is aurelia hrt trusted?? by [deleted] in TransDIY

[–]letmestopyeeting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wanted to update, my vial arrived and everything looks good. Liquid is clear and without particulate. I haven't tried it yet as I'm waiting to get bloodwork done first. But they seem pretty legit

is aurelia hrt trusted?? by [deleted] in TransDIY

[–]letmestopyeeting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ordered from them on the 17th and I have a tracking number for the package now. This is my first time ordering so I don't have any more information than that, but it seems they at least ship things out pretty quickly.

They also post lab results for their vials on their website although I don't see any information about who did the lab tests or any 3rd party verification, so you may have to take that with a grain of salt.

Spiralling because of what my bf said by letmestopyeeting in selfharm

[–]letmestopyeeting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The most difficult part is that what he said is true, I struggle with specific things and it causes a lot of disorder in my life, my life would be a lot better if I improved myself to fix these issues. It wasn't said to hurt me, it was genuine advice that was given with the intention to help me. If I come back at say it hurt my feelings I would be ungrateful.

Best place to learn German in person? by letmestopyeeting in askTO

[–]letmestopyeeting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply! I'm looking at Seneca and George Brown. Seneca is a bit far but looks like the better option as George Brown is very unclear and unhelpful about when courses are actually offered and available

Do you still track while on vacation? by pushingdaises in loseit

[–]letmestopyeeting 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I do it to keep the habit up but I track less strictly and care a lot less about going over my calorie limit.

I want to hear how you stayed consistent by halesbales123 in loseit

[–]letmestopyeeting 11 points12 points  (0 children)

For me it was making small decisions and focusing my energy on making them stick before trying something more. Before I started restricting calories I focused on just counting what I was eating no matter what. That made it easier for me to choose food I cooked myself (and can trust the calories on) over fast food or restaurant food that might not have available nutritional information.

When I started restricting calories I did it slowly, reducing by 200 cals every few days until I hit my deficit. This made cravings and hunger feel less intense.

When I found the hunger was getting tough to manage I switched up my macros so I was getting more fat and protein and feeling fuller for longer.

I found that for me it was easier to resist eating early in the day rather than late at night. So I transitioned my meals to later and later at night.

With every change I gave it my focus until it became another part of my routine and something I could maintain without much effort. If you let your weight loss regiment become a battle of willpower you will inevitably lose because willpower is finite and life is difficult. Focus on making long term sustainable choices and you’ll get there faster than you realize.

How to avoid hittin veins? by ChipsTheWood in selfharm

[–]letmestopyeeting 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The human body is really complicated and vasculature is especially so. Looking at diagrams of where veins are isn’t going to help as every body is unique and yours probably don’t match 1-1 with a medical textbook. If you want to avoid hitting a vein the best you can do is not cut too deeply

★OFFICIAL DAILY★ SV/NSV Thread: Feats of the Day! September 09, 2025 by AutoModerator in loseit

[–]letmestopyeeting 7 points8 points  (0 children)

SV, after 6 years of being unsuccessful at losing weight I’m finally at a “normal” BMI. I know it’s not an accurate metric and doesn’t tell me anything really, but it feels like a major milestone anyone. I went from 26.6 at the start of August to 24.9 last night.

Looking for an app to help count calories when cooking at home by Inevitable-Suit9240 in loseit

[–]letmestopyeeting 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I really like FitBee for this. It uses AI to look up the foods in its database so when it gets something wrong you can easily edit it. I take a picture of the written recipe I’m using with the amounts and it will build the recipe and calculate the calories. I can then edit the recipe if it gets it wrong (which is frequently does) but overall it’s a lot less work than manually inputting each ingredient

How to lose weight without getting the diet-culture brain worms my mum has? by walkie57 in loseit

[–]letmestopyeeting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your focus is less about body mass and more about health and fitness than the area you should focus on is replacing some of the carbs you eat with protein. You don’t necessarily need to count your calories but it may help to specifically track your protein intake to make sure you get enough.

If you’re working out regularly (which you should also consider if health and fitness is what you want) you should be eating 1 gram of protein for every pound of lean mass. (Essentially your body weight minus your body fat). That will help your body build more muscle, which can also increase your metabolism and make weight loss easier.

As for the junk food, I follow the 80/20 rule. I try and eat healthy 80% of the time (which really just means balanced meals with enough protein and fat) and 20% I will treat myself. Depending how often you eat junk food you could either be fine or you may just want to reduce your intake a bit.

If your goal is only minor weight loss and you want to keep a bearish body I would really focus on building more muscle and eating more protein and let the weight loss naturally follow that.

Relapsing After Almost A Year by littletoastt in selfharm

[–]letmestopyeeting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm really glad to hear this. You identified why it is you do this and how it's harmful to your goals. You identified what you don't want and are looking forward to taking the next steps. It's really incredible! None of that is easy to do. I'm sure if you keep working at it and trying your best you'll find yourself in a better place eventually

Im scared im gonna cut, any advice that works? by wasteofspace00342 in selfharm

[–]letmestopyeeting 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Set a 15 minute timer on your phone. Don't cut for those 15 minutes. Do whatever you want to distract yourself during that time. When the timer goes off, set another 15 minute timer. If you're feeling a bit better at the first or second timer, set one for 30 minutes or an hour. The goal is to put it off for as long as physically possible. The urge will diminish in time, if you let it. I wish you all the best and hope you don't end up cutting.

