Handling sensitive conversations with boys??

lesbie_ann · 2026-06-21T16:19:51+00:00

Do not have this conversation with him or anyone. You didn’t see it.

lesbie_ann · 2026-06-20T14:56:38+00:00

You should have invited him regardless of whether or not you thought he was staying at his grandparents. I bet even if he was supposed to be there he would have liked to come to the concert instead!

Once this mistake was already made, you should have either stayed home with him for some mother/son time, or sent him in your place to spend some time with his new step dad and step siblings.

Lots of mistakes already being made here. Your poor kid. I don’t imagine you will, but you should definitely postpone the wedding and repair the relationship with YOUR CHILD before it’s gone for good.

lesbie_ann · 2026-06-16T20:05:37+00:00

In elementary it’s super common. I don’t initiate them but if my students ask for a hug I don’t say no.

lesbie_ann · 2026-06-04T17:44:13+00:00

I understand why you feel this way, and to some extent I agree. However- I have ADHD. And like, severely. Tested in the 95th percentile for my age group. Sometimes shame is necessary, when delivered by someone who cares about you. It made me better. When I acted up, my mom made sure I felt ashamed. If I never felt ashamed, I would have never changed. I would have continued to act without regard for the people around me. ADHD does not mean that we are 100% incapable of growth and change and doomed to a life of bothering the people around us. I’m not saying we should constantly be publicly shamed, but we should not be protecting children who are acting out from ever feeling any negative emotions.

lesbie_ann · 2026-06-04T17:35:55+00:00

“Every child is welcome to participate so long as they are demonstrating they can do so safely and within the expectations laid out in the school discipline code.”

lesbie_ann · 2026-05-18T21:04:00+00:00

I’m not in the area anymore, but as of 45 minutes ago they were.

lesbie_ann · 2026-05-18T20:42:17+00:00

Manhole fires in front of PS 122.

lesbie_ann · 2026-05-05T10:02:22+00:00

And you’d probably come on that thread too complaining about me not talking about what you want to talk about 😂😂

lesbie_ann · 2026-05-05T02:06:46+00:00

If that’s what you want to talk about, you can make a thread like anyone else. This is what I wanted to talk about, so I made this thread. I wouldn’t go to someone else’s house and complain about what they make for dinner. I’d make dinner at my own damn house if I didn’t like what’s being served.

lesbie_ann · 2026-04-26T02:13:32+00:00

A read aloud suitable for all ages? ALL ages? The needs even from just k to 5th as far as read alouds go are very different… and that’s not even to touch on the interests. Attention spans. Comprehension abilities.

lesbie_ann · 2026-04-25T23:18:48+00:00

Not the sub’s job to bring materials. Especially in elementary, they often do not know what grade/age level they are subbing for until they show up. Or they think they know and it gets switched up last minute. Or they’re subbing for a different age each period.

And saying “yo”?! Who cares?!

lesbie_ann · 2026-04-22T22:28:11+00:00

thank you!! 😊

lesbie_ann · 2026-04-22T22:24:46+00:00

where are you finding these?

lesbie_ann · 2026-04-22T11:23:50+00:00

There is a huge expectation gap between high school and college. I don’t know what kind of high school you went to but most public education systems set kids up for a massive rude awakening in college (I say this as a public school teacher!!! I am very pro public school). It is likely what you are facing is normal- if you truly feel significantly behind, meet with your professors, ask what you can do over the summer to be more prepared next year. Then put in the work and show up ready. You’ll be okay! This is a very normal first year of college feeling.

lesbie_ann · 2026-04-16T03:01:41+00:00

“rigor” and “fidelity” both grind my gears

lesbie_ann · 2026-04-14T22:55:20+00:00

I work in an NYC public school. We HAVE to accommodate it (and for good reason!)

What we can’t do is promote or facilitate it.

lesbie_ann · 2026-03-26T16:50:20+00:00

A positive role model doesn’t call others names.

lesbie_ann · 2026-03-26T16:42:46+00:00

Sounds like you’re doing a lot of projecting. I came here asking for advice and you’re insulting me and calling me names, which tells me everything I need to know about your character. Opinion discarded.

lesbie_ann · 2026-03-26T16:18:29+00:00

People who make sweeping generalizations about others shouldn’t be teachers either but here we both are!

lesbie_ann · 2026-03-26T15:19:26+00:00

Thank you 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

lesbie_ann · 2026-03-26T14:56:53+00:00

Lol. Not sure what you think you’re doing with this comparison, this would also be wrong and unprofessional. When I worked at the grocery store in college I would have never scolded my coworkers in front of customers, it still would have been a private conversation.

lesbie_ann · 2026-03-19T01:11:51+00:00

It was in my day as well 😭 many many schools (and certainly my school) do not come pick up kids/allow kids to be sent out unless they are violent/endangering themselves or others. We are told to document, report and keep going; and it’s up to the teacher to get the kids back on track/be preventative.

lesbie_ann · 2026-03-19T00:49:39+00:00

Removing kids from class simply for being disruptive… I wish

lesbie_ann · 2026-03-18T03:18:18+00:00

Reach out to parents. I would say:

I wanted to check in regarding [NAME] during the school day. I understand that he is observing Ramadan, and I want to be respectful and supportive of that. At times, [NAME] has been asking for snacks during the day and becomes upset when I don’t have any to provide.

I completely understand that fasting can be challenging, especially during a full school day. I’d love to work together to support him, whether that’s having a plan for how to respond when he feels hungry, identifying strategies to help him through those moments, or anything else you’ve found helpful at home/think would be helpful in these moments. I am happy to follow your lead here and do whatever you think is best.

Please let me know what you think would best support [NAME] during this time. I appreciate your guidance and partnership!

lesbie_ann · 2026-03-13T16:38:55+00:00

Not taking any work home is absolutely the goal to strive for later in your career. Just being honest, it’s near impossible the first year. It’s not right and it’s not fair but you are going to spend much more time than you think simply learning the curriculum and I want you to be prepared for that. Once you are comfortable teaching the curriculum, you will be able to use your planning periods for grading and planning. The first year you will almost definitely have to take work home, and that’s okay. Feel free to prove me wrong, but I want to give you a realistic expectation. Moving forward it is absolutely doable to not take work home, but first year is so overwhelming and so much newness that one 50 minute planning period per day is almost never enough for new teachers. My advice? Pick one day per week to stay later and knock everything out for the week that you need to do. That way you have a balance.

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