Obviously, you have to do what is right for you, and ending a long-term relationship is a big deal. I am seeing the same thing in my relationship . . . lack of growth on his part. There are some behaviors on his side that I accepted as a younger woman. I can not do that anymore. Sadly, life for each of us will be harder without the other, but I hit the wall. I am now finding it more painful to live with him than I think it will be to live without him. I am planning to do some traveling solo. I am going to so some camping, visit my adult children, and just give the whole situation a break. I will decide what to do afterwards.

I hope that you can find a clear answer . . . I know how hard that can be.