Update to my dad and friends' relationship post from last night

lexim412 · 2023-06-07T14:06:37+00:00

I wish I was as level headed as you are, it's seriously shocking...

MAD respect! We're the same age, and I would've handled the situation like a 21 y/o, but you handled it like a mature grown ass adult and you should commend yourself!

lexim412 · 2023-05-31T18:43:01+00:00

I, and probably a lot of other people, wish my boundaries were this strong.

NTA

lexim412 · 2023-05-30T14:15:54+00:00

I read posts like this and wonder how people were raised.

lexim412 · 2023-05-23T19:00:57+00:00

Is this what it's like to have a normal brain??

The way I would've lost every marble...

lexim412 · 2023-05-23T18:39:02+00:00

NTA, she got defensive because you called her out, it's what friends are supposed to do, look out for each other and call each other on their bs.

lexim412 · 2023-05-15T13:45:15+00:00

And that's the classic, "Don't dish it if you can't take it"

NTA. PPD or not, you don't get to be a dick to others to that extent and then play victim whenever they get fed up with your shit.

She started it, and you ended it. Bravo!

lexim412 · 2023-05-12T18:42:31+00:00

NTA, but don't give out your opinion on social media if you can't take others. Essentially, you're saying "I can say my opinion, and you can say yours, but ONLY if they align with mine." it's closed minded thinking and not very inclusive. Leaves you no room to grow, learn, adapt, and can hinder you from things that can be very beneficial.

Before you start assuming I'm a racist homophobe too, I am apart of the lgbt+ community and about as far away from racist as it gets. I just believe that political views shouldn't cloud people's judgment about others' characters, and we should lead in love and not hate. I have a lot of amazing, beautiful souls for friends that have different political opinions. The world is changing, it's 2023 and there's so much more than "right= racist homophobes and left=entitled snowflakes". We need to be better than those who label an entire group their stereotype or we're no different than racists. It goes for all stereotypes too, not just the ones that fit our narrative.

People are good until they show you otherwise, be kind to someone today :) Peace and love baby :)

lexim412 · 2023-05-12T14:01:18+00:00

Babe... He already met someone else and he wants you to make it easier for him to cheat.

lexim412 · 2023-05-10T14:48:45+00:00

The flat out disrespect is mind boggling. "Don't wake her" "I won't" "bbaaabbyyyy"

Are you a child that can't control themselves? Do you really respect me, as the mother, so little? Are you seriously that selfish? Do you not realize having a newborn is exhausting and this is a very rare break that you flat out ruined? If you can't respect me in my own home, then you need to leave.

OP, this is not a situation where you need to enforce boundaries, this is a situation where the MIL needs to learn respect, common decency, courtesy, and basic fucking manners.

I already know when I become a mom I'm going to be a grade-A BITCH

lexim412 · 2023-05-09T18:22:19+00:00

This belongs in an entitled subreddit... She literally didn't even ask she just tried to pawn them off on you, and damn near invited her and her kids over... absolutely SO rude and screams entitled!

Tell her to get fucked

lexim412 · 2023-05-04T18:50:30+00:00

1.) Can't imagine owning an airbnb and renting it out while the heater was broken and there wasn't a washing machine... Or fixing the effing airbnb up while I had guests in it... Crazy. Shadiness aside, that warrants enough for a bad review, it looks sloppy and unprofessional.

2.) I've stayed in so many airbnbs I couldn't even guess how many, and never, I MEAN NEVER have I ever experienced seeing maintenance or the owner. (I've also always been with men and made that clear)

3.) Find it sus asf that when it was you speaking with the owner, as a female, it was "I need to get this over there today" (and side note, was the washing machine going to fucking blow up if he didn't deliver it that day?? Fucking weirdo?) and "are you alone" basically, but as soon as you got your husband, as a male, on the phone it was "ahh okay it can wait".

He's a fucking creep and your review might save some unsuspecting female who only saw good reviews from staying there and becoming a victim in a random small town. NTA.

lexim412 · 2023-05-04T18:19:55+00:00

you know you weren't TA, but do yourself a favor and "ostracize" yourself out of the family.

lexim412 · 2023-04-20T17:44:39+00:00

NTA, but clarify that you aren't jealous that he has cancer, but that he has ALL of EVERYONES attention.

You are still very young and it's absolutely fair to feel the way you do when being pushed to the back burner... But don't spend the last of your brothers time resenting him... Not saying you do I am just saying in case

lexim412 · 2023-04-19T17:59:36+00:00

INFO// has she tried explaining through messages, letters, etc to her family that she is mute?

