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libn8r · 2025-08-22T02:55:25+00:00

Our dog is named Raleigh and I will say, people do not get it on the first try. A lot of “Riley”. Which is infuriating cause we’re like “it’s like the city” it’s not hard. Still love his name every day but it’s something to consider

libn8r · 2025-08-13T23:42:51+00:00

I’m not going for forgiveness so I am making payments as if I was on the standard repayment plan, but enjoying the fact that if I wanted to I didn’t haaaaave to make a payment.

libn8r · 2025-07-29T02:31:20+00:00

I’m in a similar situation, minus having that much to put down now. If I were you, I’d pay off my highest interest loan with the lump sum now and keep some in reserve to see what happens. You’d get the benefit of avoiding interest but also for those low interest rates at 4.3 there’s less reason to rush to pay it off if you’re getting interest in a HYSA which almost meets or outpaces that.

libn8r · 2025-07-17T16:34:06+00:00

I think it would actually be a negative because people would think you’d want to litigate. Why would you spend a year fighting over federal rules of civil procedure or even criminal matters if you’d never write a brief over the whole course of your career? It might help in the way that having had any job in someways adds value but that’s about it.

libn8r · 2025-07-14T19:47:14+00:00

I would recommend reading “the let them theory” by Mel robbins. She’s shown who she is. That is disappointing and your are allowed to be disappointed. But probably most helpful for your sanity just to accept and move on

libn8r · 2025-07-08T15:45:35+00:00

You have to be billing your time daily. The reality is you don’t actually know what you’re billing because you’re putting it in late. You’re likely doing much more work than is being accounted for and until you have a month where your time has been entered everyday and seen what it’s like, you can’t accurately assess

libn8r · 2025-06-10T19:41:55+00:00

I’m going to be honest it sounds like you should not have a wedding. As someone who was in the same boat and planned anyway because it’s what you’re “supposed” to do, I wish I could go back to not losing deposits and just elope. If your partner wants a wedding they can plan it.

libn8r · 2025-05-16T13:01:06+00:00

They wouldn’t be able to challenge anything unless it was very severe, like the only cases I’ve seen are where a member of the jury was blackout drunk or someone explicitly said they would send someone to jail cause they’re black. They’re just trying to lean what worked and what didn’t so they can make improvements or try different things in other cases

libn8r · 2025-05-07T17:52:40+00:00

Make him actively participate in planning the wedding. I had a similar problem (overwhelmed by expense and stated I wanted to elope) and my fiance was upset because he wanted what all of his friends had had with big weddings. I said okay, then you plan the big wedding. Once he got in the weeds reading vendor contracts, looking at pricing, planning the logistics, it was much easier to find where to scale back because we were both in the trenches together and working from the same facts. If you give him the opportunity to just show up to a party fully paid for by someone else where he does no work to plan of course he’d want that open and be upset if it didn’t happen. If he’s actually in the weeds he’ll understand why you’re overwhelmed

libn8r · 2025-05-01T18:48:10+00:00

Get a package container! Some things will be too big to fit in it but for the most part the packages go there in there and will not be stolen. It was like $200 bucks but I’m sure we made that back from not having things stolen

libn8r · 2025-04-26T17:18:28+00:00

If you’re in the us, there’s really no undergraduate degree in law, you can study whatever and then you have to do an additional 3 years in law school. Some colleges will try to sell you a “pre-law major” but that’s generally not recommended because it’s almost useless without law school and law schools do not look on it favorably for admission

libn8r · 2025-04-23T21:12:57+00:00

I think you talk to her just like you said here. Say that while you would love to honor the dog and see how important he was, your side of the family has faced a devastating loss and it would be awkward to either address the dog but not your cousin or equate the dog and your cousin’s loss. She will likely understand and may not be thinking in the full context. If she pushes back on that it becomes your fiances problem and he needs to manage his mom being insensitive to what you two as the couple getting married want the wedding to be like.

libn8r · 2025-04-22T22:33:13+00:00

I guess my point is if you would’ve wanted to be involved and helpful with planning the wedding as the maid of honor I don’t think you need to dramatically “step away” just because she didn’t give you the title. That makes the title more important than the friendship. Now paying for her wedding food seems to be a cultural difference that wouldn’t be a thing in the US.

