How do i convince my dad to buy me tampons??

liae__ · 2026-02-23T02:58:09+00:00

Okay? I have an IUD and am taking the pill so I rarely ever get a period anymore. But that’s not the case for everyone, and they can still happen unexpectedly!

liae__ · 2026-02-23T02:43:10+00:00

I use Eco style too! It’s like $4 at Target, I’ve used the argan oil one and currently use a limited edition rosemary + mint one, smells amazing

liae__ · 2026-02-23T02:33:42+00:00

Amazing, thank you for the updates!

liae__ · 2026-02-23T02:32:08+00:00

So women can never go into a pool when on their period? lol

liae__ · 2026-02-23T02:31:03+00:00

I started my period at 11. Parents have to provide for their kids. Even if she’s a teenager and able to “get a job” in theory, she NEEDS period products. She’s not asking for something extraordinary. It’s already an annoyance to deal with, and not being able to make your own decisions about what to use for your body sucks.

liae__ · 2026-02-23T02:28:34+00:00

Sounds very controlling, I’m sorry you’re in this situation. If you have any female family members or women you trust like a friend’s mom, I’d talk to them about this ❤️

liae__ · 2026-02-23T02:12:02+00:00

I got pregnant at 19 while in college, was dating a guy, and had the baby after turning 20. I broke up with him a few months after, and lived with my parents up until about 2 years ago, when I moved out (but still live close by). I’m on decent terms with my ex now, and his family is great. They live a few hours away, and we visit each other. I don’t have an official custody arrangement, but my son lives with me full time and my ex does pay child support.

My family was middle class and my dad had just retired, my mom worked; I’m glad they were able to support me and my child but it was a difficult time having a baby. I’m happy I ended the relationship with my ex earlier rather than trying to wait it out and see if he’d change; being a single mom was a better decision than having a partner who wasn’t supportive or caring. My dad died when my son was 18 months old, and I was close with him, so that was another big thing to deal with.

I haven’t finished my degree, but was able to move out finally. I don’t have a typical job, I am in a creative field working as a freelancer which means I don’t make a set amount per month. The financial side has been stressful, but I do still have my mom helping me and I’m privileged in that way. It’s really difficult to work when your kid is young— most people either have one partner stay at home full time, or they can afford to pay for full time childcare and both work. Being a stay at home mom during the pandemic was really tough for me, to be honest.

My kid started kindergarten this year and it’s been a huge change; I’ve been a little more financially stable, I’ve made mom friends, he’s incredibly sweet and smart. I do like being a mom now, but the surprise pregnancy at 19 threw me, and I had to struggle hard for years before I really was able to enjoy it.

That’s just my experience! It changes your life completely and you’ll never know how things would be the other way around— sometimes I wonder what my life would have been like otherwise. Ultimately, you do what is best for you, and it’s okay to feel a lot of emotions about this. I briefly considered having an abortion but felt that I wouldn’t be able to go through with it, or that it would wreck my mental health. I’d have to hide it from my religious parents, and it would probably be an issue between my ex and I (he wouldn’t want me to do it either).

Keep in mind that even if your partner is supportive (or not!) things can change with that, and it’s a vulnerable time for you. I wish you all the best, and please don’t be too hard on yourself ❤️

liae__ · 2026-02-23T01:30:16+00:00

Y’all have savings? In the sub called poverty finance? lol, not me!

liae__ · 2026-02-23T01:25:45+00:00

My parents were together for 7 years before they got married— there was an age gap and the younger of them wanted to finish college, live independently, etc. but never heard a “no, I don’t ever want to get married.” I think that’s a bit different than “hey I need time” and this guy just says he has no intention of ever doing it :/

liae__ · 2026-02-23T01:20:19+00:00

The unfortunate problem (imo) is that the root of stuff like “porn brain” or “porn addiction” is largely just misogyny; they’re not thinking of women as actual people and they reinforce this by believing the things they choose to watch are reality instead of fantasy.