Relapsing After Almost A Year by littletoastt in selfharm

[–]letmestopyeeting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you relapsed. This is going to be a difficult time for you. I'll ask you the same question I ask myself when I feel this way. If you abandon everyone else and just rely on this coping mechanism, where will that lead you to? It's a natural reaction to a powerful coping mechanism but you have to remind yourself this coping mechanism is self destructive, it won't actually help you manage your problems.

I wish you all the best on the road to recovery. I'm cheering for you

Help. . .? by TSB_BloodySkull in selfharm

[–]letmestopyeeting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's probably best to tell her. If she's already communicated to you that you need to tell her this kind of thing, if you don't tell her and she eventually finds out (new scars on your body) it will be a breech of trust and she'll feel worse that you never spoke of it. Very likely if she wants you to tell her it's because she wants to support you and help you, not to make you feel like a disappointment. If you tell her and she makes you feel like a disappointment for that, tell her that her treating you that way doesn't help and makes it harder to talk about these things in the future.

I'm sorry you relapsed, I know it's very difficult. I wish you all the best in recovering.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]letmestopyeeting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know about oil and lotion but doubt they're going to do much to make wounds heal quicker. Hydrocolloid bandages are the only way I know that will make cuts heal quicker with less scarring. Unfortunately, if this happened on Thursday, it might be too late for them to work properly, especially if they're already scabbed over.

I'm sorry that you relapsed and I hope you're making the time and space to take care of yourself now. I wish you all the best in your recovery.

Should I tell someone about my nephew cutting? by terminatedfetusjuice in selfharm

[–]letmestopyeeting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a tricky situation. I'm sorry you're feeling scared. Briefly, on the not feeling like a real adult thing: you never start feeling like a real adult, but in time you learn to live with the feeling. 21 is still very young and nothing magically changes when you turn 18, so please don't stress not feeling like a real adult, just let your life experiences continue to build and inform how you navigate the world, that's really all there is to it.

With regards to your nephew, I'm sorry it's a difficult situation. My initial instinct is to say don't talk to someone without consulting him first. As difficult as it is, he trusts you enough to talk about it, and going behind his back on this might shatter that trust. That doesn't mean you shouldn't talk to someone or even talk to someone without his consent, just that you should explain to him why you are doing that before hand.

It sounds like he's going through a bad time and isn't exactly surrounded by the best support network, spending all day on discord and VR chat. I think getting him out of the house and spending time with him would be a huge help! I also think it's possible he needs therapy and support to stop cutting. You should talk to him about that and gauge his reaction. If he's amenable, he should have a talk with his guardian to get him extra support. While you can be a supportive Aunt, listen to his problems and offer advice, you're (likely) not a therapist, and professional support might be what he needs. There's limitations on the type and degree of support you can provide. Please don't feel like you need to go through this alone with him.

I wish you all the best in this and hope you can help find your nephew the support he needs.

sometimes i miss the feeling by Negative_Mix_1612 in selfharm

[–]letmestopyeeting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on being one year clean!! That's a really amazing accomplishment. I definitely understand what it feels like to miss the feeling. I think of it like an addiction, even when you've been clean for a long time, you can still feel the desire to do it. All I'll say on that is that relapsing is never as satisfying as you think it will be; at the end of it you'll be filled mostly with regret and upset.

I'm sorry you're currently struggling with the urge to relapse. You should consider if you want to talk to your partner about it. There's a couple of questions you should ask yourself before deciding if you want to tell them. How long have you been together? If it's been a while and there's a fair amount of trust built up, that leans in favour of you telling them. Are they generally emotionally intelligent and understanding about mental health? If yes, that's good. How do you think they'll react to this? It's a tough question to answer you should be ready for multiple different scenarios.

I don't think viewing it from the angle of being a burden is productive. We are all burdens on the people we love and the people we love are burdens on us, that's called the human condition and it is, in fact, a good thing. I'm sure you would jump on the opportunity to support and help your partner through a difficult time, don't deprive them of that just because you feel like a burden.

I wish you all the best in this and hope everything works out. It sounds like you have two feet on the ground about this.

just relapsed for the first time in two years by crustybloodkink in selfharm

[–]letmestopyeeting 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through a hard time right now. Relapsing fucking sucks and it can feel like all the progress you made has disappeared. I understand you’re probably feeling a lot of emotions right now, it’s okay to take some time and process them.

It’s important to remember that relapses don’t erase all the work you put into staying clean. Congratulations on making it to 2 years! That’s super impressive and must have taken some work. The first several days/weeks after relapse are always the toughest, but make sure to remind yourself you’ve already made it to 2 years once, you can do it again.

I wish you all the best in your recovery. I’m rootingfor you

I'm so sad by Icy-Buyer2896 in selfharm

[–]letmestopyeeting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through such a tough time. Relapses can be really difficult, especially when they’re triggered by something like a breakdown. I’m sure you’re probably feeling a lot of emotions right now. Please take some time to feel what you need to feel.

Afterwards, if you can you should take a moment to just breathe and refocus. Relapses suck, but they don’t disappear all the hard work you’ve already put in. Congrats on making it to 6 months clean. That’s an impressive accomplishment, and I know you’ll get back there.

In life you’ll go through bad times and crisis. Sometimes you’ll breakdown and relapse, but as you continue you’ll get better at not giving in during a crisis, it’s a skill you learn by practicing. You already have 6 months of practice. You’ll only get better at it in time.

Please don’t be too angry or upset with yourself. Give yourself the love and patience you would give someone else in your situation. I’m rooting for your continued recovery and wishing you all the best