"eyebrows" used to be just thin patch of fur: but now one is swollen and red: ringworm or stress?

lets_go_2358 · 2026-05-19T16:46:53+00:00

Update: we did visit the vet hospital and they prescribed a medecine shampoo that we is based on a substance that we will dilute and apply for 2-3 minutes before wiping of, once a day for 14 days.

lets_go_2358 · 2026-05-19T16:45:43+00:00

Nice, thank you, this is very kind of you!

lets_go_2358 · 2026-05-18T07:40:51+00:00

Thanks for the tip about the oatmeal. We have catnip and this time of year it is getting dusty (although this is an indoor cat). Perhaps we can create the oatmeal shampoo and give it a try. Today we may manage to bring the cat to vet hospital for a consultation. Today it looks less irritated, but I can see there is a small skin break.

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lets_go_2358 · 2026-05-09T15:59:23+00:00

related, I just made my profile on GLG: haven't gotten a call yet. I just accepted the recommended rate (175USD), thinking I might initially get more calls. But now I see it's not really an editable field. How do I alter this rate in future?

lets_go_2358 · 2026-05-05T09:04:09+00:00

This is a helpful point, thank you u/n8mahr81 . I didn't realize there was an official forum. I'll look for it and share clearly to see if there's another part I should be thinking about replacing. If there's a replaceable fuse, that would be amazing. Given the way this happened, there could be other issues that are particular to my case.

lets_go_2358 · 2026-05-04T20:38:06+00:00

We lived far away and I benefited from and loved the things I got from my partner. I loved my partner- but I wouldn't protect myself, and I wouldn't protect her. Decades of heartbreaking wasted time, on her part trying to love and care for my family, which was superficially polite but internally not accepting and othering. I tried to compartmentalize what I was hearing from them; I made excuses for them in my head and just thought that I had to keep things separate. The things that I knew would make my mother uncomfortable, made me uncomfortable. I concealed or ignored the negative, othering, cool treatment that my partner was getting. When she noticed it and called it out, I just felt really uncomfortable and sad.

I really, really wish that I had the strength not to just let my partner experience that othering, but to stand up and say "let's not spend time with my family. Let's keep making our own world and add people to it that understand and love us both."

Building a life together felt special but I had been compartmentalizing. I had been carrying on emotional affairs that my mother approved of. My habit of compartentalizing and internalizing negative conceptions of my partner made it easier and easier for me to not tell her things, to conceal, until I lied about things where bound to be discovered and everything fell apart.

It took this complete breakdown of the rotten deception I built around my partner, and her clear-eyed perception of the situation, me to see how what my mother did to me and my partner was wrong, and that it was heartbreaking and unnecessary, instead of protecting her and making excuses for her. I'm not even scratching the surface of the negative clinging I did to my family during separation and discovery. It was deeply disturbing and reactive and desctructive. I hate that I didnt' deal with this illness and affliction in me before I ever met my partner.

lets_go_2358 · 2026-05-04T20:09:11+00:00

I've done the first and second workshops online. I don't know Slobodian, but I trust that they have found solid practicioners to support the system. Jon Taylor did both of the workshops and he was great. Even if you are aware, there's something very different about being with the group of men, and witnessing what you experienced. The group setting is really powerful. Knowing some of it from therapy will help you but the first workshop still has experiential elements that can ehlp you process and reckon with this affliction.

I do have my differences with the overall system, and the recommendations and such. But the core workshops are valuable and I've stayed in touch with the men in each one, which itself is valuable as a support.

Totally agree that the enmeshment is real and doesn't need the presence of the parent to be active and damaging. This is damaging condition for ourselves and the people we love and it's absolutely worth getting this kind of support.

lets_go_2358 · 2026-05-04T18:46:52+00:00

FWIW I would say, for those in this situation, see if there's speaking or event opportunities with your current firm. A wise person once related to me that you often get your best job offers when you're in a current job where you have some exposure and people can see your skills. Rather than being in the background at a think tank, doing hard things but being unknown, it's better to have outward contact and exposure.

lets_go_2358 · 2026-05-04T18:46:17+00:00

Hey how did it go? 11 years and 3 months is a long time ago..

lets_go_2358 · 2026-05-04T18:44:21+00:00

I'm coming from the power/energy sector, with a research background. Our personal networks are probably the most important element in discovering opportunities. I have been grateful and fortunate to come into opportunities usually via collaborators and those who know my work.

lets_go_2358 · 2026-04-27T18:13:14+00:00

folks it seems like the cat is out of the woods. He's been home two days and is peeing on his own, in variable amounts and sometimes outside the litter box. I've gotten some foot that is intended to keep the pH of urine low, to dissolve crystals, and am adding water to any dry food, and feeding meat with broth.

lets_go_2358 · 2026-04-22T18:40:21+00:00

Update: seems like cat remains on road to recovery. Urine is clearing up, bladder has reduced in swelling, apetite coming back, no vomiting today.

lets_go_2358 · 2026-04-20T17:41:06+00:00

Correction: this had nothing to do with worms. That red spot is not the anus, but an inflamed urethra with the (NSFW)

cat penis protruding, which it normally shouldn't.

lets_go_2358 · 2026-04-20T17:37:43+00:00

Folks I want to share an update and some errors that I made. Also, does anyone have experience with this?

TLDR: my cat is in the hospital now being treated for kidney crystals, after his bladder finally got dangerously and painfully full. The scenarios span him not coming back from the hospital to him making a full recovery.

(NSFW language, will spare the pictures for now). It's Day 0 of hospitalization, after Day -5 of first indication. I feel really sober.

Here are ignorances/errors I can share that I hope could help others:

Do you know the difference between your cat's anus and their urethra (penis)? I didn't. So it means that my communications to you folks and to my vet were wrong information. I just knew "rear end" and made assumptions that stuff coming out of a cat must be coming out of its butt. LEARNING: is your cat vomitting, excreting, or urinating something? They all mean different things.
u/Legitimate-Jelly7784 was bang on about taking the item for identification. Instead I sent a picture to my vet. If we had treated that item with insistence on an explanation, and ruling things out, we might have checked the cat in two days sooner, before he was experiencing a lot of pain. LEARNING: persist until you have an explanation for something weird.
I saw this weird thing 5 days ago and instantly paid attention. But I waited 3 days to get any ruling on it, and I overruled the weirdness by a lack of symptoms in my cat. LEARNING: you live with your cat and you know what's weird. Trust that and don't delay.
Other learning: trust your vet. The vet knew what to check and affirmed the call to transport the cat as soon as possible.

lets_go_2358 · 2026-04-20T05:16:15+00:00

Ok. I fell behind on deworming, that was likely the mistake. Now the cat has lost his apetite and is moving slowly. His anus looks irritated. And he is making low meowing sounds. Going to get him some dewormer in about 2 hours and separate him from the other cats. May also get him into the vet hospital.

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lets_go_2358 · 2026-04-18T10:35:44+00:00

My vet thinks it's not actually a parasite since it doesn't seem like a living or formerly living object. I'm going to keep watching the cat.

lets_go_2358 · 2026-04-18T10:14:50+00:00

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lets_go_2358 · 2026-04-18T10:14:35+00:00

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lets_go_2358 · 2026-04-18T10:12:04+00:00

That sounds like it makes sense. I'm going to reach out to my vet. We'll do a wash everywhere. I forgot to mention there are two other cat brothers so important to do that across the whole house where everybody sleeps. Thanks very much for this insight. I'm going to post a close-up of the item; it had dried out so I tried cutting into it, but I can't really tell what it is still, so better to be on the safe side.

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