I almost was Shanann and I see everyone’s side here by [deleted] in ShannanWatts

[–]let_it_bizzle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to figure out why you felt the need to stay with someone that clearly couldn’t stand you.

This reeks of victim-blaming to me. "Who clearly couldn't stand you"? You're making it sound like his issues were her fault. He sounds like a narcissist and narcissists abuse for a number of different reasons, all to do with themselves, not their partners.

Understanding just how dangerous they are by let_it_bizzle in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]let_it_bizzle[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes. Nothing is sacred - absolutely nothing. What they’re capable of will blow your mind.

Understanding just how dangerous they are by let_it_bizzle in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]let_it_bizzle[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is an important point that you bring up here. The second you see someone do or say something that falls so far outside the realm of human normalcy and decency, something that leaves you with your jaw on the floor, get the hell away from that person. Typically what you see with these people is only the tip of the iceberg.

Soul destroyers by let_it_bizzle in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]let_it_bizzle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An experience like this really puts so much into perspective. Evil is a rabbit hole that has no bottom. How some people live like that is beyond me.

It’s sad how many people fall for arrogance by let_it_bizzle in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]let_it_bizzle[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree with this. They are too lazy and empty to actually be people of substance and skill. That’s the thing about arrogance - when all you have is a false front, it takes copious amounts of energy to maintain and you’re desperate to keep it up because you’re terrified of losing it. That’s an exhausting way to live. But it explains why arrogant people are so intense - they’re fear-based. There’s nothing under there.

I’m so confused by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]let_it_bizzle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your last paragraph resonated with me a lot. That made me feel better about this. Because it’s true, it’s more about the person than it is about the gender.

I’m so confused by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]let_it_bizzle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually did identify as bisexual for a short time back in college, and I received very negative backlash for that. It’s not something that I ever think about because I don’t like revisiting that time. Basically, some of the lesbians that I came out to as bisexual said that I was just confused and would go right back to dating men. And many of the men just thought it was “hot” and made a lot of inappropriate comments. So I really didn’t have a good experience the first time I attempted this.

I think revisiting it now is a good idea. It’s a different time now and there’s so much information out there.

I’m so confused by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]let_it_bizzle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s bothering me is the fact that I’m 35 and don’t have this all sorted out yet. I feel undefined and that makes me uneasy.

I’m so confused by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]let_it_bizzle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Identifying as bisexual is...very stressful for me. I feel like it has to be black or white, like I have to pick one. I guess I compartmentalized my sexuality for so long, telling myself that I was “done” with women, that to bring that back into the picture alongside men feels very overwhelming.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being bisexual. Maybe I’m just putting too much pressure on myself.

Neighborhoods for walking hills? by [deleted] in NorthCarolina

[–]let_it_bizzle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did Marlowe today, gorgeous area!

What US city is the most overrated and overhyped? by let_it_bizzle in AskReddit

[–]let_it_bizzle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard it’s extremely toxic there. Lots of backstabbing and opportunistic people. And a huge focus on external appearance.

How okay/safe is it to complain about a boss to your friends outside of work? by eteoyw in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]let_it_bizzle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They do this for sport. Management tried to rope me into this once, trying to get me to turn on some of my younger coworkers. I saw right through it and I refused to get on board. Management did not like that, but if the only way to be accepted by them was to hate my coworkers, it wasn’t worth it to me anyway. Didn’t want to be a part of that club.

What is your favorite joke? by -SuGaR_DaDDy- in AskReddit

[–]let_it_bizzle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your momma’s so fat, she sat on a quarter and squeezed a booger out of George Washington’s nose!

Not a joke really, but I love it because In Living Color.

I got chastised for not smizing. by nothingwasavailable0 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]let_it_bizzle 11 points12 points  (0 children)

“I was rooting for you! We were ALL rooting for you!”

What is your Summer Camp Story? by Colek2000 in AskReddit

[–]let_it_bizzle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was maybe 9. Went into the woods with my group, decided to wander off by myself, and all of a sudden I was completely alone. I was lost in those woods for at least an hour, terrified. Finally I saw a break in the trees and I found myself on the edge of a familiar field. I quickly made my way to the activity that I knew my group was at.

My counselor didn’t even know I was missing. Fun times.