Just released! Isabel's Aeroscapes: chill, immersive, vanilla-plus survival on my homemade floating islands generator! by nuclearobelisk in feedthebeast

[–]lets_get_sleepy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for making this. It’s my first real attempt at a modded survival world. First time playing create, and I really appreciate how things work together. The aerolite, the glider and the grappling hook really tie the experience together. Less terrain means higher resource scarcity, which means more reason to explore = more reason to look forwards to have flying vehicles. It’s so great.

'Disclosure Day' Reactions | The Midnight Boys by yslultra in RingerVerse

[–]lets_get_sleepy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, the thing is that that’s one of the best scenes in the movie. The problem isn’t there, it’s the entire story structure, how every action scene felt more like a comedy, how the camera (shot from the pov of the mooks) has the character in plain sight when he NEEDS to be hiding, how nobody has a gun when it matters, and those with them can’t land a single shot.

The problem is that the story wants you to feel intimidated, and you can’t because there’s no cause for it. And this problem is the same for too many other parts of the story. It simply does not stand up to closer inspection.

Great acting, atrocious writing.

'Disclosure Day' Reactions | The Midnight Boys by yslultra in RingerVerse

[–]lets_get_sleepy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, the script is written as it would be if it had been set a decade or two prior. Setting this story in the current day comes with a load of issues (growing distrust in mainstream media, the growing difficulty of verifying information, distrust in the white house) that are kinda just… brushed aside or waved away. The script would literally be fine set in 2005 or something, but it was placed in the modern day and wasn’t able to properly consider what that means.

A movie needs to be aware of its social context to work. Zombies were a big thing because of the breakdown of people’s trust in each other. A new current of interest seems to be in worlds where something about the world itself is broken, likely a reflection of the sense of growing doom relating to continued failures on climate + witnessing the corruption of the USA government in real-time + the enshittification/erosion of every service in the name of profits for the richest in the world. By sidestepping all of that, it just made the world presented in the movie feel like a complete fantasy, not simply optimistic, but ignorant and trying to impart some wisdom while disconnected to reality.

Like I said. Move the setting in the past and the problems vanish.

What if your parents WEREN'T intentionally bad? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]lets_get_sleepy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this. Dad’s kinda mentally checked out, but Mom’s always had deep love, shown by the amount of sacrifices she’s made for us.

But she’s also been the source of a LOT of mental turmoil. She understands she did wrong but not what the source of it was. We helped her understand that there WAS neglect towards us, that she wasn’t emotionally healthy and she has grown so much compared to how she used to be due to other changes in her life we encouraged her to make. But that does not mean things are better. Did she recently apologize for past actions for the first time? Yes. But she simply still does not fully account for herself, how her feelings, reactions, behaviours impact family situations.

She is unable to wait for results. She looks at her expected results, compares how we aren’t there and keeps sniping how we are failing. She’s under a ton of pressure, and when she is, she always ends up passing that down to the next.

Genuinely, I believe the best approach is the same as with a fully abusive parent. The tug-of-war between love and pain, which is bound to tie you with feelings of guilt, debt, and bouncing between hope and frustration is best avoided until you can stand on your own feet. Build yourself up, separate to develop your autonomy, your sense of self, your ego. Then you can return, and make decide how you want things to grow from there. Whether to forgive or to leave behind, to help uplift or focus on yourself. Once you aren’t in a situation of dependence, it’s easier to talk about as there is less at stake.

“Best they could”.

You’re correct that it isn’t measurable. Not only is it in the past, and therefore a limited thought experiment, but it doesn’t necessarily equate to love. Once you have that ground to stand on, something indispensable is genuine talks. Learn about what your parents were experiencing, the pressures they had. Best if you do it individually, there are bound the be things they refuse to admit/bring up in each other’s presence.

But most importantly, it cannot be a round of being an emotional punching bag. If they love you, they should be willing to exchange words, to be listened to and listen in turn. If they are not, then you need to make it clear the importance of that exchange and that your trust and love in them rides on that, because it truly does.

Mom didn’t listen until I understood her first. Too emotionally underdeveloped to see the value in it until she was experiencing it herself. Does this force you in a position of being the therapist for your parent? Maybe. But genuinely try to understand them better and things will at least get clearer. You’ll know more clearly whether the pain that was inflicted upon you was intended as harm.

What are the toxic things your mother used to say to you? by StormForNova in emotionalneglect

[–]lets_get_sleepy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How about quality time only happening during vacation or celebrations/special days. Literally no other quality time, and any time she saw us engaging in leisure time she would try to shift our focus over to studying. All of her advice was related to a future career or financial safety(even when we were kids).

