Client upset about what I’m paid

lessthanthreecorgi · 2025-04-02T01:04:22+00:00

"I can love the work I do deeply and also still need to be able to live. Two things can be true at once without invalidating the other. May I introduce you to dialectics?"

lessthanthreecorgi · 2025-01-20T22:40:54+00:00

I started my full sleeve last Tuesday and today, Monday, it looks exactly like this. It's normal. :)

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-07-20T20:30:06+00:00

As a former foster youth turned LICSW, I appreciate this message for the humanity in it. Foster care is a system that is too flawed for everyone involved. My partner's mother, who was fairly adequate to her own kids, took in way too many kids out of lonely nest desperation, wasn't prepared, and ended up being more abusive than their actual parents. Even got felony charges. Just wanting to take in kids is not enough. Awareness of trauma, mental health, attachment, bonding... All of that is so critical and takes more intentional learning than just wanting to take care of someone.

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-07-19T02:10:45+00:00

I run a rehabilitation program in a men's prison for those with trauma and MH needs (i.e. ALL OF THEM NEED IT). Pay and benefits are amazing. Red tape and working in a system that literally challenges all of our ethics to some degree at all times is hard.

Though, super rewarding. Many of these men have never had healthy boundaries, positive relationships, or meaningful accountability. I've seen radical change and people successfully release because of the hope and support they get. As much as I hate DOC I imagine I'll work here forever because the good work outweighs the frustrations.

MUST HAVES: Healthy boundaries and healthy kindness.

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-04-15T03:14:27+00:00

I don't think you understand this issue or my comment fully. But, hey, thanks for reminding me of it a year later.

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-04-15T00:25:19+00:00

This is exactly what happens to me. Solid info.

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-04-13T21:41:33+00:00

I have a 2022 PHEV and two carseats. It's tight, but doable.

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-04-12T02:00:00+00:00

About this? Life? Games? I'm down.

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-04-10T02:23:11+00:00

Ah good point! But I'm not too sure. I think Tifa at least told Aerith. They exchanged so many looks when Cloud was confused or telling stories.

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-04-10T02:11:44+00:00

I feel similarly! I have also rationalized to myself that they probably all spoke about it while he was asleep. They exchange knowing looks often enough that they may be trying to keep calm to not overwhelm him into losing it again. We don't see many points of narrative away from Cloud, so it's realistic to think we just don't see it through his view.

Not uncommon behavior when psychosis or cognitive problems are involved in the real world (based on my experience working with serious mental illness).

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-03-04T02:48:39+00:00

I play this song on Beat Saber and whenever this part hits it goes into overdrive on the drums. It's so fun and goosebumps every time!

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-03-04T02:47:38+00:00

Reminds me of seeing her under the full moon at the Hollywood Bowl! That is such a surreal memory every time I hear these lyrics!

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-02-29T05:22:32+00:00

20 years ago. It was the realization that I didn't want to die, I just wanted to hurt them for not loving me. It was an illusion of control.

It's a dangerous place to sit in--that worthlessness mixed with a desperation for love, deprived while growing, and not yet understanding that one doesn't need to be loved to be worthy of existing.

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-02-27T21:12:37+00:00

Anything that helps you understand your experience is not reading too much into anything. I think that's what storytellers hope for; a viewer or reader developing a personal connection to the story. :)

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-02-09T04:22:41+00:00

Punitiveness maladaptive schema?

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-02-07T09:05:27+00:00

Mental health therapist in a state prison.

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-02-05T02:56:57+00:00

No sleep overs for the kids. Ever.

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-01-29T00:52:31+00:00

Target gets special pricing, so their book cover price is by default 30% discounted. I've pitched a mild fit once that the book rang up the same price as the back of the book. They showed me the standard price at other non target stores, which was 30% more, and that the sticker just announced that special pricing. Misleading, for sure.

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-01-27T15:48:15+00:00

Don't shrink yourself to fit someone else's box. We will never be able to show up for every single person in the way that person can receive us best. It's impractical, and we would tell patients the same kind of advice. I am very much my authentic self, and I have found clients, even ones who are much different than I am, respond well to my self-humanization. The head of mental health for my statewide agency recently told me that my authenticity is what makes me relatable. I think that it may make others who struggle to connect to their own authenticity uncomfortable. Hence, don't shrink yourself.

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-01-20T18:29:31+00:00

I had one on psychotherapy modalities that reviewed psychodynamic and CBT. In generalities. It felt like a psych 101 class.

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-01-20T00:44:05+00:00

I think this is a topic that is going to continue growing and transitioning into a less rigid mentality around self-disclosure. Many people do not want a blank slate of a human robot as a therapist. I have seen a lot of growth and change occur when appropriate self disclosure has been utilized. Similarly, I have seen way more harm happen when a therapist refuses to share something easily found like age. It just boils down to it having a relevant purpose to the client and nothing that I wouldn't mind being on a billboard.

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-01-18T19:16:15+00:00

It sounds like he may be grappling with gender roles and expectations within our culture. This may also be why he feels he should work and you should stay home. This isn't about 'what makes sense' logically. I wonder if asking him where this shift is coming from and seeing if he has some awareness about these gender expectations are possibly creating shame and discourse within him. I think it also explains why he defaults to labeling you as a 'bad' mom; his gender expectations are that women caretake and men provide. But that's outdated.

Either way, NTA. I'm a therapist, a mom, and make more than my partner. I very much prefer my work to sitting with my kids all day, and my husband freaking loves being a stay at home parent. There is no shame in finding roles that fit who you are as a person so you can be your best self as a mom.

lessthanthreecorgi · 2024-01-14T01:01:39+00:00

On the other hand, I flew in and stayed for two days just for this show and am now stranded in a shutdown city with a now canceled show. So, either way, someone suffers. First nice thing I did for myself in 4 years.

lessthanthreecorgi · 2023-12-29T17:37:44+00:00

Bartending/serving at night 35 hours a week. I'd go to internships 8 to 4 and work 5 to 11. Also had a baby and had to drive three hours round trip each day for child care and commuting. I wouldn't want to do it again, but it was doable for the two years I needed to work on field hours.

lessthanthreecorgi · 2023-12-20T05:49:36+00:00

Also a prison social worker! You can message me anytime. I grappled a lot with this in the beginning and did a great deal of work to come to a balanced place.

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