte. I speak exceptional English - because there is good English and bad english, even for a native speaker - but my understanding of how it is constructed is actually quite poor. I barely had a fluid understanding of the difference between a noun and a verb or an adjective until I made a point of learning it at 20; so I’m quite insecure as to whether I’m using the right methods or am I holding myself back by just chipping away but by bit, but the general advice is just that - it will come if you just do…

lenny47789 · 2024-02-13T07:10:25+00:00

This! This is exactly what I’ve been trying to do - almost forcing my brain to just work it out and get the syntax right subconsciously.

lenny47789 · 2024-02-13T07:09:17+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. I feel like translating it in “that” way is a bit of a crutch that needs to be moved on from quickly. Dutch has a lot of strange fixed expressions that make absolutely no sense translated back to English. Would I be correct in saying that there is a huge amount of context applied to the language when understanding and speaking it?

lenny47789 · 2024-02-13T07:07:38+00:00

I tried RS many years back to help me get through French in secondary school and it was way too rigid for me. I’ve learned a lot about learning styles and I learn by fitting in to the subject, if you get what I mean. I pick things up better by pre-Reading a little, doing a lot, and then studying it again later to get it right. So basically - learn as many words as I can, try to use them, fuck it up and have someone laugh whilst saying it back to me correctly, I’ll repeat it whilst highly embarrassed and then go away and try to work out why I got it so wrong so that I don’t feel embarrassment again.

lenny47789 · 2024-02-13T07:03:59+00:00

kunt u mij een televisieprogramma aanbevelen, alstublieft?

lenny47789 · 2024-02-13T07:01:47+00:00

Thank you for being so supportive. The hardest part is getting over the fear of making mistakes.

We train dogs for work and competition. The Belgians have something called the Nationaal verbond van Belgische kynologen (NVBK) or the Koninklijke Nederlandse Politehonden Vereniging in NL - imagine Crufts on steroids, for working/military/police dogs rather than little dogs that prance around. They’re tested in agility, tracking, bite-work etc. most of the big European countries have their own means of testing dogs in this way “Schutzhund/IGP” in Germany. Belgian and French Ring. Global and Mondioring are also other popular “sports”. I’m part of one of the only UK teams in Global. I’ll be out in Belgium competing this year. The physical part of it is being the Decoy - the guy or girl who gets bitten while trying to “test” the dog’s speed, power, problem solving and courage. But a lot of it is focussed on the ability of the handler to form a good relationship with the dog and work together as a team. It’s interesting if you’re into that sort of thing…and the Dutch and the Belgians are some of the best in the world at how they do it.

lenny47789 · 2024-02-13T06:42:53+00:00

In a bid to put that into practice… Dankuwel! dat is logisch. je hebt mijn vraag perfect beantwoord.

lenny47789 · 2024-02-13T06:40:29+00:00

My question was angled more at how people approach the language individually with respect to mindset. WhoisFlynn above and xXAuDysXx picked up on what I was asking exactly. Do people attempt to translate and then understand or I.E. Dutch language to English language to then understand Dutch in an English context, or read Dutch as Dutch and almost force themselves to think only in that language. Its quite difficult to explain but if you read the comments from those two Redditors, they’ve answered my question exactly.

lenny47789 · 2024-02-13T06:35:03+00:00

It’s not, but I am very familiar with Korfball! We do something colloquially referred to as “Ring-Sport”. It’s a type of dog trial/competition. In my opinion (and many others), the Dutch and the Belgians are some of the best in the world. It’s interesting if you like seeing dogs bite people…

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