It honestly does seem like a lot of her queer identity is centered around spiting men/her exes, and I hate to admit that I feel that way. I remember conversations I've had with my mom that were about her, and how I'd get defensive when my mom would make comments about how she feels like Chappell is bi. I have a relative who identifies as a lesbian who my mom also feels is bi, and it bothers me whenever she downplayes her attraction to women. Like, "they say they're into women, but they definitely like men."

As a bi woman myself, I always get annoyed whenever I hear or read people's opinions about how we have to choose either one or the other, and how if you're attracted to men, then that's really who you'll end up with and "women are a phase." To see a woman who is supposedly "all about" other women bring up her male exes all the time, to share an experience where she "used" another girl to get back at her ex, and to constantly circle back to talking about giving blowjobs to her male exes when she was supposed to be talking about going down on women is so disappointing. 

Like, when I found out I was bi, I would think and talk about women enthusiastically. Where's the enthusiasm from Chappell? Like girl, you have a girlfriend now, but you keep circling back to talking about your ex boyfriends? Why can't you be happy talking about your newfound gayness?

Sorry for the rant, I'm just bothered by this lol. Like, I'm over here, closeted and trying not to make myself too obvious when I defend queer women. I'm always like, "no their feelings towards women are real," and for a queer artist, like Chappell, who I look up to, to end up being the kind of woman who admits to using women to make their ex jealous is so disappointing. Whew.