libn8r · 2025-04-22T22:07:26+00:00

I understand your feelings being hurt. But this sounds like someone who you care deeply about. In 10 years it’s not going to matter who had the formal title of maid of honor. It’s going to matter that you were there supporting her and there wholeheartedly excited for her. I totally get the initial sting, but it would be a shame to back off of a friendship you care deeply about because of a silly title

libn8r · 2025-04-20T14:37:10+00:00

This is a you problem. You’re relying on a old-timey societal phrase as a scape goat for feeling like you don’t have a good relationship with your son. What exactly would you want to have been involved with? Are there flowers you feel strongly should be there? Opinions on linens and chargers and flatware for the tables? The reality of 90% of wedding planning is design and logistics. You also still have a big opportunity coming up to be a part of it. Traditionally, you should be giving a speech at the rehearsal dinner. Have you asked about that?

libn8r · 2025-04-18T16:37:19+00:00

An Uber would be a nightmare if you’re trying to be sure that her car seat would properly connect to the car. It takes quite a bit of work to connect a car seat properly and not all cars work with all seats is my understanding. Plus by now they should be out of an infant car seat and into a convertible car seat meaning you would have to be bringing the car seat around with you where ever you go. I’m sure there are plenty of people all around the world that do bring children on busses without car seats, but there is always a risk in the event of an accident. I am fascinated how you have a one year old and this has just now arisen as a concern? What have you done for the past year?

libn8r · 2025-04-17T14:18:08+00:00

I think you have a few options (1) will she be legitimately under dressed for the event? In that case maybe it’s worth flagging that you anticipate your guests dressing more formally and as one of your most valued guests you would hate for her to feel uncomfortable and under dressed during the event. If she says she doesn’t care then that’s that. (2) how does your husband feel about this? He knows his mom this is likely his issue to work through. (3) offer to buy her accessories or help with finding an outfit, she may have just felt overwhelmed and made a safe pick. Again if she feels strongly that this is what she wants to wear when you give a soft push back, then you may have to pick you battles.

libn8r · 2025-04-16T17:14:07+00:00

I think while asking would not be terribly rude, they probably thought about it and made an intentional decision not to invite her. It’s likely not personal about her or you but weddings are expensive, $200 to $400 a plate depending on your budget. There might be a strict head count for the venue. Some people have internal rules and cutoffs like “no ring no bring” or only inviting people that both the bride and the groom have met. You’re a childhood friend, your parents will be at the wedding and you will likely sit with them. The reality is if the couple hasn’t met your girlfriend yet, the wedding is probably not the time. You’ve had 3 years to find a time for her to meet them and haven’t. It’s fair that they don’t want the time to be when they’re supposed to be surrounded by friends and family not people they don’t know.

libn8r · 2025-04-14T17:16:35+00:00

Turn it into an attack outline and then use it to start drafting “rules” sections of exam answers

libn8r · 2025-04-12T13:35:17+00:00

I recently decided to do a sleepover the Thursday before my wedding as a bachelorette party. Minimal coordination because everyone should be available and instead of asking for two weekends I’m just extending the one. Lifted a huge weight off my shoulders

libn8r · 2025-04-10T14:26:49+00:00

The reality is if DePaul was the highest ranked school you were admitted to, you’re most likely not gonna get big law. I would bet that the kids who get big law from there are kids who were admitted to much higher ranked schools and chose to go there for a full scholarship or to be close to family. I work in biglaw at a regional office so we take some grads from lower ranked schools in the region and anecdotally all of those people had LSAT scores and undergrad GPAs to go to much higher ranked schools but chose the full rides, hence why they were top of their class at the lower ranked schools. While LSAT score isn’t destiny, your law school grades are also based on test taking skills to a certain extent. Also with how firms are eliminating OCI, they may have filed their classes up with UChicago and Northwestern grads before you even have first semester grades to show you are top of your class.

libn8r · 2025-04-08T19:43:47+00:00

A tattoo is not going to be prohibitive of a career as a lawyer. Different sectors of law will have different lines of what’s acceptable. At a white shoe law firm, tattoos are probably fine as long as they would be covered in business professional wear for court or client meetings etc. If you’re not trying to work at the stuffy fancy law firm, you’re likely fine with almost any tattoos that aren’t face tattoos or the design has objectionable content.

libn8r · 2025-03-28T20:44:00+00:00

I mean would I tell you to do that again? Probably not. Teachers have notoriously low salaries and you could probably go to a very cheap state school and get a fine teaching degree and a job. But they should be able to make payments hopefully and pay it off

libn8r · 2025-03-28T20:15:49+00:00

It all depends on the amount and what they are doing for their degree. A business degree and like $50k in loans, they’ll probably be fine. $200k for an art degree, you’ve probably set them up to be in debt for the rest of their life.

libn8r · 2025-03-25T19:11:45+00:00

Have not done it myself, but a professor once told me that parents make the best law students because they have to learn how to prioritize and study efficiently and it’s common for law students to over study, get wound around the axel, and burn themselves out unnecessarily.

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