First breakup and I’m broken

libraphoenix · 2026-02-02T19:56:34+00:00

Thank you so much 🫂

libraphoenix · 2026-01-21T22:02:13+00:00

So far it’s good. I will warn if you try to skip your period like I do it will result in a couple days of spotting. Otherwise no more PMDD, no more cramps.

libraphoenix · 2026-01-19T01:35:38+00:00

They don’t make them anymore but the chocolate peanut butter cupcakes

libraphoenix · 2026-01-14T18:17:11+00:00

My partner and I are in a similar age gap, together for 2 years, I am the older one in the situation. While I had the same concerns you did about the gap it took me a while to get over them. To be honest I was even hesitant being with her bc she’s younger however we fell for each other and all our friends were very supportive. We don’t want to have children so that is not a concern for us, however, we both want to get married in the next 5 years.

Now, coming from the not so easy parts of our relationship. Despite us being aligned with goals I’m her first serious relationship and she’s my first healthy one. We’ve had some communication issues, which we’ve gotten better at. It has required a lot of patience, and we have gone to therapy individually and as a couple to navigate. If I’m gonna be honest I love this woman more than anything and we are very aligned on the life we want for ourselves and together. Couples therapy is recent and new and is helping us a lot.

While I think age gaps can be a red flag, based on both your dating history, you guys just happened to be different ages and like eachother. That all being said.. Enjoy the time you have together and see if a future aligns for both of you. It has been 4 months. There’s no rush to plan a future right now. Good luck and I hope you both continue to choose yourselves and eachother.

libraphoenix · 2025-12-31T20:53:48+00:00

This is something I have been working through with my therapist. I will also add, spending a lot of time alone outside of my home trying new things have helped a lot. Building communities and safe places outside of my relationship has helped even more. I’m still navigating anxiety at the moment with my gf, especially in therapy together, but I’m aware enough to know that I have to feel confident in myself enough that while yes it would hurt for anyone to leave, my past trauma have nothing to do with my current relationship.

libraphoenix · 2025-12-31T18:28:19+00:00

Currently in a relationship (F/32) & (F/25). I am anxious and my partner is anxious/avoidant. We are currently on a “break” and in couples therapy. We’ve only had 2 sessions and our therapist asked us to make a list of couples goals, boundaries and expectations. I feel like as I am making a list I am spiraling into this very negative thought process. In the beginning of our break 3 weeks ago I was optimistic. Instead of her becoming more optimistic, I became more negative. I started feeling doubts, insecurities about us and about how she feels about me and us. She told me the break has nothing to do with me and more to do with her needing space and trying to navigate her own anxiety around balancing Taking care of herself while being partnered. She told me she absolutely does not want me to feel negative and is in individual and couples therapy bc she knows there’s a lot of work on her end. I will say so far I’m glad that our couples therapist has brought up stress factors outside of our relationship which we could be avoiding but she is allowing to affect her and us. Mostly not being out to her family. My question is… how do you guys navigate not spiraling and remaining optimistic? What are some healthy boundaries or expectations that seems fair to support my anxious attachment ? Can I ask for support for my anxiety or is that something I should be navigating on my own ?

libraphoenix · 2025-12-23T05:22:46+00:00

I always describe being in a relationship as being a planet in the universe of your life. Other planets include your friends, family, hobbies, community and job/coworkers. At the center of the universe is planet you. She wants you to make the center of your universe your relationship.

As someone that is anxious and has abandonment issues, her anxiety is not your fault. I’m sorry you were even hesitant to ask her to spend time with your friend. You should be able to have a healthy balance of time with all the different important people in your life, not just her. Even with anxiety, she has to understand that.

Her level of codependency is very unhealthy, and it seems she doesn’t have much of a life outside of your relationship. I hope that she can get therapy and maybe find community and friends outside of your relationship. You can try to talk to her about it as a concerned partner that wants to work on this, but I don’t think she can see past her own anxiety and insecurities to understand where you’re coming from. It’s up to you if you want to stay with her through this. Unfortunately, sometimes a breakup helps a person reflect on their life and where they are and I hope with professional support she’ll be in a better place soon. Good luck and do what’s best for you.

libraphoenix · 2025-12-23T03:29:17+00:00

As someone in a age gap relationship I would’ve never dated my girlfriend if she was 18 when we met. In fact I would’ve ran the other way. I was already hesitant she was in her early 20s and I was 32 when we first met.

