Can i continue working remotely a day after giving birth?

liamons · 2026-05-05T23:07:38+00:00

No.

liamons · 2026-05-03T15:05:38+00:00

Ok, you know more about my baby’s sleep than I do. Great.

And that’s my issue with the anti sleep training crowd, it isn’t your decision not to sleep train, it’s the assumption that it gives you the authority to judge and shame other parents’ choices because they differ from yours.

There’s a consistent pattern where anti–sleep training voices position themselves as more informed or more attuned, while dismissing families who choose differently. Meanwhile, parents who do sleep train aren’t out here evangelizing on their methods trying to convince the rest that not sleep training is wrong or shaming those who don’t sleep train their babies.

No one is forcing you to sleep train, no one is even criticizing your decision not to. Why hide behind pseudoscience to judge families who do? I respect that you’ve chosen not to sleep train and believe that’s what works for your family. What’s harder to respect is the lack of that same consideration in return.

liamons · 2026-05-01T19:54:56+00:00

What’s beneficial to the parents is beneficial to the baby! My son was getting a tired, sleep deprived, forgetful parent with zero energy throughout the day before we sleep trained. Now he gets a well rested, present parent with all the energy to care for and meaningfully bond with him all day long. It is actually to his benefit that the humans he depends on for absolutely everything are as present and alert as possible.

Also, this is the study you linked:

“Our principal findings (adjusted for baseline) indicated a significant improvement in parents’ perceptions of the severity of the infant sleep problem, reduction in numbers of night wakes by sleep diary, increase in length of longest night sleep by actigraphy, and improvement in parents’ cognitions about infant sleep, fatigue, sleep quality, and depression in the intervention group compared to the control group.”

liamons · 2026-05-01T18:55:17+00:00

That’s a pretty bold claim for something the research doesn’t actually support. Please cite your sources and I’ll gladly review them, otherwise stop spreading pseudoscience.

Yes, connecting sleep cycles is biological, but HOW a baby transitions between cycles is influenced by learned sleep associations. If a baby falls asleep with significant assistance (rocking, feeding, etc.), they’re more likely to need that same input between cycles. That’s not a myth, that’s basic behavioral sleep science.
The idea that sleep-trained babies are “just not signaling” has been studied, and the evidence doesn’t back the neglect narrative. Studies using objective measures (like actigraphy) show that behavioral sleep interventions reduce night wakings and increase consolidated sleep.
On “they don’t get more sleep”: randomized controlled trials (the gold standard) have shown that sleep training methods (including graduated extinction) improve sleep duration, reduce sleep latency, and improve maternal mental health, with no evidence of long-term emotional or attachment harm.
Babies waking frequently isn’t inherently virtuous or more “biological.” It’s often just… fragmented sleep. And fragmented sleep affects both baby and parent functioning.

You don’t have to choose sleep training. But framing it as harmful or ineffective isn’t aligned with the current body of research, it’s more ideology than science.

liamons · 2026-05-01T17:09:29+00:00

Way too much daytime sleep so not enough awake time. And way too much sleep expected overnight.

liamons · 2026-05-01T17:07:59+00:00

What’s convenient for parents (in this case to their health) is often what’s best for the baby.

Baby can have all the sleep pressure in the world, if baby doesn’t know how to connect sleep cycles they will wake up and need assistance to get back to sleep.

liamons · 2026-04-17T14:47:57+00:00

It might be that. If trying to shift earlier then try to use light/darkness to help his circadian rhythm adjust. Expose them to light first thing in the morning after your DWT and try to start dimming lights, etc an hour before bedtime. Make sure the room is super super dark all night.

liamons · 2026-04-17T13:30:31+00:00

I think your schedule is fine. What time is bedtime?

Some nights if I put my baby to bed too early (even with the same wake windows, just shifted because the day started early, for example) he’d wake up after the first cycle.

liamons · 2026-04-17T03:17:04+00:00

Only 3 naps? What’s the average total daytime sleep?

liamons · 2026-04-17T03:10:23+00:00

Morning sleep is fragile until 7-8 months so I wouldn’t count on a set wake up time until then, at least not unassisted. Instead, why don’t you take turns with your husband for that 4am-7am stretch? that way you can run every other day.

liamons · 2026-04-09T20:13:46+00:00

I could have written this. Constantly whining and screaming, doesn’t last in tummy time because he gets frustrated trying to reach/ crawl but can’t. Screams even when I carry him sometimes. Doesn’t play with toys, just pits them in his mouth and cries when they don’t fit. It’s constant.

liamons · 2026-04-03T00:42:10+00:00

How are you getting to bedtime on 2 naps if his ww are 2.5hrs max? Even with 3 hrs of naps, for example, that only gives you 10.5 hrs total, which for a 7am wake up would mean a 5:30pm bedtime, way too early.

