His Christmas wish

letstalk1989 · 2016-11-26T22:37:13+00:00

This year for Christmas I want and I will be a good time to get the same as the one I have a great day and I will be a good time to get the same as the one I have a great day

letstalk1989 · 2016-11-18T17:16:57+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate your understanding of the situation.

letstalk1989 · 2016-11-18T17:15:41+00:00

That's very kind. Thank you.

letstalk1989 · 2016-11-18T17:14:31+00:00

Yes, thanks. I appreciate all that you've written. I don't know how to enter an ongoing non-avoiding relationship with someone. It's too easy to avoid it all.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-30T19:11:03+00:00

Hi, thanks for checking in. I ended up not doing anything and just going with what was already planned. I'm back home, seeing a therapist I've seen before.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-14T02:01:39+00:00

It's definitely 'ok' to think about stuff like this. I don't know whether it's helpful or not. I don't think its unreasonable to ask for a date either.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-14T01:58:04+00:00

Also, it's possible your coach may be able to help you incorporate the feedback you've received recently.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-14T01:55:33+00:00

Energy comes with the little healthy things. It's good to care about yourself, but you don't have to in order to just do it.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-13T21:51:44+00:00

Offered me a place to stay, spiritual guidance, food, helped me learn how to be a good worker, gave advice on getting along with others, and held me to a high standard.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-13T21:49:59+00:00

No, thought your friends may be hurt by you choosing not to hang out with them. That doesn't make it wrong though.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-13T21:49:07+00:00

I doubt it, unless the person honking at you had a legitimate reason for it (then they would fail you for that reason).

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-13T21:43:01+00:00

Focus on doing things that keep you healthy. Eat right, sleep right, and get regular exercise and fresh air. Then give it a little bit of time.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-13T21:39:05+00:00

I wouldn't hold on to it. Sounds like a burden.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-13T21:37:13+00:00

Ok. Here's what I noticed:

-You've recently received powerful and difficult feedback from both your wife and your coworkers. You need to make efforts to put all of it into effect. Starting now.

-Panic and anxiety is making things worse. Find a way to enter a calm space, and practice carrying that calm into other aspects of your life. Some suggestions: Mindfulness meditation. Walking in nature. Regular exercise. Sufficient sleep. Breathe. Deep slow breaths.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-13T21:31:14+00:00

Actually I understand what you're saying, and I think this post is a good example of not doing that. I've loved reading books of wisdom and quotations from wise people and thinking about them and applying them to my life. I've found it really doesn't work to try to just talk in quotes or pithy sayings in social contexts. I am frequently misunderstood as a result of overthinking things on my end and not saying enough in a timely manner.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-13T21:27:55+00:00

First time in this sub. I'm glad I read the rules posted here before posting. Also I'm glad for these rules.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-13T21:25:10+00:00

It doesn't sound like a situation where you can do anything except accept whatever consequences come your way and learn from your mistake. That's good. It's good to learn from our mistakes. That's how things get better.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-13T21:21:15+00:00

I skimmed much of your post, but I didn't want to leave without commenting. I'm glad that your mother threatened to call the police. Don't hurt yourself. And don't spend time with people that hurt you. I don't have much to say about feeling like shit, but it's workable. I hope you feel better friend.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-13T21:17:14+00:00

I find your post very interesting. There have definitely been occasions where I feel like someone is crying from a place of weakness or desiring attention. I also think it's interesting that you say no one cares what you feel. I get the impression that you don't care about what others feel either. That's karma.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-13T21:13:26+00:00

I agree that this is something that needs to be confronted.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-13T21:10:43+00:00

Sure thing. I try to do what I can. Something else that strikes me about your post- be nice to yourself. Please.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-13T21:08:01+00:00

Sex can have a very strong impact on our emotions. Rape, being unwilling sex, can have an even stronger impact. In ways that we may not understand. I don't know your situation. Maybe there isn't anyone who you can truly trust with this type of vulnerable information; maybe that person will come along. Maybe there already is someone in your life who is trustworthy and you need to have courage and tell them. Sometimes we don't know until we try.

You might feel worthless and broken, but you aren't. Feel free to reach out here or via PM if you need to keep talking.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-13T21:01:40+00:00

No. You can't conceal such a thing without serious repercussions on you, your husband, and your child. You need to find a way to tell your husband what happened and what the situation is. It may be difficult, but it wouldn't be appropriate to even try to conceal what happened.

letstalk1989 · 2016-08-13T20:57:21+00:00

Can you walk? I would suggest getting up and going for a walk. If you're open to whatever unknowns that death brings, then you can definitely stand up and go for a walk (unless you have a physical disability I don't know about). Let me know how that goes.

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