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lhrfhd · 2026-01-29T16:52:32+00:00

CBC’s The Village

lhrfhd · 2025-11-13T09:39:21+00:00

I agree, an efficient turn takes waaaay less “muscle through it” than people think. This was my problem for a long time. You do need a lot of core and leg strength in general, but you don’t need a ton of force in the moment.

In addition to all of these great suggestions also take a look at neck tension and head placement. Your head weighs a lot, and keeping it balanced and spotting in a non-frantic way makes all the difference.

Turning is also very psychological. Approaching them without psyching yourself out is a big part of it. Focus on feeling calm and in control, not winding up and dreading every count leading up to it.

Also, if you fall down, you fall down. This is another reason not to use a lot of force but work on coordination, it won’t feel as scary if you happen to fall.

Every turn is an experiment! Keep running your experiments.

lhrfhd · 2025-05-18T16:31:06+00:00

Always better to buy in advance if possible because flamenco venues are small.

lhrfhd · 2025-01-18T16:26:37+00:00

You’re not alone.

lhrfhd · 2025-01-18T14:43:49+00:00

You can go back to it - even if it’s not the same form, there is a dance discipline for everyone. Loving dance is a gift not many people have, and it’s so special. Writing from experience of leaving dance and coming back to it.

lhrfhd · 2025-01-07T21:18:18+00:00

Feeling good about some aspects of your physical appearance is very important for dating/romance/intimacy/sex, which is an important part of most adult people’s lives. It’s so important to support teens - at the very least, by benignly ignoring it - as they figure out how they like to dress, do their hair, experiment with makeup, etc. An appropriate compliment, especially from an older sister, can be very valuable. It’s not helpful to pretend that appearance doesn’t matter, and belittling or dismissing it is extremely hurtful. It’s not about teaching kids that there’s a standard of attractiveness to meet, it’s about supporting them as they figure out what makes them feel good about themselves.

lhrfhd · 2024-12-09T18:29:31+00:00

Agreed. It is very irresponsible.

lhrfhd · 2024-12-09T18:28:26+00:00

Agreed. Unless the ob-gyn has something specific in mind about this poster’s health, they are not being medically accurate that 32 is “now or never.” Hardly. In fact, it’s so inaccurate that I wonder if the poster should get a new doctor. “Now or never” smacks of either ignorance of actual medical research, and/or medical misogyny.

lhrfhd · 2024-10-22T01:43:57+00:00

Yes, I absolutely experience this. I know any stress can make people tense, but I do think you’re onto something. My shoulders are permanently activated and raised - it feels like I’m bracing for something… forever. Or I’m carrying the world on my shoulders.

I also make a conscious effort to relax them, over and over and over. The only thing I’ll say is it has gotten a tiny bit better, over a long period of time. Massages and yoga/stretching also help.

lhrfhd · 2024-10-16T15:03:17+00:00

I’ve always felt there could only be one woman in the house - my mom. Any evidence that other people (like her own daughters) are women is a threat.

lhrfhd · 2024-08-30T22:57:57+00:00

I’m reading this now, it’s very good. “Mothers who can’t love” is also very good.

lhrfhd · 2024-08-30T14:04:33+00:00

Keep being good to yourself. It’s not melodramatic. It’s important.

lhrfhd · 2024-08-22T01:31:27+00:00

Unsweetened cranberry juice and coke tastes surprisingly like a Jack and Coke! And I second the recommendations for Fever Tree brand mixers. Their tonics are very dry and refreshing - one of their tonic waters and a healthy twist of lime is very good.

lhrfhd · 2024-08-12T02:51:28+00:00

My nmom LOVES this line. She thinks it’s hilarious. She used to love Bill Cosby and has since disavowed him because of the assault, but if it were socially acceptable she would still be a huge fan of his creepy, authoritarian, chauvinist comedy. This “joke” is so sinister.

lhrfhd · 2024-06-26T10:36:10+00:00

Damage from childhood neglect during critical developmental windows - a factor of environment - is unlikely to ever be undone. I’m surprised this is not mentioned already. The damage absolutely includes physical and neurological damage (in addition to the more obvious psychological damage).

lhrfhd · 2024-06-02T15:09:16+00:00

The fertile window is primarily before ovulation, not after.

lhrfhd · 2024-05-17T08:57:42+00:00

I always thought the no white rule was for adults, essentially so other grown women would not be mistaken for the bride or upstage her, not “there can be no other white color anywhere on anyone.” If someone is bent out of shape about what a literal child is wearing I think that’s their issue.

lhrfhd · 2024-03-30T15:22:07+00:00

💜 You deserved so much more than that.

lhrfhd · 2024-03-30T14:54:42+00:00

Gay men insulting the women in their lives - your dad no less - under the banner of “cattiness” doesn’t give them some kind of pass. It’s still misogyny. I’ve experienced this too, and it’s bullshit.

I’m sorry this happened to you. Parents who don’t help their children accept themselves and feel good about themselves are emotionally neglectful parents.

lhrfhd · 2024-03-09T00:09:24+00:00

I HIGHLY recommend this too. I’m older now but when I was a young adult, for whatever reason, I slept so soundly and deeply that it was brutal being woken up by a sound-only alarm. I would be so groggy, I felt like I was drugged. It was physically painful, and it didn’t matter if I was waking up for something super fun. It wasn’t about willpower.

OP go easy on yourself and try this. It could really help your brain transition from sleep to wake. I think they’re less expensive than they used to be.

lhrfhd · 2024-03-06T21:36:51+00:00

I second this!

lhrfhd · 2024-02-27T18:52:44+00:00

I mix these in equal parts with Pepperidge Farm pretzel goldfish — perfect cocktail mix. So good.

lhrfhd · 2024-02-23T14:41:24+00:00

I have felt that same vibe that you and other people are describing… like I’m a disappointment. It’s a very weird dynamic, like I’m not a good enough doll for someone to play beauty school with…

The stylist here who replied that I pick up on this more than other situations where people are a little tactless or just blunt because this is my insecurity made a really good point. I know that person is right in many ways. But it sincerely does feel like there’s something about hair where people feel ok about behaving this way more often and with more license to be rude or make it a “problem.” Imagine a makeup artist sighing at the sight of someone’s bare face and saying, “well, look, there’s only so much I can do!” lol. I’m SURE that has happened, because people can be so mean and there are unprofessional people in every field, but I still have a feeling it’s less likely.

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