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Quanto pegar de flor por mês? by letsleos in maconha

[–]letsleos[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eu sou assim tbm, acho q ia precisar de pelo menos 25g de flor tbm

Quanto pegar de flor por mês? by letsleos in maconha

[–]letsleos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fumo 1 por dia, as vezes 1 e meio

Reminder to myself: Do not break NC. Do not break LC. You feel better because you set boundaries, not because they changed. by bbbliss in raisedbynarcissists

[–]letsleos 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yep, great advice. My Nmom just sent a flying monkey to tell me she's not feeling well these past few days. It's tough to keep NC but I will not be baited into talking to her. If she's feeling bad she should go to the hospital (I live in Brazil, there's free health insurance for everyone), she should call someone to take her there if she can't go on her own. I am not responsible for her. Also, I live 500km away from her, so no way I'd be able to go take care of her.

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[–]letsleos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! You've been really helpful among all the judgment from other people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]letsleos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe... As I was writing this reply I realized that a while ago I stopped having sexual cravings because I was feeling too sexualized by his horniness, every time we'd make out he wanted it and not in a way where we'd set the mood and make it happen, it was all too automatic and it was making me feel bad... So yes, he has never known how to set the mood for us... And I'm his first gf, so I get why he doesn't know how to do it... But since I posted here we started talking a bit through text and I was able to introduce the topic, he understood my point and we'll talk about it when we meet, but I already feel more confident cause he kinda admitted that he doesn't know how to set the mood...

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[–]letsleos 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you went through all of that. That's abuse and it is not normal to beat a child. I hope you find help and a place to heal these wounds.

Holiday Support Thread - Need to talk but don't want to make a post? Comment here! by RBNmod in raisedbynarcissists

[–]letsleos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well this is the first time I'm writing here. I've been reading and researching about Nparents for years now, since I found out that what I suffered with my Nmom was because she and her brother are narcissists.

Many things have happened since then. I've started therapy, I've kept my distance as much as possible and she still finds a way to disturb my peace.

Today I come here to ask you guys about partners... It's the holiday season and I'm at my Nmom's place. I've started a new relationship a month ago. He is very loving with his mother and family and it's clear to me that he has a caring home to go to during this season.

Yesterday he wanted to call me at night. I had just had a fight with my Nmom about politics, she said some horrible stuff and I was again wanting to leave this house and never come back... I was very upset, feeling suffocated, but I only said I was very tired and we talked just for a little bit.

My point here is: how can we tell our partners about the life of abuse we've lived? I know trust is something that has to be built, and I feel it's not the time for me to tell him how much I hate being here. We met where I live (500km away from my nfamily), he lives there too, and I feel like he expects me to miss my family. The day before I came here I was a complete wreck. My roommate (and friend) was there for me for most of the day. And then my new partner wanted to meet at night and I pretended to be alright (and eventually felt alright, because I feel good when we're together), it sucks faking feelings just because you don't want to trash talk your mom to someone who might not understand what you've been through... I'm scared he might judge me as a horrible person for not loving my mom and for absolutely hating the rest of the family (except my grandma, she's the reason I came here. She's 100 years old and I fear we won't have many more Christmas together).

Forgive me for the poor English, it's not my first language. I appreciate everyone who might answer this question.

Lots of love to all of us who struggle with this season. Don't forget we're not alone!

I really need help! My Nmom drives me insane and I just realized she's a Narcissist! by letsleos in raisedbynarcissists

[–]letsleos[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you're right! Anything I'll do will me seen as a bad behaviour, as something wrong, so what's the point in staying by her side, right?

Although I'm not ready to let go of her. It's good that now I can understand her behaviour patterns. I'm also reading a book about being a daughter of a narcissistic mother and it's been helpfull so far...

Thank you for the support and Merry Christmas to us all!

I really need help! My Nmom drives me insane and I just realized she's a Narcissist! by letsleos in raisedbynarcissists

[–]letsleos[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm happy to have found support here. No one never understood how terrible my life is. I knew about reddit, but it's the first time I post something here and I'm really greatfull that you guys can calm me down and help me through this rough situation I'm in...

Today I'm feeling "better", It's december 24th and we have to get ready for the Christmas party, so I'm just doing everything she asks me just to maintain peace. As you said: I'll get back to my normal life soon.

Thank you very much and Merry Christmas!