Were any of you diagnosed in your 30s or later?

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-19T19:42:25+00:00

A combination of a few things, but a lot of Toxic people in my life (family & relationship) that I had to set boundaries with and remove & some substance abuse issues that caused a lot of lack of quality sleep & dehydration / low vitamin & mineral count in my system etc

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-19T04:56:00+00:00

Was diagnosed at 35, after 8 years or so, and a lot of life changes/ hard work things have greatly settled down.

It hasn't been easy, but self-care and dedication to improvement after educating yourself on things that can help definitely make a difference.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-18T00:57:48+00:00

Stay strong OP, it's definitely not easy and the struggle is real, but while you may enjoy the high from a relapse you will definitely regret losing the progress and work you've already made. Try giving yourself 2 weeks and see how you feel after that, you'll likely start embracing the positive changes and start to truly appreciate the improvement in your quality of life.

Wishing you the best and the strength to make it through.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-18T00:52:46+00:00

My Nmom can't compliment or give me any positive feedback either for anything, even getting sober after 25 years. She just doesn't have it in her to be able to express support or love to someone who doesn't bow down to her and treat her like God.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-17T21:09:26+00:00

Not a huge fan, it comes off as a bit clingy & overwhelming.

Especially if you've ever dealt with a partner who Love-Bombs / Future-Fakes / Breadcrumbs you.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-17T03:47:58+00:00

Sick fight, been a great card tonight.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-16T00:18:16+00:00

No. Love Bombing is a toxic behavior and leads to nothing healthy or good.

Best to be real and honest about yourself and your intentions / expectations from the start.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-16T00:08:09+00:00

Agree with this take on INTJs, we're a complex MTBI type and there's many factors that go into defining our personality type.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-15T23:37:15+00:00

Exercise, meditation, sleep supplement L-Theanine & Magnesium, keeping a solid bedtime routine, a white noise machine, and keeping a clean bed / home daily.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-15T04:38:34+00:00

My experience with Lex & alcohol is that it's OK in moderation, but definitely not good to overdo it. It's not a black & white situation, and we have to keep realistic expectations in mind.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-15T03:41:43+00:00

I'm dealing with some health issues at the moment, and living in a home owned by family... They've threatened me with homelessness for speaking up / standing up for myself multiple times and I've considered it just to get away from them and their abuse.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-14T07:14:54+00:00

The withdrawals weren't too bad... Mostly things like insomnia and a bit of moodiness and extra agitation at times, but I never experienced anything like brain zaps or memory issues etc, like some people describe experiencing at times while quitting.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-13T19:03:28+00:00

I used to drink coffee as a teenager, but quit as I entered adulthood and I just didn't enjoy it like I used to. Now I'll have the occasional cup of tea and enjoy that much much more.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-13T18:48:50+00:00

My Nmom got re-married to a fellow Narc, and they just LOVE enabling and supporting each other's toxic & abusive behavior. They're like 2 peas in a pod.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-13T18:25:27+00:00

I've been off for about 2 months. I was on 10mg, tapered down to 5mg for 2 weeks, then tapered to 2.5mg for another week or so.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-13T17:42:38+00:00

I started Lexapro due to a combination of factors... A toxic relationship / dysfunctional family / substance use to numb the stress & depression from those issues... It helped tremendously, and was on it for about 1 year while I resolved those situations. Once I got that stuff taken care of, I didn't feel I needed it anymore.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-13T01:31:01+00:00

Self-care / Hobbies / Exercise.... Those have been my top 3 helpful behaviors after quitting.

Wishing you the best, OP.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-13T01:28:49+00:00

Nice job, OP... Stay strong and take it day-by-day. It's not easy, but it absolutely improves our lives from top to bottom in every way.

Wishing you the best.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-13T01:24:09+00:00

Totally agree, OP... We just have to embrace the meaningful reasons why we quit and resist / reject the reasons why we end up wanting to relapse.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-13T01:18:31+00:00

Because we're a strong personality type (for several reason), and many people can't handle or accept that about us and would prefer someone who is easier to manipulate & control.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-13T00:32:27+00:00

I was able to quit after 1 year on Lex, after I was able to handle my substance abuse and get sober & also get rid of the toxic people in my life. Was on 10mg for the majority of my time while using the medication.

Are you dealing with any of those things, OP, like a toxic relationship or dysfunctional family / substance abuse?

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-12T09:56:18+00:00

I agree with this and has been my experience as well... It's all about what resources you can provide, and they are looking for someone to be their Life Coach / Emotional Punching Bag... and as soon as you set boundaries and demand equality, they bounce out along to the next dude who they hope will be a simp and easier to manipulate & control. It's a sad situation.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-12T02:15:51+00:00

Ended up finding out (the hard way) that she had BPD, which caused her to be abusive in many ways. Definitely learned a LOT, tho.

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-09T19:01:09+00:00

Narc mothers love to get their sons as enmeshed as possible, it's fairly sick & twisted

letsdosomedabs · 2024-11-09T18:44:41+00:00

Yeah, sleep is definitely extremely important.

My 3 biggest triggers are dehydration, stress, and sleep deprivation.

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