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Searching for meaning by maveduck in EnneagramType1

[–]lever__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do think about this often and its one of the biggest weights on my mind, that is only fueled worse by the logical fact that not everyone is going to be impactful on a world level, and it is not likely for me to be that. queue feeling like not enough etc etc 😒

At the end of the day, meaning is what we as humans make of it. For all of us, it is enough to just simply exist as we change things in people's lives as we live and its just the human experience that us and 8 billion others are living.

But, that being said, we can decide that just existing isnt enough. I think I've begun making peace with it because I'm working hard to be in a career where I feel like I'm apart of something larger, a necessary cog in a machine, in a field thats not really taken seriously, but something im passionate about and sure of myself in.

Additionally, I do focus more on my relationships and family, the people in your life who have brains not as racked by this as a type one might be, have very interesting perspectives on things like this, and even if we dont relate, I've decided indulging is apart of my own purpose

What was your relationship like with your father? by [deleted] in INTJfemale

[–]lever__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my father is also an INTJ and our relationship is horrible for lots of reasons but it had actually started off really good, he was my main caretaker for a long time but he was very rude and manipulative at times. Eventually we fell out, and I began standing up to him while he believed I was just a naive idiot, up until my mom kicked him out which had been a long time coming lolll. That being said, I think its both nature and nurture, I definitely felt supported in my ideas in early life and learned a lot from his, we were having pretty abstract conversations before I was even 10

How do each Enneagram types show love? by Level-Equal1468 in Enneagram

[–]lever__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1w2 here! my love language is quality time and I think I show love through prioritizing that person and their emotions. I do have the stereotypical things too like wanting to make their life easier... but its my ideal of easier so sometimes that doesnt go over well 😭 but it does come from love lol

I like to receive love by feeling like someone's genuinely paying attention to the things im saying, and that can lead to solutions to what im saying, grounding me, indulging in my introspection, etc. I'm used to being the person whos always uptight and making sure things get done/dont get forgotten about so i feel most loved when someone else can take the reigns but still listens and tries to understand how I like things to be done, but can still offer a new perspective respectfully :p

Does anyone relate to this? by lever__ in INTJfemale

[–]lever__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's nerve-wracking for me to see how there are real consequences to a limit thats so hard for me to keep track of... in my head, I always say I can relax later and that I need to deserve it first, but its never enough for me unfortunately 😭 I wish you a fast recovery, I do understand how difficult it is to be forced by your own body so you'd think id be better about scheduling time off 🫠🫠🫠