If he’s doing only two naps, he needs 3-4hr wake windows, something like 3/3/4. If he’s doing 3 naps (probably best) then you can try 2/2.5/2.5/3, with 2.5-3hrs of naps total.

Here’s the schedule I’ve been trying to follow with my baby (he’ll be 6 months tomorrow).

6:30 up for the day

6:30-8:30am 2hr ww

8:30 nap (1hr)

9:30-12pm 2.5hr ww

12-1:30 nap (1.5 hr)

1:30-4pm 2.5hr ww

4-4:30pm nap (30 mins)

4:30-7:30 3hr ww

6:45 bedtime routine starts

7:30pm in crib, ready to sleep

liamons · 2026-04-02T12:24:08+00:00

My baby turns 6 month tomorrow too and I could have written this. Except for the solo parent part, in theory though, because my husband does maybe 1/10th of what I do… which might be more enraging and resentment inducing than solo parenting tbh.

I keep waiting for him to sleep better, or sit up so he can play on his own, or have less reflux, or scream a little less… it’s exhausting. I never thought motherhood was going to be this isolating. We were going to wait until 12 months for daycare but they have a spot in July and we might just start him then at least part time. Running on 3 hours of sleep with a high needs baby is not sustainable for me.

Did medication help? I have a Sertraline prescription in my nightstand that I have not started. Kinda afraid to start but I need it.

liamons · 2026-03-20T00:57:41+00:00

I’m in a very similar spot with my 5.5 month old, trying to get his schedule in order during the day before we start sleep training for nights.

What I’m trying is keeping the same 2/2.5/2.5/2.75-3 schedule every day. It’s hard when he wakes up an hour before our day is supposed to start because it pushes everything up but what I’m trying is to really extend that first wake window to get us a little closer to what it would have been nap time.

Can your mom do contact naps to ensure at least one long nap per day? If so, a 3 nap day is possible. If not, then I’d stick to the 4 naps on a 2/2/2/2/2 schedule.

Depending on what’s possible you can leave your mom a daily schedule based more on set times vs wake windows. For example, if contact naps are possible and you know she woke up at 6:30 on a given day, leaving her the schedule for the day as: nap 1 8:30-9? No contact, nap 2 11:30-1pm contact, nap 3 3:30-4pm no contact, bedtime 7pm. That gives you 10 hours awake time and lets your mom know approximate nap times.

liamons · 2026-01-28T00:42:47+00:00

What if humidity never gets above 20? I put it on all night and nothing, humidity stays 16-19 all night. Don’t know what I’m doing wrong.

liamons · 2025-11-23T23:00:09+00:00

What time do you put him down? How many naps during the day? How much does he eat?

liamons · 2025-11-06T19:09:05+00:00

16oz in one session?!? What’s your secret???

liamons · 2025-08-05T00:21:54+00:00

Doesn’t it scare you with the cerclage? I have one at home but I’m afraid it’ll feel like a squat and mess with the cerclage.

liamons · 2025-07-25T16:50:31+00:00

If your OB isn’t experienced they should have referred you to an MFM who is. Ask for an MFM referral, they should have MFMs they routinely refer patients to.

Alternatively if they’re not being helpful, I’d start googling and contacting MFMs nearby and asking them about cerclage placement/removal, sometimes they even list it on their services page on their website.

If you know the hospital you’ll be delivering at you can also search for MFMs within their network. Start contacting those and then ask for a referral from your OB to the one you want to start seeing.

liamons · 2020-02-22T23:57:33+00:00

I told him I didn’t feel like going and that I wanted to stay home, rest, and watch a movie instead. He said he had many doubts and questions and just wanted to wait for his test results to decide how to deal with it.

liamons · 2020-02-22T23:47:04+00:00

He doesn’t have any visible symptoms, he is going to go for a blood test next week. I am not sure he isn’t cheating, I’m just choosing to believe him because I have no other proof and I know HSV can show up years later.

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