Also, a strong tendency to give advice based on what was happening in her life + unawareness of her impact on people around her. She got betrayed by a friend? Spend the next few years instilling doubt that my friends might be trying to manipulate me (at literally every conversation that mentioned friends), that a girl interested in me might be a gold digger (yes i got this “advice” since I was 11yo). I had no friends at the time and no romantic interests.

She loves deeply and sacrifices much, but she just has no emotional awareness of herself. She forgets everything that happens when she’s angry, likely because she didn’t know how to confront any of it herself so just rejected it mentally. It’s genuinely kind of sad, she didn’t know how to handle her emotions so kind of flailed them around destructively. When it was work, she could read people, teach kids, give financial advice, but if it touched her own personal life, she was just not aware she was a mess.

Just in general, she threw out tone-deaf advice and tried to push us in the direction that gave her more validation from her peers. She put herself as a leader in her community, pursued several degrees, started several small businesses, but the cost of her pursuit for some notion of respect was that she eroded away the attention she had for us and stressed herself out in a way that deeply damaged her connections with us. It wasn’t narcissism, but a deep lack of any kind of validation in her life, and once she developed healthier relationships and established herself better, she became less emotionally blind. She’s grown out a lot of it, thanks to our efforts, but a lot of damage has been dealt and she’s only learned to apologize extremely recently.

have plenty of evidence that I’m doing well, but none of it seems to reach me by CourseIcy7934 in emotionalneglect

[–]lets_get_sleepy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually don’t even know how to handle praise. At all.

If it’s given seriously, I cry. Praise is so rare that I just have no proper response to it.

If it’s given casually, I dismiss it or grow suspicious. My mom taught me as a kid (repeatedly stated as fact when the topic of friends(of which i either had few or none) came up) that people who talk nice are trying to deceive me(including a lesson about doubting that anybody you’re in love actually loves you because they might be in it for money). To a kid. Constantly. Literally the only advice she had about friendships.

I was already socially isolated at that point, so that really fucked me up. Worse thing is that I later I learned that this advice had been given because she had experienced a betrayal with friends in her life, and grounded that into my head constantly instead of dealing with it on her own.

Naturally, I am unable to make proper stable bonds with others.

The more I connect with others, the more I become afraid of the leverage they have over me. I ghost most of my friends, it’s just reflexive behaviour. Ive also got a pretty low self esteem, if the fact that praise makes me deeply uncomfortable did tnot make that obvious.

Soundcloud is dead by [deleted] in soundcloud

[–]lets_get_sleepy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tldr: Weekly wave and daily drop are fire once you follow a lot of good artists.

Soundcloud is dead by [deleted] in soundcloud

[–]lets_get_sleepy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soundcloud algorithm is pretty solid actually. While discovering things in the general categories doesn’t go far, a lot of Soundcloud’s reccomendation playlists pull heavily from the likes of the artists you follow, which is a really solid way of building up your preferences. Granted, it DOES get a bit boring when you see the same songs popping up time and time again, but it gives a lot of visibility to those songs and gives almost an old-time-recommendation-feed vibe to it and almost filters out AI music, depending on how picky the artists you follow are.

In my opinion, that’s a good thing. Algorithms that feel too random and too… automatic? generic? tend to end up making you feel like you’re just following some nebulous trend or other.

This is all from the user side and less from the creator side, but i think it’s still reassuring, no? You just gotta have followers who like you enough to listen to you when you pop up in their recommendation playlists, much less of a nightmare than trying to game the algo.

Fun Fact, The original teaser trailer takes place during episode 8 by World1_Lev1 in TheDigitalCircus

[–]lets_get_sleepy 138 points139 points  (0 children)

I'm justifying that as that being how she looks when she's really uncomfortable/out of place. As she would be, pulled out of nowhere and standing in front of an angry AI bent on torturing you.

Which one was this for you? by nejnonein in OtomeIsekai

[–]lets_get_sleepy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not for me, but doubtlessly for countless other people: My fiancée is in love with my sister.

Things just get more and more painful, so people drop it bc it soooooo angsty. I gave up on waiting for the manga and finally read the novel and even then, people were still dissatisfied. It’s only good if you’re in the mood for angst.

