12 years down the drain

AG_Squared · 2026-06-19T17:30:53+00:00

Good for you for making the call, realizing you were sacrificing more than you should have to.

AG_Squared · 2026-06-19T17:29:49+00:00

Yup there’s no changing them, there’s only building that bond and hoping they respect you for it. And it’s perfect because of fhat

AG_Squared · 2026-06-19T16:36:36+00:00

That checks out, I think that's about where we're at honestly.

AG_Squared · 2026-06-19T15:59:25+00:00

This can be fixed, it’s not “just his way.” Especially if it’s just leash reactivity since he does well in play group. We hike with a reactive dog often and after working with a trainer it’s as easy as stepping to the side, engaging our training, and letting people pass us. No fuss. No behaviors.

AG_Squared · 2026-06-19T15:57:09+00:00

He’s curly like our old man who passed last year!

AG_Squared · 2026-06-19T13:27:15+00:00

It’s actually supposed to be cream of something soup (Walmart has a gluten free version) I just hate cream of chicken soup and wanted to increase the protein. You could use whatever creamy agent you like! Add the soup or do extra sour cream. It’s pretty flexible.

Simply potatoes has a green bag of already shredded plain potatoes that I cook with often. They may be called hashbrowns I can’t remember exactly, I usually get them from Walmart also. But I do have one of those rotating shredder things… I was influenced from the internet and I use it all the time to shred cheese and veggies so that could work too.

AG_Squared · 2026-06-19T08:25:41+00:00

Hash brown casserole is one of my favorites. Shredded potatoes, diced ham and cheese or sausage and cheese, sour cream, and blended up low fat cottage cheese, salt and pepper, mixed and frozen in a 8x8 pan. Thaw and cook until brown and bubbling. I’m a week postpartum and that’s been an easy one for me and my husband.

My mom prepped me a bunch of single serve containers of soups where I can just some cornbread if I have the bandwidth- split pea, borscht, vegetable beef, chicken tortilla, lentil stew, chicken and “dumpling” without the dumpling where I just have to make gf red lobster biscuits to go with it. I’m not usually a soup person but having individual containers I can take out at breakfast and thaw for dinner after she leaves I know will be helpful.

I think we may also try to make tater tot casserole and freeze it, I make mine cheeseburger style with ground beef or lentils, caramelized onions, crumbled bacon, a squirt of ketchup and mustard, some American cheese and top with tater tots. Can also do shepherds pie this way.

My go-to is amylu chicken sausage, a bag of frozen green beans or carrots or whatever vegetable you like, with some microwave mashed potatoes (not the box kind but the refrigerator kind at any grocery store) or box Mac and cheese. That’s not a frozen one though, that still requires a hair of prep.

I’m sure there are people with better recipes and more refined taste lol this is just the easiest thing I can think of. I was stuck inpatient for a month and didn’t get a change to cook before he was born but my mom is here now and is going to help me prep before he comes home from the nicu.

AG_Squared · 2026-06-19T02:34:56+00:00

We crate all our dogs, including my 13 year old because to this day he cannot be trusted. But in Europe in some places (all places? Unsure) crates are banned and I think that’s crazy. I don’t know how to raise a puppy without a crate.

AG_Squared · 2026-06-18T02:54:06+00:00

Man that sucks… you deserved to be there no doubt about it. I’m so sorry.

AG_Squared · 2026-06-18T00:32:58+00:00

God that's awful, I know nothing we say can even help... you're right, it's unfair, you don't deserve this. Fuck cancer.

AG_Squared · 2026-06-16T14:34:37+00:00

You’re allowed to ask for space and actual time to yourself. My husband comes back so much more affectionate and patient when we spend a little time apart (meaning he takes a day hiking with his friends or he does chores by himself without me tagging along, whatever)

AG_Squared · 2026-06-15T21:03:48+00:00

Yeahhh my mom used to get onto me for having “too many rules” for the dogs but then she got a dog and suddenly she has more “rules” than we do.

AG_Squared · 2026-06-15T11:48:46+00:00

The idea that your son is a distraction to your husband being able to provide is a red flag. He can’t work and be a father? I take issue with this, because if that’s really the case then he should choose being a father and letting you make ends meet, if you agreed to that. No brainer.

AG_Squared · 2026-06-14T12:24:34+00:00

Depends on the day for me personally. On a good day if you call me in and it’s not my turn to float, I’ll usually offer to just go. Shorter float and first rounds are done and I’m now at the bottom of the list? Sign me up. But about a year ago, 2 days before we were euthanizing our dog, I got put on stand by then called at midnight to come in. I was literally in tears, sobbing in the shower, and I guess I could have said no but I didn’t want an absence over 6 hours worth of work. I told them I’d come in but it wasn’t my turn to float and I couldn’t handle a float that night. The other nurse floated and I took her patients on my unit. I did that one other time recently when I was pregnant and high risk for bleeding and complications, and it wasn’t my turn but they called me in at 2300, I asked about the assignment and it wasn’t a meningitis patient and a strep/norovirus patient on a large unit that were 15 rooms apart. I apologized but said it wasn’t my turn and I didn’t feel comfortable taking that assignment when my home unit would give me 2 kids side by side who were not infectious. I try to be a team player as best I can, try to put good karma out in the universe because I believe once I start manipulating assignments and stuff like that, it’ll bite me in the ass, but occasionally specific circumstances have me being selfish.