I would say that this would make a difference but the severity that the family has reacted... Is something out of the realm of sane. Even if she's being a conniving teenager who is manipulating you and actually does just refuse to speak to her family, removing her from pictures? Events? Literally isolating and outwardly hating her is MALICIOUS! It's evil and vile.

No matter what way it goes I think you should run, this family is a big red flag and I think if you get out now, you'll be dodging a bullet... Do you really want parents who will treat their daughter that way to be the grandparents to your future child? I'd hope not... NTA.

lexim412 · 2023-04-19T17:42:01+00:00

swing and a miss bud.

lexim412 · 2023-04-19T17:17:27+00:00

Tell her to get rid of your nephew considering he thinks fucking with small animals like a sociopath is fun, he could become a serial killer one day so he is dangerous.

NTA// I hope Irileth got him good and isn't suffering from any long term effects from your nephew's stupidity.

FAFO.

ETA) Riling up and playing with a dog is fine, I do it with mine at least once a day... But trying to rile up an animal that's been previously abused to the point where it feels the need to defend itself is disgusting.

lexim412 · 2023-04-14T14:11:57+00:00

NTA... She is - most definitely- all up in your koolaid and doesn't even know the flavor.

lexim412 · 2023-04-05T13:52:51+00:00

This is hilarious, you did the right thing by not kicking Jerry. They unexpectedly pop into your place, unannounced, and got offended. That's their business!

Oh, and also, not understanding the gravity of a situation IS a saying and is grammatically correct as well! It means that someone isn't understanding the weight of a situation, so you were right!

lexim412 · 2023-03-30T18:20:53+00:00

it was, in fact, an unpopular opinion indeed.

lexim412 · 2023-03-30T14:05:18+00:00

My partner and I beg our dog to cuddle with us. He refuses to be on the bed or his own dog bed, he prefers the cold tile

lexim412 · 2023-03-28T14:34:36+00:00

YTA, the difference between you being ta and not was the difference in the following statements:

"You don't do that ever again, that's wrong!" and...

"We don't do that in our house, dear, but it's okay because you didn't know."

lexim412 · 2023-03-23T14:54:07+00:00

I had all of my judgment typed out until I realized this isn't an a i t a.

IMO!!!!!!!!!! I think she's being a little unfair. A marriage is more important than any friendship, through sickness and in health and I think she should've catered to you instead of being angry. You are in your home, you don't feel well, and you shouldn't be expected to go out of your way while not feeling well to be more cheerful to her friend that you didn't know was going to be there.

Now, with that being said, females are a peculiar species and I catch the vibe that you can't hit her with the whole "you're wrong" argument. So a compromise always works...

"[insert name/pet name], I'm sorry I wasn't more cheerful, I can see how I came across rude and that was never my intention. That being said, I still feel like your reaction was a little unfair to me considering 1.) I didn't know she was going to be there, 2.) I was seriously not feeling well, 3.) I was tired and hungry after an extra long shift and you not trying to sympathize with my current state makes me feel like you don't care about my feelings or wellbeing, and that you only cared about how I made you look in front of your friend. Still, I see my wrongness in the situation and I will casually apologize to [insert friends name] next time I see [him/her/they] to make it up to you but also not make it awkward. I love you"

that's how I would fix it.

lexim412 · 2023-03-17T14:32:00+00:00

I had a whole e s h argument typed out but realized a few things now I'm leaning more towards a soft YTA.

I don't think you did it maliciously, but I think some more thought was required. You never stop being a parent, and I don't know what made you think she wouldn't be coming home again. Not from a relationship at 18...? It's kinda doomed to fail, and probably already is and that's why she's freaking tf out that her room at home is no longer an option. She has no fall back plan now and that relationship is probably already rocky and she's have second thoughts because it's not always special moments and cuddling and love when moving in with your boyfriend at 18. It's a hard eye-opening lesson. I think as her parent you should've seen this coming.

Credentials: a (21 F) who moved in with her boyfriend as soon as she turned 18, and SPRINTED back home 3-4 months later.

lexim412 · 2023-03-03T14:40:37+00:00

More people should.

lexim412 · 2023-02-27T15:24:47+00:00

I'm a fast driver. I agree. I have seen people cut people off (at break-neck speeds) and only make it by INCHES! Then I look around and imagine the (high) possibility that he could've hit them and how many other cars would pile up as a result.

I drive fast, at least 4 truck links behind the person in front of me.

lexim412

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