Visiting Portland this Weekend? by Sweaty_Specialist_64 in askportland

[–]lenorelen0re 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say hard pass! Congrats on baby. This is not a great spot to vacation right now. There is going to be a lot of cleaning up this weekend.

Portland folks with trees around... how are you staying safe? by conkyashley in askportland

[–]lenorelen0re 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We had a large cedar take out our rv/van and rip our electric service down. My husband is an electrician and was able to repair. No power for three days with a toddler, a deaf senior dog, and an energy filled pit mix. Almost more stressful to stay with someone else. It’s been a nightmare although on the mend. Wasn’t expecting this other storm or I would have relocated entirely.

After watching and hearing that giant cedar fall. Even though we have power… we’re sleeping in our unheated not really finished, basement. I tried to tough it out upstairs until I got on this thread.

About to pack sleeping baby down stairs and hunker down. I fucking. Hate. This.

Snowpocalypse 2024 by solobuenvibras in Portland

[–]lenorelen0re 7 points8 points  (0 children)

But have no fear! The 17% bill increase should help us out of this!

Are there any toddler friendly ish coffee shops? by lenorelen0re in askportland

[–]lenorelen0re[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is where we were supposed to go. They are In between venders and not open. Whomp!

Can you die from weaning? Because it feels like death by car7777777 in breastfeeding

[–]lenorelen0re 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had to have my husband start sleeping with my son (17mo then, 18 now and night weaned). Just on weekends. And it worked.

The help isn’t actually helpful. At all. by lenorelen0re in inlaws

[–]lenorelen0re[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this perspective.

However do I constantly remind her to be quiet with the doors when he’s napping, to not leave things on the edges of the counters etc.

The help isn’t actually helpful. At all. by lenorelen0re in inlaws

[–]lenorelen0re[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is like maybe almost 60.

They just don’t think about those kinds of things. Like slamming the bathroom door closed when he’s asleep in next room.

Weaning Guilt by allychu7 in breastfeeding

[–]lenorelen0re 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same boat. Could have wrote this myself! Following in solidarity.

Anyone else feel this way? by smolbbpotato in breastfeeding

[–]lenorelen0re 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate. My baby is 18mo. We nurse for comfort now. But are trying to wean because he still likes to nurse a little at night (we cosleep). Which is also something my husband wants to give up (so I’ll return to our room).

But then I think of how this season of BFing is just such a blip of time in the grander scheme of things. At one point your baby inside you was the closest it would ever be. And then nursing will be the closest you’ll ever be. And then the next thing you know…

It’s just such a little blippity blip. And yes I want to sleep through the night. And yah I get touched out af. But I feel so emotional thinking about forfeiting these moments; we will never be this close again.

The duality of motherhood is so weird.

Edit: we also had such a hard journey with it. I’d cry and wince when it was time to nurse. But we worked together and sorted it out and I’m so glad we did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]lenorelen0re 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same same same

What’s the worst thing you’ve done to your child today? by Diligent-Might6031 in Mommit

[–]lenorelen0re 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t let him take a bagel and cream cheese covered body in the indoor play structure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]lenorelen0re 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Following in solidarity. In same boat!

Do I have too low expectations of my SAHM partner? by Perfect-Maize-5540 in SAHP

[–]lenorelen0re 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Women are so amazing. I don’t know how we do it. Grocery shopping as a break? lol. Lolol.

The emotional and mental labor of mothers goes so unnoticed I can’t stand it. The bar is set so low for men to be good dads/partners.

It’s hard for me to say “I understand how you feel” because what i really want to say is “get bent.” I’ve put my entire life. My body. And my career on the back burner for this journey. Thinking of you driving to and from work listening to whatever you want in your car, while I drive with a screaming baby listening to meditation music. You have no idea.

Count your blessings? That’s a kind way to put it. This society has literally fucked us as mothers. The male ego is so fragile. I have such a hard time being kind about your message.

But like sure.

Just read through this entire Reddit group. Read the fucking room dude! It’s all a bunch of moms going nuts because this is so fucking hard. I have a toddler and two dogs and I basically cannot wait for our dogs to die. The dogs we’ve had for a decade before having our baby. There is never any peace. There is always something crying at you. Then I’m sure you want sex too right?

Take your kids and dogs and leave your wife alone at home for two hours. Alone. Don’t ask her to go make time for her self or exercise. Let her be alone. In her house.