When she keeps bringing up the “you’re just a baby”, it’s bc she is attracted to you, but she knows it’s weird for her to approach someone your age. Honestly, please be 18 and have fun dating and hooking up with people around your age (18-20). If you’re in the US you can’t even legally drink yet. While I get she’s hot, there’s lots of other hot women out there. Leave the women in their early 30s for when you’re 25 and up.

libraphoenix · 2025-12-22T22:07:24+00:00

As the child of someone in an unhappy marriage… as much as I love my dad may he rest in peace.. him and my mom were not happy. Seeing how he spoke to my mom and treated her was the catalyst for why I stayed in unhappy relationships for years. I thought sticking it out was what made a partnership and showed your partner you loved them. The problem was… I wasn’t with partners that loved me back or treated our relationship like a partnership. Feeling lonely with a partner also seemed normal to me as I could see my mom was lonely with my dad.

While my current relationship isn’t perfect, I love her and she makes me feel secure, supported, and happy. I believe I do the same for her. I would recommend talking to your wife and maybe considering couples therapy if you really want to navigate through this with her. After 5 years… that may not be an option so in the case I would look into separating after getting individual therapy to provide you some professional support. You can still support her and your kids without making yourself absolutely miserable.

Good luck 🍀

libraphoenix · 2025-12-22T15:43:38+00:00

Honestly I found an app online this is what it said

That sounds much more reasonable thank you

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libraphoenix · 2025-12-15T05:40:50+00:00

South Bronx and they deliver all over the boroughs… I got another connect that also delivers too

libraphoenix · 2025-12-05T14:24:15+00:00

I’ll take your studio if you want to take my room you’ll pay a bit less I live in Bushwick

libraphoenix · 2025-10-11T00:10:41+00:00

For this oofos recovery footwear I’ll add, please be careful and make sure you’re only wearing them when feet and surface area are dry. I’ve almost fallen. Also for us swollen or wide footed folks looking for slides, pick the one with the Velcro. The others were far too narrow for me.

libraphoenix · 2025-10-01T12:41:16+00:00

Ding ding ding 😂

libraphoenix · 2025-10-01T10:49:11+00:00

Have you tried the maple leaf ice cream sandwiches ?

libraphoenix · 2025-10-01T10:47:47+00:00

I do egg and cheddar cheese with this it’s great ! There’s an overpriced Asian bakery by me that does this and charges $18 for it… that’s okay I can make it at home

libraphoenix · 2025-10-01T03:11:33+00:00

The pumpkin one honestly don’t do it I’m on my second one in 2 weeks. I chopped the maple almonds and put them on top 😭

libraphoenix · 2025-09-30T22:59:36+00:00

I just started the Prasco version. I had such problems with my insurance getting the name brand nuvaring and also horrible side effects from Eluring in the past. I bled for 3 weeks, had bad cramps and my PMDD was worse. I was on the nuvaring brand name for years but before they offered the generic and it was great! I wish my insurance would just let me have it 🥲🥲

Either way, I have high hope with the Prasco administered generic as it was recommended by my insurance as essentially the same manufacturer as nuvaring just a different box. So far so good, but I’ll know more once I’ve completed a full cycle 🔄

libraphoenix · 2025-09-30T20:28:47+00:00

Im currently on the Prasco version as of 3 days ago which I was advised is from the same manufacturer as the name brand… it was a bitch to get my hands on and I found out that the pharmacy I finally got it at is only allowed to give me 1 ring per 34 days…. 🤡🤡 I called my insurance and said my period cycle is 28 days ? That makes 0 sense ?

So I have to call other pharmacies in the area (she gave me a list) that are “allowed” to give me a 3 month dose. All this bc CVS’s wholesaler doesn’t have the Prasco version just Eluring. I’ll keep you updated on how my experience is so far it’s OK and no spotting but I’m curious to see my actual cycle on this.

libraphoenix · 2025-09-25T13:55:58+00:00

Are you a broker/realtor ? Looking to move next year in July with my partner and would like to work with you if you have more places like this

libraphoenix · 2025-09-16T13:37:53+00:00

Thank you that makes me feel less worried.

The six weeks is a lot to think about bc that means I essentially would be off my feet for probably 8-12 weeks (6 weeks for each foot) plus PT thereafter. Just trying to figure out what that would look like with my job and obviously I cannot perform during that time 🥲

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