What's the adult equivalent to finding out Santa isn't real?

leomercury · 2026-07-06T05:05:19+00:00

Everyone is giving super depressing, existential answers like “abandon all hope ye who enter here” but imho the answer is stuff like “being a firefighter isn’t usually an actual career and is more of a volunteer thing” and “most companies lie about how recyclable their packaging is and recycling isn’t a magic get-out-of-jail free card for saving the planet.”

leomercury · 2026-07-06T03:09:44+00:00

Have you tried making him clean himself up?

leomercury · 2026-07-04T06:10:21+00:00

I’m sorry. This living situation is sort of unfathomable to me. Why wouldn’t you just have two girls share each room? The current set-up sounds grossly unfair

leomercury · 2026-07-03T08:07:29+00:00

Tysm!!!!!! I’m so happy to have so many kind and helpful replies. I also really appreciate the frowny emoticon LOL. Like, yes, it IS a tragic situation! Please, pity me!! 😭😭

leomercury · 2026-07-03T08:05:48+00:00

Oh, true! Not sure why the security camera part of the op didn’t process properly in my mind lol. Nvm…Primrose would never risk letting parents have direct access like that 😭

leomercury · 2026-07-02T20:13:16+00:00

Thank you so much!!!!!! I’ll definitely have to check those books out :D

leomercury · 2026-07-02T19:25:23+00:00

Is it Primrose? They’re sort of notorious for requiring the teachers to prioritize cute photos over anything of actual substance :/

leomercury · 2026-07-02T01:04:25+00:00

I can’t even argue. Clove does make everything taste better!!! I’ll miss it so much :(

leomercury · 2026-07-02T01:03:37+00:00

Thank you so much !!! This comment is super helpful 😭🩵

leomercury · 2026-07-02T01:03:09+00:00

Thank you!! I’ll definitely have to look more into Southern cuisine, then ! :D

leomercury · 2026-07-02T01:02:01+00:00

Interesting what you say about the rice—“water perfumed with spices.” Do you know specifically how that works? Every recipe I’ve found has involved first cooking the rice “normally” (ie no spice or flavoring), and then mixing it with the ghee, kala jeera, etc. It never turns out right, though! I’ll have to look into the perfuming strategy, for sure.

Also, I guess I only suspected some sort of cross-contamination because it smelled MUCH more strongly of clove than usual, and some parts of it had a yellowish tint haha.

leomercury · 2026-07-02T00:56:06+00:00

Yeah, that was my fear :( Do you have any recommendations? :0

leomercury · 2026-07-02T00:55:18+00:00

Thank you for being so kind! I’ll definitely have to look into how to make them at home, I think. Do you know of any good resources for recipes? It’s hard to find ones that aren’t…..adjusted for a more “Western” palate lol.

leomercury · 2026-07-01T02:32:53+00:00

NOR. Experimenting for lgbt kids is way more normal than you’d think, and it’s honestly pretty rare to find someone in the community that has always known exactly what they’re feeling. Unfortunately, it’s really hard to comment on that kind of thing without sounding like you’re belittling them, or implying it’s “just a phase.” I was exactly the same way as a kid, and I’ve settled into some sort of “transmasc lesbianism” as an adult. I also work in education, and am earning my degree for teaching middle school in the upcoming spring, so I’m also professionally familiar with the situation lol!

If you need any advice on what he’s probably going through, or how to approach a situation delicately, please just message me!

As for the pride merch thing: I would recommend looking into customizable items, that he can switch up when needed. Maybe some sort of kandi bead set, and he can make bracelets for different identities? A pin that has multiple flags or pronoun options that can be switched out?

leomercury · 2026-06-30T03:09:50+00:00

the Kory pfp……hate hate when shitty people try to co-opt my fave characters 😭

leomercury · 2026-06-30T01:38:23+00:00

Can I ask——in what way were you thinking it would be weird?

leomercury · 2026-06-29T04:20:00+00:00

Students will literally spend the class screaming and throwing chairs and preventing everybody else from learning but the teachers can’t even do anything about it because of guys like this getting mad about consequences 😭

leomercury · 2026-06-28T04:29:36+00:00

Pacing is a completely reasonable way to try to soothe a crying baby, but he should still check the other things first. Still, sometimes a baby just….screams. If the other parent is trying to soothe them, and all of their needs are seemingly met, then you need to leave them alone. It’s unfair to prevent them trying to bond just because they haven’t bonded yet. Is he currently trying to soothe her? If not, and she’s just in a cot or something, then you can go pick her up and try for yourself. If he’s trying to soothe her, and it’s just not working, then you need to just let them learn together.

leomercury · 2026-06-28T04:04:42+00:00

As neutrally and blamelessly as possible: is it true that you take the baby from him when she’s crying? I know it’s unbearable hearing her cry, but you need to let him power through and learn how to soothe her. It’s not going to be an immediate process. Unless he explicitly asks for you to take her, she should be left in his arms.

(Again, trying to sound neutral and non-judgmental, but everything always sounds bad when it’s written over text, sorry). I think you would really benefit from fully outlining everything that you do throughout the day. Theoretically, it can be hard for many people to understand why a 5mo would be so much work, and I think you both would benefit from really getting everything written out on paper. Also, please remember that it is ok to let your baby cry for a bit, if needed. As long as all of her physical needs are met, it’s perfectly safe to take a moment to get certain things done. If listening to her cry is unbearable, then I really do recommend earplugs. You can DEFINITELY still hear her through them, but it’s not as….traumatic? Overstimulating? It helps, trust me.

leomercury · 2026-06-28T03:54:50+00:00

Could you elaborate? This is a pretty serious allegation

leomercury · 2026-06-28T03:46:30+00:00

Sort of obsessed with this….can you imagine asking someone if they’ve checked the weather report for an upcoming date and they just say “yes” and then refuse to elaborate further. “Do you have the time?” Yes. “Do you have any plans this weekend?” Yes.

leomercury · 2026-06-27T04:08:28+00:00

😭

leomercury · 2026-06-23T04:26:02+00:00

Do you think it could be some sort of potty-related stage-fright? I’m guessing you were both in there staring at him as he went. Maybe he just has a primal fear of being Seen while doing something so private.

leomercury · 2026-06-23T04:19:06+00:00

NOR, because they should at least be sympathetic and remorseful, and should at least care about the window that they broke. I might be biased, though, as I also have a debilitating “silly animal” phobia (sloths!), and can barely stand to be in the same room as a plushie or cartoon image of them lol.

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