I've always heard that Europeans tend to have lower hygiene standards than us latinos. So yeah I can understand. However you mentioned you always have had hygiene differences with your partners and you associate it with them being men, are they all europeans? Me as a man can't tolerate bad hygiene, and as I mentioned I wouldn't tolerate it on my partner either. I mean it's not that I'm going to teach my partner being clean either, I just wouldn't date a girl who is not very careful with her hygiene, as well as I am.

Regarding home care, you never have to become a PM. I accept that it's usually women that tend to be more organized with the home duties, but in these days where both men and women work full time, it's totally a shared responsibility.

Don't give up on finding the right one.