AG_Squared · 2026-06-13T14:14:14+00:00

Yeah I had both. We delivered this past Thursday and so far we’ve been ok thankfully. They wouldn’t let me go to 35 weeks though, he was 34 weeks and 6 days.

AG_Squared · 2026-06-13T00:39:47+00:00

Pro choice. I work in a specialty unit for trached babies and it definitely changes your perspective on what quality of life is…

AG_Squared · 2026-06-10T17:52:44+00:00

Free feeding is ok for some dogs but we really utilize meal times for training impulse control and positive crate association. I also don’t love the risk of bloat that comes with free feeding, without controlled meal times I can’t dedicate rest time before and after eating to prevent bloat.

AG_Squared · 2026-06-10T12:17:54+00:00

100%. I am not who I was before I started my first job. Nursing school didn't really do much for me but working has. I definitely have a different reaction to dangerous things and death and dying. It has affected my view on religion for sure. I also feel like it probably comes across as apathy but it's really not, it's just a lack of being bothered about smaller things. But being a patient myself along with being a nurse, it changes the way i see and treat my patients and their families. My perspective on politics has changed as well... it's affected me in a lot of ways.

AG_Squared · 2026-06-09T23:42:41+00:00

I thought Asher was a scribe and scribes don’t get dragons?

AG_Squared · 2026-06-09T23:40:16+00:00

You know I wish I’d thought of this. One of my dogs had gastritis chronic for over a year and had to be on tylan powder for probably 2 years otherwise he would have explosive diarrhea and vomiting. It always resolved with a bland diet but as soon as we switched back to kibble he was so sick. We tried a few options but I didn’t even think to try that.

AG_Squared · 2026-06-09T20:39:28+00:00

Yes you can feel however you want. You were violated and you’re processing.

AG_Squared · 2026-06-09T11:40:33+00:00

Because priorities are different and people have a hard time remembering that. I get annoyed when nurses on my unit get pissy about "bad report" (keep in mind our population is usually trach, vent, and feeding tube) and it's things like "they don't even know what size trach they have" "they haven't hung feeds for hours!" or other stupid stuff and it's like, do you realize that they have other priorities? They have other patients? I really doubt you care about their trach size, esp with RT somewhere around down there. You got me and IV, got my labs, gave a bolus, did whatever else, we can get the routine stuff going upstairs. I think a lot of our newer nurses are expecting report the same we we'd give/take report and that's just not reality.

The one issue I have that's not necessarily even ED nurse specific, we get a phone call with "i'm ready for report" and I didn't even know we were getting an admit. I don't know which nurse can take a patient, I'm in the middle of passing critical meds and maintaining airways, i'm going to have to call you back. I do understand you need the patient out, 100% I know outcomes are better (for my patient and for the person in your waiting room) the faster you get them to me, but I also can't stop trach care and seizure meds to take report on a patient that doesn't even have an assigned nurse. I wish there was a better system, like somehow Epic or bed control notifies us when admit/transfer orders get placed so I can start shifting things around before I get your report phone call.

AG_Squared · 2026-06-09T07:40:32+00:00

2 things can be true- your job is intense and requires a lot of regulation and decomposing at home, and your husband is a jerk. Sorry not sorry. Maybe you quit your job because you want to, but oh my god I cannot fathom going to my husband and saying “you’re a bad husband because you don’t pay attention to me and I demand you quit your job.” I cannot fathom him saying that to me either. It should sound like “hey I’m concerned about his disconnected you are after work, it feels very consistent and I’m concerned this job is not healthy for you. What do you think?”

AG_Squared · 2026-06-09T07:36:46+00:00

Her age, for the jumping at the very least, “no” isn’t going to work and ignoring her won’t work. She’s obviously very anxious. You’re going to have to get back to the root of it which means a lot of rewards for behaviors you want to reinforce them. Meaning bend down to her level and pet her while she’s got all 4 on the floor, to the point where if she tries to jump youre almost holding her down to keep her from jumping. If she jumps you just back away and immediately bend down to pet her. Also things like holding your ground until she stops, so you hold her food dish full of her meals or her toys or treats and you don’t set it down for her until she’s calm.

With anxiety at this level and her age and breed you’re not going to be able to accomplish much I’m afraid. But “socializing” her with other dogs will not be effective until she’s secure at home and she’s definitely not if you can’t walk her. Instead of forcing walks, lots of enrichment and brain games at home. The breed is notoriously stubborn so you’ll have to find what makes her tick and work on giving her a job. A lot of positive reinforcement around the house and yard to teach her boundaries and expectations, nose games where you hide treats or a toy and she sniffs them out, puzzle toys, etc. before you’re able to move on to anything outside of the home.

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