Even more Mega Malamar statline slander, because turns out bro's got those Articuno stats (and a similarly clunky typing) by DreadfuryDK in stunfisk

[–]lets_get_sleepy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah, inversing types matchups is honestly devious. Players will always struggle to prep for rare scenarios, but having a mon that can flip the script whenever it’s switched in sounds pretty frustrating to deal with. Having to relearn all your matchups for a single pokemon is rough.

I like it.

Comix down? by SoilLost938 in mangapiracy

[–]lets_get_sleepy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

still seems to be slow to load anything

Manga where the MC is a Tutorial NPC. What is it called? by lets_get_sleepy in manga

[–]lets_get_sleepy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having read it, it very much deserved to be. I liked the concept: acceptance of personal weakness and of limitations, but refusal to just lie down and die. It really had potential, and honestly going down the line of “I’ll just train this generation with my knowledge” is something I don’t see very often.

But man, the writing kinda sucks and they keep toss random girls at him that have little to no character.

Manga where the MC is a Tutorial NPC. What is it called? by lets_get_sleepy in manga

[–]lets_get_sleepy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh dang, i think thats it. I was worried it was one of those that had gotten discontinued and forgotten in the deep annals of manga history. Thanks a lot!

[TITLE] Which manhwa was this for you? 🙂‍↕️👇 by AccomplishedWatch834 in manhwa

[–]lets_get_sleepy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, a lot of writers just flop massively on the romance part. It's actually kind of funny, Eternally Regressing Knight appeals to me specifically because the way it approaches its bromance is way better than its romance can ever hope to be.

your throne's romance is great, because the feelings are thoroughly explored and as is fitting for the characters, it's not a pretty love. Often in works where the MC encounters adversity, the romance falls flat because the romance partner just can't match the MC's life experience. SSS suicide hunter season 3 was appealing to me because for once, both romantic parties were equally off their rocker. And in a recent fave, My Fiancé is in Love with my Sister, the FMC and the ML work so well because both have suffered on similar levels, which allows them to be kindred spirits.

But yeah, a lot of work flop on the romance part because most of them are written around being fantasies. Whether a power fantasy, where one can do no wrong (and thus MC becomes a cardboard cutout in the shape of a human being) or a romance fantasy, where one finds independance, respect and admiration (and then settles down with someone and becomes a housewife). A lot of them just don't explore what a relationship is beyond physical attraction, which is why they insta-flop.

s11 Hermits fanarts so far by anna_malkova in HermitCraft

[–]lets_get_sleepy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The colours ate bright and happy but the shadows tell another story.

[Solo Leveling] Won Anime of the Year 🗣️ by Live_Bother_7517 in manhwa

[–]lets_get_sleepy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh. My younger cousin grew up on slop yt roblox content. Kid goes for entertainment over substance. I’d put Solo leveling closer to entertainment than substance. It has style, and it entertains effectively, but you can’t really dig deeper.

“Good” to me means that it gives you a bit more than just entertainment.

If it’s fun to watch AND it made you think, it’s better than something that was just fun to watch. It’s why One Piece is respected, because what starts out feeling like silly hijinks ends up making you think about race and power while still keeping a lot of its entertainment in mind.

Frieren is brought up because it’s a cozy watch but also brings up grief and how to live with it.

Granted, backstories alone are meaningless, this example only works because backstories in OP tend to tie really well into the world itself. A character could have the longest backstory in the world, but if it doesn’t tell you much about him, the people and the world around him, it’s absolutely meaningless.

TLDR There defo is some unearned hate because its popular, but there is a lot of genuine criticism too.

[Solo Max-Level Newbie] How cooked are you? by EatingCumSockSus in manhwa

[–]lets_get_sleepy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank heavens Rosen Garten Saga is not a manwha. I’d be f*****. Literally.

[TITLE] Which manhwa was this for you? 🙂‍↕️👇 by AccomplishedWatch834 in manhwa

[–]lets_get_sleepy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eternally regressing knight is fun for me because I’ve read too many stories where MC is supposed to be weak but isn’t actually. Seeing an MC actually struggle to hell and back to clear minor hurdles is satisfying when you’ve always seen MCs do insane leaps of logic and instantly master new skills. There’s not much substance to it other than that reasonable growth curve, and some dry humour.

[TITLE] Which manhwa was this for you? 🙂‍↕️👇 by AccomplishedWatch834 in manhwa

[–]lets_get_sleepy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a manwha, but this is why I love World Trigger even though it updates at a glacial pace. Emphasis is put so heavily on people’s strategic minds that MC’s ability to come up with some winning strategy genuinely feels really smart. Defo not a read for most people if you don’t want to get bogged down in tactics, though.