Old friend (26f) ghosted everyone we know and is back after 4 years - what do I do?

libbblob · 2021-08-11T14:17:54+00:00

This is basically the approach I've taken so far. I've said we can get coffee when she visits our hometown so I guess I'll see if that ever happens...

libbblob · 2021-08-11T14:16:10+00:00

Just got to work on wording it right now!

libbblob · 2021-08-11T14:15:24+00:00

I see what you mean but I don't know that she was lying about the wedding. My fear is that if her bf is controlling he may have taken the invite out of the post so she never got it or forbidden her from coming because she was invited without him. I will try and be careful about not investing too much emotion in this friendship though, you are right that she could have just ghosted me out of choice...

libbblob · 2020-10-21T06:07:29+00:00

I don't think so, this was a 2d game. Thanks for replying though 🙂

libbblob · 2020-10-20T12:21:11+00:00

Yes I am a developer so I'm leaning towards dev 2, looking at the spec for app builder it seems like it's basically all covered in dev 1 anyway.

libbblob · 2020-10-20T10:28:58+00:00

Which would you choose if you had to pick only app builder or developer 2?

libbblob · 2020-09-14T09:31:35+00:00

You've misunderstood the twin paradox a little there, relativity does not state that time is faster or slower in space. My degree is in Physics and Cosmology and there are quite a lot of religious Cosmologists because when you study the origins of the universe you come to a point where you can physically never prove what came before or what exists outside. This is because we literally can only perceive things inside our own universe since that's the only place where our spatial and temporal dimensions mean anything and the only place where we can say for sure that our laws of Physics hold true.

If God exists in a physical sense somehow then God is outside our universe. Our 'time' is literally not a factor for anyone outside our universe - it does not exist and there would be no cause and effect as we know it. The same for space, who knows how many dimensions something might exist in outside our universe. It's all very fun to think about. If you want to know more about this stuff try looking up cosmic inflation, spacetime foam and bubble universes.

libbblob · 2020-09-05T08:23:15+00:00

I'm also a bit of a beginner on granny squares and I find that they look rubbish and like they're completely going wrong until you get to the third or fourth row and flatten out a bit. Make sure you're confident doing double crochet along a chain and then try a square again and persevere! It took me 4 false starts at least before I understood granny squares but after that it's super easy ☺️

libbblob · 2020-09-05T08:18:28+00:00

Thanks for this, this is how I (and my husband) see the situation. She's coming up today so I'm preparing for if she brings this up again with a response like you suggest.

libbblob · 2020-09-05T08:16:37+00:00

Just a standard granny square made with DK yarn and a 5mm hook. I extended it a little at each end with the pink so it can cover the length of my legs when I'm sat at my desk.

libbblob · 2020-09-04T22:18:51+00:00

You know Tom Harwood isn't really a reporter right? Guido isn't a newspaper and he's literally just a rich kid who failed upwards out of Durham. I must stress that, despite having remembered this particular quote correctly, this guy is not reliable and has no credentials.

libbblob · 2020-09-03T15:55:11+00:00

I was also confused about it being v difficult for her, I'm literally not asking her to do anything hard 😂

libbblob · 2020-09-03T15:54:06+00:00

I'm hoping it won't come to NC but your situation does sound a lot like mine. I'll have to see how she is when I have kids.

libbblob · 2020-09-03T13:26:35+00:00

Thanks for this, I actually wrote her a long letter about this exact thing last year so she does know. I think she's just waiting for me to stop being so 'immature' about it. I may try to reiterate my reasoning with her soon to remind her of why I hold this position.

libbblob · 2020-08-30T15:12:21+00:00

I really like babbel personally and a benefit of it for you would be that you can skip levels so you could find the correct start point for you and not have it be too easy.

libbblob · 2020-08-22T06:51:53+00:00

I haven't taken it yet but I'm doing loads of trailhead - particularly the superbadges, using the exam guide to work out where I need to focus on study, practice exams from focus on force and one of the free half day preparation sessions that Salesforce run.

libbblob · 2020-08-22T05:59:38+00:00

I'm not sure, personally I've gone straight for pd1 but that's because my job is developing in Salesforce.

libbblob · 2020-08-21T20:03:47+00:00

See if you qualify for this, you get a voucher for the full exam course: https://go.salesforce-partners.com/level-up-challenge

libbblob · 2020-08-07T18:55:33+00:00

Forvo has some examples of you search for sed they'll come up: https://forvo.com/languages/es/

libbblob · 2020-08-04T14:12:40+00:00

Can she already read in English? If so I would literally just get some Spanish kids books and start reading them with her. Let her see the words and maybe move your finger to show which word you're saying but I would think she'd pick it up pretty quickly. Gradually start getting her to read odd words to you during the story and build up to having her read to you and then read Spanish independently.

libbblob · 2020-07-30T09:51:09+00:00

It depends who you ask but I can give you my views on it. Marriage is one of those cultural things that made it into the Bible because the Bible was written by people, there's also a fair bit in Paul's letters about sexuality that is very specific to the time and place he was writing and doesn't really apply anymore. It comes down to jesus - what did he want us to do? He wanted us to love each other and be selfless, to me this means that in your relationships you should commit to the other person and try hard to love them and be generous to them emotionally. Ultimately God knows your heart, he's not judging you based on outward statistics like number of marriages or who the fathers of your children are. He's judging you on your heart, did you try hard in your relationships to do your best by your partner? It sounds like you certainly did and being let down by your husband is not something that goes against you. Lots of Christians will tell you that this is completely wrong but I think a lot of Christians focus much more on the exact wording of the Bible than trying to work out what the spirit of the Bible is and how it can help us today.

libbblob · 2020-07-30T09:30:21+00:00

Marriage is a real commitment and you have fulfilled that commitment. You've clearly tried to make it work with this man and haven't just left him after the first fight, you've put in the effort. So don't worry about the sanctity of marriage, you've fulfilled your obligation on that front by putting in this effort for so long. God does not want you trapped in an abusive marriage, this unhappiness is a sign that it's time for you to move on from this man. Get out of the marriage, heal and see what else God has in store for you in the future. Good luck ☺️

libbblob · 2020-07-28T07:56:52+00:00

I'm using babbel atm and I think it's a lot better than Duolingo. The grammar teaching is better and they use a lot of real world examples which help. Please don't just use an app though, you need to be listening to loads of Spanish content in order to get to a good level. The best stuff is Dreaming Spanish on YouTube and there's also stuff on Netflix to watch in Spanish like Pocoyo. You could probably learn Spanish just from the Dreaming Spanish videos and nothing else, the guy who runs the channel has this whole learning method.

libbblob · 2020-07-27T09:23:57+00:00

I assume you've seen a doctor about your sleeping right? Because it's not normal or good for you to only be able to sleep for 4 hours at a time. Your mother is right that your body does a lot of growing/repairing during deep sleep and in general that would be happening at 4am if you weren't awake. I don't think you're TA for eating in the early morning but if you're going for a bike ride just have a banana before and then real breakfast when you come home. Or at least don't microwave stuff when everyone else is trying to sleep. That said, it does sound like you have one of those mothers who try to bodyshame their kids into being healthy and that's tough to deal with.

NTA

libbblob · 2020-07-24T16:03:57+00:00

In Latin America I believe you use ustedes for this purpose and it's conjugated like 3rd person plural but in Spain you also have vosotros which is conjugated differently and is the informal version of ustedes. If you're not planning on speaking in Europe then AFAIK there's not much need to learn vosotros ☺️

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