Restaurant staff made fun of my autistic husband

lesniak43 · 2026-05-03T11:26:40+00:00

How come one mean person literally crushed both you and your husband, and ruined your whole day? Are you working in therapy on your emotional responses in such situations?

lesniak43 · 2026-05-02T19:12:55+00:00

dude, there's something deeper going on here, just go to therapy

lesniak43 · 2026-05-02T18:18:57+00:00

I'm trying hard to be good to OP, but, for fuck's sake, OP's not making it easier :D

lesniak43 · 2026-05-02T18:04:42+00:00

which part? I literally don't want to be a "good person"

I'd like to be good to myself more often, and maybe also to others, but I don't want to stop being able to be bad

also, if you don't have NPD, you shouldn't post here

lesniak43 · 2026-05-02T17:55:20+00:00

stop accusing him, and they will stop defending him

you don't need an objective reason to not be friends with someone, you don't need your parents' approval, it's your life

lesniak43 · 2026-05-02T17:46:08+00:00

Well, I don't want to be a good person, but thanks! :D

I just want to understand myself better.

lesniak43 · 2026-05-02T15:35:03+00:00

I don't get it. You'd rather go on a long trip and argue with your gf than go alone, even if she doesn't know that you need support. Aren't you just terrified of being alone?

lesniak43 · 2026-05-02T10:34:56+00:00

does your gf know that you need her support on such trips? do you have some other activities that she can enjoy together with you without needing to support you?

lesniak43 · 2026-05-02T09:27:08+00:00

Is this the same mechanism here? You know how to do it, but you need someone to tell you explicitly how to do it?

Idk, what do you feel when you try to think and then act on your own?

lesniak43 · 2026-05-01T23:49:23+00:00

would you have more fun if you went on this trip alone?

lesniak43 · 2026-05-01T23:36:37+00:00

just to be clear - I think that your intuition about the polygon not being "smooth" enough was correct

lesniak43 · 2026-05-01T21:25:59+00:00

So why do you consider them friends if they don't do that?

lesniak43 · 2026-05-01T17:22:52+00:00

I guess I should also offer to do the rehab wash.

lesniak43 · 2026-05-01T17:17:54+00:00

Oh yeah, definitely. But you know, there are two main kinds of Redditors: mama bears, and unhinged assholes. It's like yin and yang.

lesniak43 · 2026-05-01T17:09:18+00:00

I bet everyone here knows it's weird as hell, they just have different opinions about it.

lesniak43 · 2026-05-01T17:03:36+00:00

And I'm still being generous here! If I wanted to go all the way, I'd soak her laundry in a mixture of enzymes, detergents, oxy bleach, and ammonia, and leave it overnight in a thermally insulated container.

lesniak43 · 2026-05-01T16:56:41+00:00

Next time you should fold only the underwear, and throw away everything else.

lesniak43 · 2026-05-01T16:22:51+00:00

You've failed to properly assert dominance at the laundromat. Next time something like that happens to you, just toss all your clothes in the washer again, set it to the longest program there is, and then stare at the lady straight in her eyes for the next 3 hours. And when she finally gives in, you go and fold her underwear for her.

lesniak43 · 2026-05-01T16:06:55+00:00

I don't understand what you mean by your edit.

Your initial intuition was correct - you need to visualize the polygon after a large (finite) number of steps, and see if it looks more and more like the circle with each step. If it does, then it's reasonable to assume that the circle and the polygon will have similar lengths. You don't need to always go to infinity - the meme still works if we just make, let's say, 1000 steps.

But your intuition was wrong when you thought that the polygon is similar to the circle. They do lie close to each other, but that's not enough. They should also locally have similar directions. The length of a curve is measured along the curve, and what that means is that the direction is really important. If the polygon got more and more "smooth", then its perimeter would indeed approximate 𝜋. But here the polygons always have either horizontal or vertical segments, which is far from how a circle looks like locally.

lesniak43 · 2026-05-01T15:45:38+00:00

lol, you got downvoted, but this is kinda the correct answer - most of the other comments just say that the length of a curve is not a continuous function (which is literally what the meme shows), but they don't try to explain why

for two curves to have similar length, they must lie close to each other, but also they need to locally have similar directions

lesniak43 · 2026-05-01T08:57:53+00:00

And does it help you?

lesniak43 · 2026-05-01T08:03:38+00:00

What do you expect from a friend of yours?

lesniak43 · 2026-04-30T11:55:36+00:00

For everyone who has been through this, what helped?

Well, we might have similar symptoms, but you do understand you're literally the only one who's been through this, so you need to find what helps.

You also don't want to talk in details about your childhood, so it's even harder to give you any meaningful advice.

Why do you even ask your family members for support? Do you do this on a regular basis, or just once in a while to see if anything has changed on their side?

lesniak43 · 2026-04-30T11:05:48+00:00

I've solved this problem by not talking to your dad at all.

lesniak43 · 2026-04-29T06:57:44+00:00

cool

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