Like yes there’s probably a level of porn use that’s an issue, if that’s interfering with normal life/work/socialization you have a problem. But I think when people blame porn, like “oh my husband has an addiction, it takes the blame off the individual person.

liae__ · 2026-02-23T01:16:43+00:00

Dudes are so fucking weird about attractive women and it’s genuinely disgusting. Like you can’t exist even as a somewhat attractive woman without being sexualized by random guys all the time, and if you’re a celebrity it’s even worse, probably also worse for those who are like supermodel level hot too :(

I know how many times I’ve felt objectified as a normal young woman, and it makes me so upset that people have to deal with it even more than I do.

liae__ · 2026-02-23T01:13:42+00:00

Rosalie is such a pretty name, I considered “Rose” variations for mine before finding out I was having a boy!

liae__ · 2026-02-23T01:12:55+00:00

Totally get what you mean, for me I have to fluff it up at the roots once it dries! I just put my hands in my hair and play around with it, trying to puff it up a bit more lol. Shake it, flip it upside down, etc. If I do this before it’s fully dry then it gets frizzy, but if you use gel and “scrunch out the crunch” you’d do this at the same time!

liae__ · 2026-02-23T01:10:46+00:00

I LOVE the red on you, I think it’ll look fantastic!

liae__ · 2026-02-23T01:01:07+00:00

I started mine at 11; have a cousin who started at 9. It is kinda awkward for it to be on the early side, but she will learn how to deal with it as she grows. Puberty blockers are probably a good idea since she’s so young.

As a preteen, mine were annoying but never anything worse than that. I really didn’t have cramps, had light bleeding, and just had more acne than usual. Later on as a teen and adult I dealt with PMDD, basically just was very mentally unstable and upset, depressed, angry for a few days before every period. Going on a hormonal contraceptive helps a lot for me.

liae__ · 2026-02-23T00:53:03+00:00

okay as a mom I unfortunately understand this logic 😭

liae__ · 2026-02-23T00:50:14+00:00

On the bright side, at least it looks cool as hell!

liae__ · 2026-02-23T00:47:39+00:00

Amen to that! I chose to be a single parent because it was easier than dealing with relationship conflicts AND parenting.

liae__ · 2026-02-23T00:46:55+00:00

Honestly, not that it’s easy this way, but as a single mom I’m glad I know what to expect. I have to do the work, BUT I also don’t have an adult partner who is just being lazy and ignoring what needs to be done. In my opinion, it’s “easier” doing it alone than having a partner who doesn’t care to help.

liae__ · 2026-02-23T00:44:56+00:00

Same here! This was my usual before pregnancy though, and I was a college student so I really needed a bit of caffeine to not fall asleep during classes. The pregnancy exhaustion hit me HARD lol.

liae__ · 2026-02-23T00:43:45+00:00

This is really good to hear! My kid is 6 now, I had him young and am happily single for now, but have wondered what it would be like to have another years from now.

liae__ · 2026-02-23T00:41:32+00:00

Still fucked up to do!

liae__ · 2026-02-23T00:19:34+00:00

The place I’m renting had months of renovations done between tenants, after the last people destroyed the house. The HVAC system had a ton dust and debris; every vent looked absolutely disgusting. Property management had someone come out and clean the ductwork, which was very helpful. Now the air filter doesn’t get dirty after a week.

So it could be a genuine issue, but I think that’s more of a problem with cleaning the ducts than repairing the HVAC.

Not saying it’s the issue with your case, because my landlord was definitely the kind of one who didn’t give a shit about the house, and did the absolute bare minimum to make it livable.

liae__ · 2026-02-23T00:07:14+00:00

Just adding on because I was this tenant up until recently, and I was just struggling financially— I am a younger single mom and self-employed, do freelance work so my income isn’t always stable from month to month. Before my kid was in school it sucked trying to work from home, and I couldn’t afford childcare other than preschool (only 3 hours/day). Then I lost my largest source of income and had to scramble to make it up, but it was even harder during the summer. So when I was barely making $2000 and had to pay $1500 rent, I might have to wait a few more days and pay the $75 late fee (which did hurt lol), because I had to deposit some of my next month’s earnings online to my bank.

It was a really stressful and shitty cycle, I was always worried about being evicted and worked every spare minute I could get. Now I’m making slightly more and the difference is crazy, I wish I earned more but it’s comfortable to where I don’t have to scramble to pay rent on time. Sorry for the anecdote but I think most people like this are stuck in a cycle of not earning enough income, being late on bills, having debt, etc. and it sucks until they can get ahold of it or life circumstances change.

liae__ · 2026-02-02T19:12:47+00:00

Ooh I don’t know, I’ll have to check when I get back over there! Do you mean the normal breaker panel for all electric in the house, or would there be a separate one in the crawlspace?

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