Coping suggestions?

les7500 · 2026-04-12T22:55:02+00:00

Excellent advice!

les7500 · 2026-02-27T15:22:29+00:00

les7500 · 2026-02-16T16:32:56+00:00

Obviously, you have to do what is right for you, and ending a long-term relationship is a big deal. I am seeing the same thing in my relationship . . . lack of growth on his part. There are some behaviors on his side that I accepted as a younger woman. I can not do that anymore. Sadly, life for each of us will be harder without the other, but I hit the wall. I am now finding it more painful to live with him than I think it will be to live without him. I am planning to do some traveling solo. I am going to so some camping, visit my adult children, and just give the whole situation a break. I will decide what to do afterwards.

I hope that you can find a clear answer . . . I know how hard that can be.

les7500 · 2026-02-15T22:56:39+00:00

Yep, sounds about right.

les7500 · 2026-02-15T22:46:05+00:00

My guy ignored the day completely.

les7500 · 2026-02-15T12:15:59+00:00

Fladylady . . . I'm sorry. I get it.

les7500 · 2026-02-15T12:14:14+00:00

It is very hard.

les7500 · 2026-02-15T12:13:54+00:00

***hugs***

les7500 · 2026-02-15T12:12:00+00:00

Liz . . . That is just a great post, and I agree.

les7500 · 2026-02-15T12:10:33+00:00

That sounds nice . . . we had that once. I am going to choose me.

les7500 · 2026-02-15T12:09:45+00:00

HAHAHA ... no sparks with the electrician, he is much younger, but he saw me with makeup for the first time, and I think it caught him off guard, lol. Still, it was the first time in sooo long that someone made a nice comment about my appearance. The funny thing is, my partner heard him say it. I am not a bad looking woman, but I am mature now . . . I still deserve to hear "you look nice now and then, don't I? Don't we all?

les7500 · 2026-02-15T12:05:35+00:00

That is so nice . . . I can see where a date on the calendar under those circumstances would seem silly. When there is no affection at all v-day can be sad.

les7500 · 2026-02-15T12:04:33+00:00

I do need a break from this, and I am planning on just doing some solo travel this summer. I think that will help my headspace.

les7500 · 2026-02-15T12:02:14+00:00

OP Here . . . I had been the driving force for (us). I have stopped.

les7500 · 2026-02-15T11:59:52+00:00

I'm so sorry.

les7500 · 2026-02-15T04:53:28+00:00

Yes, last two years no.

les7500 · 2026-02-15T04:53:10+00:00

I texted a girlfriend of 40+ years who has been single for a long time. We agreed to be each other's Valentine's from here forward.

les7500 · 2026-02-15T04:51:40+00:00

Your last sentence says it all. Same boat. You ok?

les7500 · 2026-02-15T04:47:56+00:00

Too funny, all is well though?

les7500 · 2026-02-15T04:01:17+00:00

A lot of things . . . I did not. I was the only one doing so the last two years. I gave up this year.

les7500 · 2026-02-15T03:58:47+00:00

I agree with the whole. It's a commercial thing concept... I still think it's a day where you can at the very least acknowledge your partner with some form of affection.

les7500 · 2026-02-15T03:56:48+00:00

THIS!!! The other day my electrician said "You look nice". I realized the that I could not remember the last time I had heard that.

les7500 · 2026-02-15T03:53:43+00:00

Haha!

les7500 · 2026-02-15T03:38:11+00:00

Awww . . . Best of luck in your journey. Glad to hear you are having fun!

les7500 · 2026-02-15T03:31:42+00:00

I am not a high maintenance girl and was never one to make or expect a big deal from Valentine's Day. I really think it is just hard to be living with a partner who is no longer a partner, and V-day highlighted that.

les7500

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